So I'm posting this on literally my first day of actually trying out a girly look. I've felt like a girl for a long time, but I'm worried that if I'm not pretty enough, I won't get the support I would need... Anyway, here I am. (this is the first time I've worn real makeup... js).
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2F31.media.tumblr.com%2F97eda60428ee97e079a8c433a69221a5%2Ftumblr_mry2auiDQi1se9pgxo1_500.jpg&hash=a0638916dbd7610ae641851f65fb2327c106654a)
So should I keep going?
Welcome to Susan's.
Should I keep going? That's hardly a question you should ask, looks doesn't really enter into the equation. If you are a woman you have no option but to keep going for your own sake.
Its not an easy road, but you need to be true to yourself.
I dunno. I think if you tried really hard you could maybe pass...
as a guy.
Ditto what Alice said.
Forget about what we think as we could never answer this. Do you think you should keep going? Why or why not? Hopefully that will answer your own question and help you get closer to your path. Good luck! :)
Quote from: Alice In Genderland on August 22, 2013, 01:28:26 PM
You're really beautiful. Like are you joking?
Wow thank you so much! ^_^ That's my first compliment! (overreacting sry ._.)
Quote from: Sarah Louise on August 22, 2013, 01:35:53 PM
Welcome to Susan's.
Should I keep going? That's hardly a question you should ask, looks doesn't really enter into the equation. If you are a woman you have no option but to keep going for your own sake.
Its not an easy road, but you need to be true to yourself.
I'm aware of this... but as ashamed I am to say it, If I didn't pass I just... Well you know I'm still in High School, albeit my senior year, and my self-esteem is low enough to begin with.. But according to at least someone, I do look good, so maybe I'm the way I am for a reason. :)
Quote from: musicofthenight on August 22, 2013, 01:39:31 PM
I dunno. I think if you tried really hard you could maybe pass...
as a guy.
Ditto what Alice said.
Thanks so much. ^_^
You are beautiful.
Welcome to Susan's Place. We are here to help and support each other.
Only you can answer if. You are young and the results from HRT would be most likely amazing.
You should contact a gender therapist to help you sort out your thoughts and feelings. You may have access to a school counselor that may help too. Good luck, hugs.
Jessie asks if she should keep going hehe.
Why not, it's not like you look as bad as me :)
You canvas looks a lot better than I think you realize Jessie.
Quote from: Cynthia Michelle on August 22, 2013, 07:38:28 PM
You are beautiful.
Welcome to Susan's Place. We are here to help and support each other.
Only you can answer if. You are young and the results from HRT would be most likely amazing.
You should contact a gender therapist to help you sort out your thoughts and feelings. You may have access to a school counselor that may help too. Good luck, hugs.
Thanks alot for caring. :) But I live in a conservative place and go to a school where "boys" aren't even allowed to wear ear rings. Then there's my family. X_X I best wait until I'm independent. :(
Holy hell. You're lovely. How are you questioning this? O.O
At work, when we see an attractive chick, we yell 'purple' (im a mechanic, we get to yell) and you definitely would draw such attention.
Jessie I will say what I would say to anyone that clearly is young enough they are still under their parents thumb.
You have the rest of your life ahead of you. Look forward to it.
Here I am at 51, and I simply don't have that pleasure.
People are often saying 'I have known since I was little' and maybe that makes it seem hard to bear the weight.
I was not granted that opportunity though and suffered a life of just not understanding why I never seemed to fit in. Oh if I could have all the opportunities still yet to come for you though.
Yes, when you are a teenager, it seems like everything takes forever. Trust me on this one, your teen years will be gone before you know it. You won't be under the thumb of your parents forever. You have all the rest of your life to look forward to, and you can live it anyway you please.
Quote from: Jessie on August 22, 2013, 01:10:08 PM
So should I keep going?
In a word: Yes.
I'm 32 years old. I always felt out of place, like something was wrong, and like I didn't want to be a guy, and wanted to be a woman since I was very young. Unfortunately due to a lack of education, I didn't realize that that feeling meant I was transgender until 3 years ago. I spent about 2 and a half years panicking and trying to find a way to not be trans, 5 months trying to finally do serious research, then in may I very nearly killed myself because I couldn't handle the stress of it anymore. When I couldn't do it, I wound up seeing a therapist only very recently, over the last 3 months. I only came out to my wife last week on Friday.
...If I knew what you know now at your age, I would definitely have done this earlier in life. Even if you can't transition yet, there's some things you can do while you work on finishing your education and becoming independent. Do your research. give this some more thought. Decide what you want. Then, go for it. It's not worth living your life feeling unhappy, depressed, and out of place and trying to be someone you're not just to make others happy. It's really not.
Quote from: TheLance on August 22, 2013, 09:27:50 PM
Holy hell. You're lovely. How are you questioning this? O.O
At work, when we see an attractive chick, we yell 'purple' (im a mechanic, we get to yell) and you definitely would draw such attention.
Oh gosh I'm absolutely flattered. :icon_redface: thank you.
Quote from: Lesley_Roberta on August 22, 2013, 09:32:34 PM
Jessie I will say what I would say to anyone that clearly is young enough they are still under their parents thumb.
You have the rest of your life ahead of you. Look forward to it.
Here I am at 51, and I simply don't have that pleasure.
People are often saying 'I have known since I was little' and maybe that makes it seem hard to bear the weight.
I was not granted that opportunity though and suffered a life of just not understanding why I never seemed to fit in. Oh if I could have all the opportunities still yet to come for you though.
Yes, when you are a teenager, it seems like everything takes forever. Trust me on this one, your teen years will be gone before you know it. You won't be under the thumb of your parents forever. You have all the rest of your life to look forward to, and you can live it anyway you please.
I'm so sorry. :( Nobody should have to deal with things like that. I personally owe it to my best friend, who is a very outspoken member of the LGBT community, and filled me in with all the details of gender dysphoria and the like. It didn't make sense to me at first, but one day it just clicked. I hadn't really thought about where my life would take me if I never found out, but I'm glad I have while still a teen. Thanks so much for the support. ^_^
Quote from: Amy The Bookworm on August 23, 2013, 12:45:23 AM
In a word: Yes.
I'm 32 years old. I always felt out of place, like something was wrong, and like I didn't want to be a guy, and wanted to be a woman since I was very young. Unfortunately due to a lack of education, I didn't realize that that feeling meant I was transgender until 3 years ago. I spent about 2 and a half years panicking and trying to find a way to not be trans, 5 months trying to finally do serious research, then in may I very nearly killed myself because I couldn't handle the stress of it anymore. When I couldn't do it, I wound up seeing a therapist only very recently, over the last 3 months. I only came out to my wife last week on Friday.
...If I knew what you know now at your age, I would definitely have done this earlier in life. Even if you can't transition yet, there's some things you can do while you work on finishing your education and becoming independent. Do your research. give this some more thought. Decide what you want. Then, go for it. It's not worth living your life feeling unhappy, depressed, and out of place and trying to be someone you're not just to make others happy. It's really not.
Well happy one week anniversary to that, I suppose. :) It's not fair that you didn't learn who you were for so long... But I hope and believe you do still have a good amount of time to thoroughly enjoy it. As I'm reading these stories, I'm really appreciating my situation. Thanks. I can't say it enough.
You look great. If its how you feel Then you dont have much chice. You either do it to make yourself feel right about yourself or you struggle to live a life thats not you. :angel:
Quote from: Jessie on August 23, 2013, 07:41:11 AM
Oh gosh I'm absolutely flattered. :icon_redface: thank you.
Very welcome
Never let anything stop you from achieving what you need to achieve in life. You might not be able to get there right now due to your current circumstances, but the time will come when you'll be able to spread your wings and do whatever you need to do.
You mentioned in another thread that you live in a rural area where it's unlikely you'll get the support you need. Well... unless there's a force-field around your town, you'll eventually be free to leave and find more supportive people. ;)
You're already very pretty, with plenty of potential. Besides which, there are loads of cisgendered women who are a lot less good-looking than you and it doesn't stop them from being women, does it?
So don't worry. Just be yourself. After all, nobody else is going to do it for you. ;)
Quote from: FTMDiaries on August 23, 2013, 09:06:13 AM
You're already very pretty, with plenty of potential. Besides which, there are loads of cisgendered women who are a lot less good-looking than you and it doesn't stop them from being women, does it?
So don't worry. Just be yourself. After all, nobody else is going to do it for you. ;)
I do think you're right. Maybe my thoughts aren't perfectly where they should be all the time, but I just personally have always wanted to be pretty. That's where a part of my femininity comes from. Maybe it's because I'm an artist I just love to put details into things, so makeup and complex outfits fascinate me. It also helps give me the confidence I need to complete my transition.