Sunday, I celebrated 90 days sober, also 90 dyas I severed all ties with almost evryone I hung out with because they all used. So I began trying to build a new life, new friends, etc, stripped of the self-medication of alcohol and drugs, I had no confidence in myself, no self-esteem, I wallowed in self-pity, I went to AA meetings and just sat there and listened, then I was surprised that no one came up and talked to me after the meetings. Anyway, I finally decided to speak up in the meetings and be more pro-active in meeting people, then all of the sudden, at the women's only groups, everybody starts talking to me, asking me for my number, asking me out to dinner, tonight four of us went to dinner, two of us celebrating AA birthdays, all thes, the other three were much younger, I never had so much fun at dinner before, we all acted goofy and giddy, kinda like we were drunk, really amazing.
Whereas, a couple weeks ago, I had virtually no one to even talk to, now I have a phone list of over 40 women who want to get to know me. And more invitations to go out than I can accept.
Three weeks from now I will be in Tokyo on my way to Phuket for my SRS/BA. So I guess it will only keep getting better!
I am so happy for you, Melissa!! I used and boozed too; and I got sober. I was amazed at the amount of fun I could have sober. What a concept javascript:void(0);
I wish you all the best in everything.
-Barb
That's great, Melissa. I hope things continue to work out the best for you.
Wow, congratulations Melissa! You're a very courageous and amazing woman... it can't be easy to turn one's life around as wonderously as you have. Bravo!
~Kate~
What is sooooooooo wonderful is that I get to go to all these women's meetings, it's like I feel it is a blessing to be a recovering alcoholic, I mean how many of us get to share on a daily basis our most innermost feelings with groups of other women? Ya know, what really turned me around is coming out about my trans issues, which meant outing myself as trans, but i found it is impossible to speak about my day to day struggles without speaking of my gender issues.
What was the reaction when you outed yourself, I would bet they had no idea...... Congratulations 90+
Congratualations Melissa on your 90 days.
Quote from: Cindy Smith on June 19, 2007, 01:47:32 PM
What was the reaction when you outed yourself, I would bet they had no idea...... Congratulations 90+
I don't look for reactions when I pour my guts out, I do get the feeling that even though I have shared directly and indirectly about my gender, there are still some women in my groups who think I am a GG. But who cares?
I know that there are an awful lot of people who like me for being me, hey, some maybe they like me because I am trans, who knows, I am trying to get past the point of obsessing over this, what matters is that I am building friendships and building my self-esteem and letting go of my ego.
Quote from: melissa90299 on June 19, 2007, 03:15:25 AM
Sunday, I celebrated 90 days sober, also 90 dyas I severed all ties with almost evryone I hung out with because they all used. So I began trying to build a new life, new friends, etc, stripped of the self-medication of alcohol and drugs, I had no confidence in myself, no self-esteem, I wallowed in self-pity, I went to AA meetings and just sat there and listened, then I was surprised that no one came up and talked to me after the meetings. Anyway, I finally decided to speak up in the meetings and be more pro-active in meeting people, then all of the sudden, at the women's only groups, everybody starts talking to me, asking me for my number, asking me out to dinner, tonight four of us went to dinner, two of us celebrating AA birthdays, all thes, the other three were much younger, I never had so much fun at dinner before, we all acted goofy and giddy, kinda like we were drunk, really amazing.
Whereas, a couple weeks ago, I had virtually no one to even talk to, now I have a phone list of over 40 women who want to get to know me. And more invitations to go out than I can accept.
Three weeks from now I will be in Tokyo on my way to Phuket for my SRS/BA. So I guess it will only keep getting better!
That's wonderful, Melissa. Congratulations. I'm very happy for you. You hang in there, OK? :)
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Thanks everyone, what is truly amazing is that I will have my SRS scheduled and completed within the first 120 days of sobriety!