so i want to come out to my sis
whats motivating me is that if she accepts me she might be able to
drive me to my endo : d is that selfish
idk how to explain it to her
she has suspicions i might be gay and seemed like she might accept it
but idk how shed handle me being trans
how do i explain it !
"I was born in the wrong body. I should be a girl." You'll probably be asked why, but only you know how to respond to that question. I don't think it's selfish to want her support either.
Quote from: Ravenna on August 07, 2013, 10:40:52 AM
so i want to come out to my sis
whats motivating me is that if she accepts me she might be able to
drive me to my endo : d is that selfish
idk how to explain it to her
she has suspicions i might be gay and seemed like she might accept it
but idk how shed handle me being trans
how do i explain it !
There is nothing wrong with coming out. It's good to share this with those close to you. However, I would suggest you think more deeply about your motivations. She may turn out to be supportive, but she may also be against it. I'm dependent on my family for shelter and have only found that my dependency has complicated my coming out and the beginning stages of my transition. Coming out should be done to share something intimate with another person and allow them to see you for who you are. It's okay to hope for a good and supportive result- we all want that- but you should be prepared for the possibility that they will not support your position and help you with your transition. In that case, you will need a plan on how to get to the endo without your sister's assistance.
As for explaining it, I would suggest that you just be open and honest about your feelings. I have written coming out letters and have come out in person. Both had their ups and down sides to them. The only thing I can suggest is follow what feels best in your heart and deliver the message that you want them to hear. Good luck and keep us updated. We're rooting for you. :)
If you want her support, you approach her with total honesty. Anything less is unacceptable.
Quote from: Ravenna on August 07, 2013, 10:40:52 AM
so i want to come out to my sis
whats motivating me is that if she accepts me she might be able to
drive me to my endo : d is that selfish
idk how to explain it to her
she has suspicions i might be gay and seemed like she might accept it
but idk how shed handle me being trans
how do i explain it !
We have an entire board dedicated to "Coming Out," with lots of good suggestions and strategies:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/board,29.0.html
Is your sister younger or older? My suggestion is that you talk with your therapist first (if you have one). That way, you will have a diagnosis under your belt.
Just be prepared for a bad result. I thought my sister would be the easy one to come out to, but as it turns out she is having the hardest time accepting it. She also still feels pretty hurt that it took until now for me to be able to tell her as we have always been very close. I know she's going to come around, but I was really caught off guard by her reaction. So I would go into it expecting the worst, it's a lot easier to adjust to being pleasantly surprised then it is to adjust to a disappointing reaction.