>:(sorry for the rants but i had to get something off my chest. when i came out to my family as ftm they were down with it, they said, they "said" they supported me, but i still had to follow their "rules" surrounding my life and how i live it. on the flip side, my fiance's family is totally against any mtf within their home, turning her away if she ever came presenting as female. now what i dont understand is that unfortunately in a weird way, our families share similar insights as to who gets to make what decision about how we live OUR lives. my fiance is 43 yrs old, im 27, two adults, right? so why is it that we have to conform to this bull#### that our families make us out to be little kids who don't know what were doing. when did they become buddah, god, whatever>? i just want to know how other people's families treat them as they transition, because its hard enough to transition in the first place and we really dont need crap from family too? you guys know what i mean? anyways, this just bites me in the a$$ because we are who we are and its not going to change. i will end on a happier note. me and my fiance are hugely in love and accept each other for who we are and we dont really care what others think for the most part and thats the way it should be, i think anyways. so much love to everyone and i hope my rant made some logical sense. comment if you like., ciao. BB. :icon_chainsaw:
Brody,
Excuse my trespass on this forum, but I feel constrained to submit a supportive advice comment that I posted elsewhere that will no doubt be missed by most but is germane to this very matter that affects everyone.
What you are experiencing is about the saying "Familiarity Breeds Contempt!" It's almost an absolute when it comes to close friends and especially family members who have always known you as (Mr or Ms X) and suddenly you flip genders in front of their astounded eyes, they mentally refuse to accept it in spite of what they say. A good example of this phenomena is the the case of Spanx inventor Sara Blakely. All of her friends and especially family members said that her product was a joke and that it would never go anywhere, they did all they could in their power to dissuade her from wasting any further time and money on her idea. She ignored them and forged ahead and is now one of the most successful women in the clothing industry and has become a multi-millionaire. They were all convinced that she was going to be a total flop because they knew her as just Sara and couldn't mentally and emotionally buy into her idea and swore that she would be a total abject failure. This is potentially what everyone is up against when they transition, but like Sara don't ever allow the "Nabobs of Negativity" to pull you down by ripping and tearing at the fabric of your dreams.
just to be clear me and my girl do live together I'm not with my parents, but ur right, my life, my body. my family has abandoned me but I got me and my fiance and a tiny bit of sanity left. thats good for me. I don't live by others words and demands, im my own person. but thank u. much love. brody.
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