Hey all. I was just posting because I have just started my transition like 2 months ago and I need some good advice about binders, 'T', dressing, washrooms, name change ect., so a friend in need is a friend indeed. I just want to look as manly as possible, come across as male instead of being called dear or ma'am, its not pleasant for me. so any suggestions would be GREAT, i'm all ears so shoot me down alright. thanks guys. peace. :icon_suspicious:
binders, - There is a section for that called "FTM gear" I used an underworks 997
'T', - You need a counselor/psychologist to prescribe this
dressing - Depends on soo many factors (ches size and body shape being two important ones) but i would be sure to have my clothes tailored if you can afford to. Where patterns across your chest to comoflogue what's underneath. Try for a sophisticated look as opposed to a young guy look.
washrooms - As long as you somewhat resemble a guy and dont go in hoping to strike up conversation or really even look at anyone else.
name change - I think this varies depending on your location in the states you need a court order. I did this step before I did anything else because it was easy.
I just want to look as manly as possible - Dress professionally and act as calm as possible. One really helpful thing you can do is hang out with more males.
Good luck
Have you already started trying to pick a name, or you have you settled on Brody? It can take awhile, and you will probably cycle through several until you find one you can live with.
For T - it really depends on where you live almost entirely. You may need to start off with the process that is in place in the health care system for wherever you live.
For a first binder, the FTM section of Underworks is pretty much the gold standard for trans guys new to binding - the 997 and 983 work well. If you want a short sports bra sized binder, get the tri-top 983. If you want compression all the way down, go for the 997.
Chuck is right - wear pants and shirts that fit well. Even if you just wear jeans all the time and don't want to spend money on tailoring. Layer clothing. A collared shirt with a light jacket (nice hooded sweatshirts with zippers, people of all ages wear them here) or sweater is my standard attire. Binders work well, but if your chest is larger there will still be a small rise.
Bathrooms - keep your head down and duck into a stall. If all stalls are occupied, wash your hands and see if someone leaves. If one is still not empty, don't linger. Go back later. This was advice I read from someone else, and it makes sense.