So I'm getting my first therapy session next Tuesday. ( four days from this post ). And I'm freaking out!
What kind of questions do they ask you? What are your first therapy stories? I have no idea what to expect...
Quote from: EdekStaszek on August 02, 2013, 02:04:46 PM
So I'm getting my first therapy session next Tuesday. ( four days from this post ). And I'm freaking out!
What kind of questions do they ask you? What are your first therapy stories? I have no idea what to expect...
It comes down to being honest in therapy. Say how you feel and not what you think they want to hear. Remember its about you and not them and if they are a gender therapist they will have your best interest at heart. If you have not done so already ask the therapist if they apply the WPATH standards of care. Thats a great start if you do not already know the answer to your session.
Relax, relax and just be honest and yourself.
Izzy
Quote from: mind is quiet now on August 02, 2013, 04:03:14 PM
It comes down to being honest in therapy. Say how you feel and not what you think they want to hear. Remember its about you and not them and if they are a gender therapist they will have your best interest at heart. If you have not done so already ask the therapist if they apply the WPATH standards of care. Thats a great start if you do not already know the answer to your session.
Relax, relax and just be honest and yourself.
Izzy
Agreed.
Op, just relax and be yourself. I know it's scary, but you'll do fine. The initial shock is hardest part. Congrats on this big step and good luck. :)
My first therapy session was a "get to know you" type of session. In my case, my therapist asked me my age, if I'm MtF for FtM, am I in school and if so, what am I taking up, what are my career plans and my transition plans, how was my childhood like with my family and school. She gave me some health tips towards the end about foods to eat and foods to avoid.
Good luck!
Thanks, all. I guess I'm mostly freaked out because I'm in what I call one of my "down" Times. Here's what i mean.
At any given time, I have what I call an up time, or down time.
Up time is when I'm feeling like I have a great future as TG, usually caused by being social and realising how different I am from boys my age. Mostly at school. Which is in session in about three weeks.
Down Times are when I'm thinking "what the f*** are you thinking, life would be so hard! Look, everything is fine, isn't it?". Usually occurs when I don't experience discrimination for a period of time. Currently, is dinner break from school. So I've not interacted with other boys my age.
This may notmake sense to you. I'm not sure if it made sense to me the way I wrote it out. I'll come back later because it's to hard to type on this phone :(
Again, thanks for the input, all.
You'll be fine just go in there and be honest. I was scared to at first too but within 10 minutes that went away and you couldn't shut me up. In fact I don't think I've shut up since. :laugh:
So, Eddie, how did it go?
It's been decades since my first therapy appointment, but I seem to remember them starting with questions about family I guess to see if you have any issues there. All of my sessions since then have focused on my father because I broke out in tears when his name was brought up. I don't actually get emotional about it anymore though, although I do still get agitated. At this point, my therapist is less focused on digging and more focused on the fact that I've been in therapy so long that I need to stop beating around the bush and make a decision!
I think the being around people "down" time as you described is based on our need to be part of the group. When we get along with people of our perceived gender, we feel like we're fitting in and the gender dysphoria makes less sense. It's when that influence isn't there that things start to seem different, leading to your "up" time. In my opinion, how I feel when I'm alone is who I am. The rest is just trying to conform.
Sorry this took so long in coming. Long story short: my cousin is over, no electronics >:(
Well it went great (by the time i'm writing this i just had my 2nd session actualy)
I actually did pretty good, i think. Both times I cried. The first time was more of a getting to know you thing.
The second, It was just one on one (my mom sat outside) and it was actually easier without her there. We did this interesting activity where I take 20 seconds to draw myself as I see me. Then another 20 to how I would like to be. Both where very terrible stick people, but the main difference was in the "current" picture I had short hair & glasses, and the "later" picture, I had long hair and no glasses. Thats about it, sorry this is so breif its late and I'm not even supposto be on :/
Thanks or all the replies.
for me my therapist basically wanted to know more about me. what my childhood was like, what i like doing in my free time what i am currently doing in my life. then explain what i have a problem with. what i expect her to help me with, stuff like that.