What are your affirmations? Here's a selection of the ones I've written:
- I am a strong woman.
- I will be a successful, beautiful woman
- I will accomplish my tasks of transition, keeping my family close, and being successful at work.
- What people say about me doesn't matter.
- I will break down the walls I built over the last 20+ years; it will make me stronger.
- I will embrace those I love and share myself with them.
- I will teach people to tolerate and accept those who are different.
- I will love life and life it fully.
In my former life it didn't seem to matter what I tried to tell myself. All I really heard was "I'm a stupid failure". I don't really use affirmations, but I realised a little while back that the one that rang most true was "I'm a good girl". No idea where that came from.
The only one I'm trying on now is "I'm a pretty woman". Being attractive has a lot more to do with self worth and confidence than with physical features, so I do feel I can get away with it. Anyone who wants to add "for your age" had better not let me hear them!
I am smart.
I am talented.
I make work that people want to read.
I am clever and dedicated enough to run a business.
I will pay off my school debt without going bankrupt.
I have friends that care about me, and many more I just haven't met yet.
I will be brave enough to cut toxic people from my life if I need to.
I will transition inasmuch as I legally and physically can.
I will be out someday, and I will have the strength to publicly support the rights of nonbinaries.
I am just as lovable and adorable when I bind.
I will finish my comic in less than 3 years.
Only one I have been saying to my self is.
"I can do it!"
I tried them in the past, but after a couple times, I just ended up being so negative towards myself that I gave it up. Better not to tell myself much of anything than mean stuff. Although occasionally, I do throw a "oh, maybe you're not all that ugly" at myself in the mirror. Not healthy, but then it could be worse.
Nothing can stop me! Muahahahaha!
1. I am too good at faking being a guy clearly :)
2. I am ok being female.
3. It is ok to like all of my past preferences, they don't contradict my being female.
4. I am educated enough to know the truth.
5. I am surrounded by scores and scores of cis females that don't look half as good as me.
6. I am a person, not a reproductive process.
Quote from: Lesley_Roberta on September 09, 2013, 09:52:37 AM
5. I am surrounded by scores and scores of cis females that don't look half as good as me.
Right! Ignore the ones who look better. I'm not going to win a beauty contest and perhaps you aren't either, but we are doing fine.
i'll become the coolest teacher ever.
i'll make a difference to my society.
i'll never give up my fight (right?) to be me.
Quote from: MaryXYX on September 08, 2013, 09:16:06 AM
The only one I'm trying on now is "I'm a pretty woman". Being attractive has a lot more to do with self worth and confidence than with physical features, so I do feel I can get away with it. Anyone who wants to add "for your age" had better not let me hear them!
i'd rather call you beautiful if i may. beauty is timeless, and i know women whose beauty never diminished even though old age. you could well be one of them.
and those beauty contests are overrated, nothing to do with real beauty. who knows what those girls will look like in ten or twenty years.
I gave up on all the specifics years ago, now its just "I'm me, just take it or leave it and whatever else follows I'll deal with when it comes."
Quote from: Taka on September 09, 2013, 12:06:20 PM
i'd rather call you beautiful if i may. beauty is timeless, and i know women whose beauty never diminished even though old age. you could well be one of them.
and those beauty contests are overrated, nothing to do with real beauty. who knows what those girls will look like in ten or twenty years.
Thank you Taka. I do believe beauty comes from within, and I do now have the confidence in who I am that will let it shine out. We can all gain that confidence when we are true to ourselves.