I recently got back into contact with this straight girl I know were both in highschool still I'm a Jr she's a senoir, She's very nice about me being trans and is very accepting although she's still trying to understand me, Were friends though I have her number we text quite often, The problem is she makes it known that she's straight, Well I mean maybe I'm just intimidated by other guys, I havent sart T yet but I pass fairly well, But what do I do I'm really attracted to her she's beautiful funny and just has a good personality, Im taking things slow, I feel like I'm not gone be able to get her but at the same time I want to try
Brandon, we've had other guys here around your age who've been in relationships with straight girls. You have a chance, just have some confidence in yourself, act natural, and ask her out on a date. :)
Well we are already planning to hang out before school starts, She's still trying to get around the whole idenity thing, But other than that she's slowly getting it and wants to understand me
Quote from: Brandon on August 30, 2013, 08:31:24 PM
Well we are already planning to hang out before school starts, She's still trying to get around the whole idenity thing, But other than that she's slowly getting it and wants to understand me
If she accepts that you are male even though you are female bodied . Yes you have a chance. I think the main thing with cis girls is that they have a hard time understanding that they are not lesbian or bisexual if they date a tran* man. But I mean I would only go for it if you know she accepts you as the male you are. I know you really like her and that makes it harder but you don't want to get in a situation where she doesn't respect you and how you feel.
I have only dated straight girls. I am in a LTR with a straight woman which is lovely! So I am here to tell you it is 100% possible . Good luck brotatoe!
Thats whats up Im going to see what happens with me and her
Quote from: thatboyfresh on August 31, 2013, 02:42:38 PM
If she accepts that you are male even though you are female bodied . Yes you have a chance. I think the main thing with cis girls is that they have a hard time understanding that they are not lesbian or bisexual if they date a tran* man. But I mean I would only go for it if you know she accepts you as the male you are. I know you really like her and that makes it harder but you don't want to get in a situation where she doesn't respect you and how you feel.
I have only dated straight girls. I am in a LTR with a straight woman which is lovely! So I am here to tell you it is 100% possible . Good luck brotatoe!
By the way she does respect how I feel, Its just getting her to understand that I really am a guy
Quote from: Brandon on August 31, 2013, 05:33:36 PM
By the way she does respect how I feel, Its just getting her to understand that I really am a guy
That is kind of what I meant. Even if she respects that you see yourself ( and are ) a male doesn't mean that she will share that same point of view. Even though she respects your feelings she might not ever be able to view you as a man. Especially if she knew you when you presented as female first. Some people can not get passed that first impression of knowing you ( I've had this happen to me ).All the woman I dated met me when I presented and fully passed as a man and then later found out I was trans. Just be careful to not get your feelings hurt and understand that not every one will view you as you want to be seen.
Quote from: thatboyfresh on August 31, 2013, 07:31:19 PM
That is kind of what I meant. Even if she respects that you see yourself ( and are ) a male doesn't mean that she will share that same point of view. Even though she respects your feelings she might not ever be able to view you as a man. Especially because if knew you when you presented as female first. All the woman I dated met me when I presented and fully passed as a man and then later found out I was trans. Just be careful to not get your feelings hurt and understand that every one wont view you as you want to be seen.
Well I just know came out to her as trans, And the other day while we were texting she old me she's trying to understand me, She only met me twice which was at a talent show and at my grandmas modeling agency, Were suppose to be hanging out
If she's being obvious about making it known that she's straight, that might be a sign to back off tbh or at least not get your hopes up. It sounds like she's accepting of who you are and that a friendship may be possible, but if I'm reading your post right and she's making a thing of stating she's straight - she's essentially trying to push you away. It's never hopeless, but sometimes you just gotta pick your battles, and the let down might not be worth it if the signs are there that she's not open to a relationship beyond friends.
No I meant that, Like when on twitter, Not to me but like talks abour guys and how good they may look, But she told me she's straight, You misread my post, We havent even hung out yet, And the only reason sh said she was straight to me was because I told her I don't have a gf and that they sometimes react bad, And she said that sh doesnt have a bf and that shes straight
If you put it THAT way it almost sounds like an 'invitation' to me, lol :P
You could just try to figure out how she thinks about you (in; does she see you as a man) by asking a few questions.
When you two met, did you introduce yourself as male or female? As when you did the latter she might have a harder time understanding you ARE a man, I think.
I agree with the whole who did you introduce yourself as. My ex girlfriend is straight and when I was introduced to her, I introduced myself as a man and once she called me by a female pronoun when she found out I was trans but then my friend who was her best friend explained to her and she started flirting with me more and more and when I asked her out she said no but then a couple of days later, she told me that she changed her mind and that I seemed like a good person and she liked me so she changed her answer to yes and her and I started dating. But be cautious if she ever says she's straight and puts emphasis on it. She might not be able to fully understand that you're a man and she might think she's bi. I know a lot of girls like that. They understand to an extent but still think they'd be bi if they started a relationship. If I were you, I'd give it some time and see if she sees you for who you really are. If she uses a female pronoun and then corrects herself with a male pronoun when talking about you then she doesn't fully understand it and sees you as boy but a girl at the same time. If she automatically uses male pronouns, doesn't hesitate and she says it naturally then she understands and sees you as a male. But definitely go for it if she shows signs she likes you and accepts you.
No she doesnt put emphazise on being straight, The only reason she told me she was straight was because I told her that I don't have a gf and she said I'm straight and don't have a bf, And I couldn't entroduce myself as male because my mom was around plus when we were both at the talent show If I don't remember correctly they called me by my female name, But I already told her my guy name, The only thing I didn't do was explain to her I am a man but she understood that both sexes think differently so she knows I have a male brain, She rarely talks about being staight to me, She only mentioned it once
sounds like she's open to the idea. when she says she's straight and doesn't have a boyfriend, i pretty much translate that as "i'm here, ask me out if you're a real man". you can be a real man even if you don't have the "right" parts.
try getting to know her without talking too much about you being trans. see if she naturally reads you as male when she isn't reminded that you're "really a girl".
Know that I think about it did sound like that lol, I can do that