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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: Athena on August 11, 2013, 06:07:58 PM

Title: What do you miss
Post by: Athena on August 11, 2013, 06:07:58 PM
For those of you who have started hrt and beyond what do you miss about your old body (I think this is probably the best term for this question).

I haven't even gone to a doctor or therapist to even get started on the journey but I think that I will miss being able to take midnight walks in relative safety, having more of an alcohol tolerance or even having some upper body strength
Title: Re: What do you miss
Post by: LordKAT on August 11, 2013, 06:13:37 PM
Nothing.
Title: Re: What do you miss
Post by: E-Brennan on August 11, 2013, 06:14:37 PM
This is an extremely interesting question.  Me?  I'm still hating everything, as I'm 100% pre-transition from a physical perspective (and in fact the mental transitioning is making the male body feel even worse.)

I can't think of anything I'll miss, although I'm sure there's plenty of things I won't appreciate until they're gone.
Title: Re: What do you miss
Post by: Rachel on August 11, 2013, 06:22:13 PM
I am straight edge (no drugs, no alcohol and no smoking). I am glad to be clean.
I have a permit to carry.
Upper body strength is diminishing and it had advantages at times.

I miss nothing.

Title: Re: What do you miss
Post by: Rachel84 on August 11, 2013, 06:45:40 PM
I'm with them.  Don't miss anything.
Title: Re: What do you miss
Post by: bethany on August 11, 2013, 06:52:06 PM
On a hot July 4th I missed being able to take my shirt off. I do not own a bikini top yet; but it will be on my list of things I must have for next summer.
Title: Re: What do you miss
Post by: Amelia Pond on August 11, 2013, 07:46:31 PM
I don't miss anything yet. After SRS however, I'm sure I'll miss being able to urinate standing up, it's so convenient. Though it'll be worth the trade off. ;)

Amy
Title: Re: What do you miss
Post by: suzifrommd on August 11, 2013, 09:09:29 PM
I miss easy climaxes. Since starting HRT, as one of my GG friends puts it, it's "work".
Title: Re: What do you miss
Post by: calico on August 11, 2013, 09:49:23 PM
I'll add another nothing as well
Title: Re: What do you miss
Post by: vegie271 on August 11, 2013, 10:00:36 PM
Quote from: White Rabbit on August 11, 2013, 06:07:58 PM
For those of you who have started hrt and beyond what do you miss about your old body (I think this is probably the best term for this question).

I haven't even gone to a doctor or therapist to even get started on the journey but I think that I will miss being able to take midnight walks in relative safety, having more of an alcohol tolerance or even having some upper body strength



I am sorry - not being safe on the streets does not make me wish for my old body - it makes my angry we live in a rape culture

the cure for rape should not be don't walk after dark - it should be - teach men not to rape.

It does annoy me to have to buy special machinery to open jars & get other people to lift heavy things - but the HRT has made me cute enough that I can get away with it.

Title: Re: What do you miss
Post by: Heather on August 11, 2013, 10:15:23 PM
Nothing really I guess I don't like having my life depend on pills. But other than that I can't say I miss much because when I do think back before it almost seems like it was somebody else life not mine. I'm not that person anymore so there is nothing to miss.  ;)
Title: Re: What do you miss
Post by: Athena on August 11, 2013, 10:36:16 PM
Quote from: vegie271 on August 11, 2013, 10:00:36 PM


I am sorry - not being safe on the streets does not make me wish for my old body - it makes my angry we live in a rape culture

Sorry I didn't mean why you miss your old body just things you miss in general.

Honestly this post was more to give people who have to wait to begin their journey something to think about. Rather then focus on what they don't have they might be able to enjoy some of what they do have while they can until their life changes and they can begin their journey.
Title: Re: What do you miss
Post by: suzifrommd on August 12, 2013, 07:40:54 AM
Quote from: White Rabbit on August 11, 2013, 06:07:58 PM
I will miss being able to take midnight walks in relative safety

I know I would miss this too, if it were true. But I never felt secure in my person. I was a skinny guy, and just would not scare anyone. I have always felt vulnerable walking outside at night.
Title: Re: What do you miss
Post by: Lesley_Roberta on August 12, 2013, 08:32:32 AM
I'm still trying to 'miss' a variety of things actually.

I kick stuff to the curb, and it keeps coming back into my danged life.

Title: Re: What do you miss
Post by: ZoeM on August 12, 2013, 08:46:33 AM
Quote from: vegie271 on August 11, 2013, 10:00:36 PM


I am sorry - not being safe on the streets does not make me wish for my old body - it makes my angry we live in a rape culture

the cure for rape should not be don't walk after dark - it should be - teach men not to rape.

It does annoy me to have to buy special machinery to open jars & get other people to lift heavy things - but the HRT has made me cute enough that I can get away with it.


And let's teach people not to steal or murder while we're at it. Why, if only we gave proper moral instruction in our schools, we would live in a utopia!


Sorry for the sarcasm overload there - that particular argument rankles. It's my sincere belief that you can't 'teach away' the rape - some people are just predisposed to evil, and we have to be aware and be ready. (Although incidentally, Victorian England would be an interesting case study for whether 'chivalrous' culture actually prevents rape...


On topic: I miss pockets sometimes, and simple morning routines. Also being able to not care about my weight (horrible as the effects of such were)
Title: Re: What do you miss
Post by: Antonia J on August 12, 2013, 09:10:52 AM
Less complex romantic relationships - I miss that.
Title: Re: What do you miss
Post by: Lazarus on August 12, 2013, 10:32:43 AM
Although I'm still working progress - I don't miss anything. Nothing.

Quote from: vegie271 on August 11, 2013, 10:00:36 PM

I am sorry - not being safe on the streets does not make me wish for my old body - it makes my angry we live in a rape culture


Unfortunately I had this problem whilst being male... I guess I was born a little androgynous as nearly everyday, other people always had problems when identifying me correctly. I felt like a walking target for years and last august all my nightmares became a reality! I attempted to take the case to trial though the CPS wouldn't allow my case go to the courts; the local officials :police: put it down to "social racism" because the rapist was a mid-eastern male.
Title: Re: What do you miss
Post by: Beth Andrea on August 12, 2013, 11:20:20 AM
Nothing. Not a single thing.

Title: Re: What do you miss
Post by: Maya Zimmerman on August 12, 2013, 11:28:39 AM
I kind of miss the energy of testosterone.  Oddly, though I consider climax no more work (and significantly more enjoyable), walking up the stairs every day is much more strenuous, not due to lack of muscle, but lack of energy.  Still, it's good in its own way because I have to kind of cheer myself on when I'm exerting energy like that and that's probably good for my mental health in itself.

As for pockets, I would miss them, but I have made sure a lot of my outfits involve pockets somewhere.  Because pockets are awesome.
Title: Re: What do you miss
Post by: Joanna Dark on August 12, 2013, 11:37:06 AM
I've never been happier. I don't miss a thing. I can't get SRS fast enough.
Title: Re: What do you miss
Post by: Carrie Liz on August 12, 2013, 11:41:24 AM
NOTHING. OMFG, absolutely NOTHING. I hated every single minute of what testosterone did to me, and I never want that poisonous crap back in my body.

The only thing I come even remotely close to missing is the upper body strength. (I swear, a 20-lb box of cat litter feels as heavy to me now as a 60-lb box of computer paper used to.) But then every time I come close to missing it, I look in the mirror and see how feminine in appearance my arms and shoulders are becoming, and then I quickly stop missing it because it's not worth putting up with that hideous bulky look just to have it.

If you want a list of things that I don't miss whatsoever, though, and things that I love WAY better on estrogen, I could write a freaking essay on the topic.