Wanted to be the first to say congratulations on your surgery, Jaded!
Now wake up and tell us all about it.
Dennis
Yeah congrats!
I am so jealous! :'(
Woohoo! Congrats :)
Hey guys, Jaded asked me to relay this message. Due to some unforseen circumstances and interference by discriminatory family members, his surgery had to be postponed. He is doing all right, staying with friends near home, but certainly could use any moral support anyone might be able to give, as this is quite the disappointment. Thanks folks,
Dean
So sorry to hear that! Poor Jaded, i bet he's well upset about it! I hope the wait isn't too long for him.
That's sick, can't people live their own lives without impeeding on others!!
Grrrrr..............
Certain types of people really tick me off. Sorry to hear about that Jaded.
We're here for ya.
Hugs,
LIT
Oh man, I'm sorry to hear that Jaded. I hope things work out for you soon.
Dennis
sorry for that... :(
Jaded I feel for you man! I hope everything gets nice a sunny again for you soon!
hi everybody thanx for the support i really do need it!
my mom and sister told my bestfriend( who was coming with me)s ultra religious parents that im trans and that were together(which were not) just a couple hours b4 we were supposed to fly out.so they made her leave ny and not see me.
i couldnt find anyone to go with me last minute they wouldnt change the name on the ticket i didnt have a ticket for a new one and no would come with me.some1 is reqired to be with you for a few day after surgery....
now i might be hospitalized for not eating .... i cant bring myself to and my pb and bsuger it way too low.
right now i feel like i was robbed of my life.im scared and it was hell to put a binder on again the next moring i thought i would never have to do that again.im angry,sad,frustrated,hurt,scared, i feel like the universe is playing some horrible trick on me.
right now im a walking zombie. ive been crying for days.looking for a place to live i cant stand seeing my mom and sisters faces
jaded
Quote from: jaded on June 15, 2007, 07:26:08 PM
hi everybody thanx for the support i really do need it!
my mom and sister told my bestfriend( who was coming with me)s ultra religious parents that im trans and that were together(which were not) just a couple hours b4 we were supposed to fly out.so they made her leave ny and not see me.
i couldnt find anyone to go with me last minute they wouldnt change the name on the ticket i didnt have a ticket for a new one and no would come with me.some1 is reqired to be with you for a few day after surgery....
now i might be hospitalized for not eating .... i cant bring myself to and my pb and bsuger it way too low.
right now i feel like i was robbed of my life.im scared and it was hell to put a binder on again the next moring i thought i would never have to do that again.im angry,sad,frustrated,hurt,scared, i feel like the universe is playing some horrible trick on me.
right now im a walking zombie. ive been crying for days.looking for a place to live i cant stand seeing my mom and sisters faces
jaded
i'm sorry you're going through this jaded. do you have a friend that can give you shelter until you're back on your feet again? a relative maybe?
oh man, that is just horrible. Nothing that I say can make it better, I hope you're able to reschedule soon.
Take care of yourself, we're here.
damn that blows bro. sorry 2 hear about it :(
Hey buddy, try hang in there. I can only imagine the hurt, frustration and disappointment you must be experiencing. Know that we're all here for you.
I'm so sorry Jaded. I can't even imagine. Not just the surgery but about your friend. Why the hell would your mom and sister do that to you! >:( That is so cold and cruel to do that right before you were scheduled for surgery! Hang in there, man.
Call me.
Wow, this must be terribly painful and disappointing. I'm so sorry.
Sometimes I've wished I'd had the same options available that today's youngsters do--i.e., to transition at an earlier age--and yet reading so many of the experiences here makes me realize that age confers a huge freedom to make personal choices that much younger people often don't have.
Hang in there, Jaded, and don't give up; you'll find a way.
Oh Jade I'm so sorry.
Do hang in there.
Things will turn for the better again.
Jillieann
thanx everyone !! i got some food in me yestrday wich is huge that means i wont need do be fed via i.v
things are eh........but im trying to hang in there.
That's it Jaded. Good for you.
Remember you will get through this and think will get better again.
Jillieann
Yeah, bro... embrace the food. I know I'd rather be fat than dead (and I guess I am... oh well). Things can only get better, right? Keep the faith, man.
D
Sounds like you're going through a really tough time, I'm so sorry to hear you're suffering.
We're all thinking of you.
MVER XXX
thanx all im feeling somewhat better .
im just sick of waiting but ill be ok .
i think
jaded
...this really sucks.
Can you contact some kind of transgender support group to send a few people to sit with you after the surgery? Got to be some kind of support for this exact situation. Not everyone has people to sit with them...people must have other kinds of surgery but not have family able to be with them. You can't be the only person on the planet who has solved this problem already.
Chunk
dunno but it makes me very sad that i dont hav any1 that would come with me.
Quote from: chunk on June 24, 2007, 02:21:23 AM
Can you contact some kind of transgender support group to send a few people to sit with you after the surgery?
I think the trouble is the travel. Members of local groups might not be able to get the time off work or have the money to travel.
It would be good if trans support groups in towns where the clinics that do GID-related surgeries are would create allied groups that do this sort of thing -- sit with the surgical patients afterwards, and perhaps put them up in spare bedrooms for a few days. I've heard of groups and individuals who provide temporary room and board for trans-youth who've run away from hateful parents, but not this sort of post surgical stuff. Obviously there's a need for it. And I am sure Jaded is not alone in not having the necessary support for that first little while after surgery.
Quote from: Doc on June 24, 2007, 02:19:31 PM
Quote from: chunk on June 24, 2007, 02:21:23 AM
Can you contact some kind of transgender support group to send a few people to sit with you after the surgery?
I think the trouble is the travel. Members of local groups might not be able to get the time off work or have the money to travel.
It would be good if trans support groups in towns where the clinics that do GID-related surgeries are would create allied groups that do this sort of thing -- sit with the surgical patients afterwards, and perhaps put them up in spare bedrooms for a few days. I've heard of groups and individuals who provide temporary room and board for trans-youth who've run away from hateful parents, but not this sort of post surgical stuff. Obviously there's a need for it. And I am sure Jaded is not alone in not having the necessary support for that first little while after surgery.
I'm with Doc on this one. It makes sense that there would be groups available in the areas of these clinics that could provide simple services like being with someone at such an important time.
Hi Jaded,
I'm sorry to hear that this happened. Normally I would say to not hold it against your mother and sister, but this time I would advocate using any anger and frustration in order to shore up your resolve to carry on.
I wish I could go with you, but I live with a wolverine who would rip my face off. :-X
Love,
Rebecca
Quote from: RebeccaFog on June 24, 2007, 02:35:28 PM
I'm with Doc on this one. It makes sense that there would be groups available in the areas of these clinics that could provide simple services like being with someone at such an important time.
It sure makes sense, but I don't think there actually are any groups like that. I've only ever heard of one thing (a large shared house known as 'Trans Hotel') that's like that at all, and I think it's closed down.
If anybody reading does live near a clinic that does GR surgeries, I hope s/he'll go to trans support groups and try to organize a sub-group to do this. It wouldn't take much, really, just enough people to cover every 'shift' of staying with the newly post-op person. You wouldn't really even need to do any major screening of clients, 'cause you could meet them first at the doctor's office and take them home only after the surgery is done. Nobody is likely to jump up off the bed after surgery and hurt you, or have surgery just to get an opportunity to abuse trans or trans-friendly folks. If the clinic was the place where all the details about contacting you were given out, and the clinic staff only gave them when a person was accepted as a good surgical candidate and was trying to schedule, it'd be a very safe project.