Ok, so here's the story -- it's been almost a year since I truly came out to myself and my then girlfriend (now wife). Since then I began seeing a very good gender therapist (who I absolutely love and adore), but my wife has been dealing with this on her own as we've been waiting for my therapist to line up some time for some one-on-one assistance for her (she's not interested in participating in a group as a first step and I don't blame her). He expects to make arrangements for my wife shortly. I really feel like I've made lots of progress over the past year just in dealing with being transexual and having open conversations with my wife. My therapist has caught on that I've kind of slammed on the brakes and slid things back a bit and doesn't seem too thrilled, but it's just the place I feel like I need to be in right now. So, I guess here's my question. Isn't it kind of ok to sit on the plateau for a while and just kind of be ok with things as they are and me as I am today and NOT have to make any more decisions about what tomorrow's next steps are, especially in light of the fact that my wife has been dealing with this on her own? I'm having a hard time dealing with balancing out my own needs while trying to be courteous, kind and thoughtful to my loving, caring, supporting and amazing partner. Your thoughts, ideas and opinions would be much appreciated.
Xoxo,
Terri
Terri, it's your life. If you feel you need to just chill for a little to let your wife catch up, then that is what you need to do. You are the only person who is going to know what you need to do. Just follow your heart.
Quote from: Darkie on September 13, 2013, 10:16:08 AM
Terri, it's your life. If you feel you need to just chill for a little to let your wife catch up, then that is what you need to do. You are the only person who is going to know what you need to do. Just follow your heart.
The statement above is absolutely correct.
Waiting a little while, if you can, to allow your wife time to sort out things could significantly reduce stress later on. One thing my therapist recommended which may help you was that I get my wife into a different therapist who knows gender issues as it could be less intimidating.