Is there any story to your girl's name? do you pick it by yourself? how many times do you change name before you find the perfect one?
I just find my perfect name that suits me well. It was emma before, but it is too western for me.. now it's alisha, i like it very much and it fits well with my last name.
Easy enough for me. Christopher is my birth name and growing up many of the other kids in my class would pick on me and call me Christine or Christina. So in addition to it being nice to keep my nick name, Chris, I am so going to own Christine as a name. Most of my surviving former class mates live in my area now so it should be a nice shocker for them here in Conservative Bible Thumping Town USA. ;)
I was Cindy from when I identified a name. It caused a certain amount of angst so I hear, I was a child and boys were not called Cindy. Particularly in kindie when asked by the teacher! So I was told.
On reflection with all I now know, my parents went through Hell with no support, nowhere to go for advice, no one to ask.
My love for my parents increases as I understand their predicament.
I spent quite a while pondering names with the same first letter (I was Paul), but nothing really resonated with me.
I was watching Firefly and saw in front of me a cute, geeky, brunette (the reds new!) tomboy that was technically skilled, exactly the image I wanted to present :-)
Didn't bother with replacing my old middle name (Brian), no one ever uses those things anyway, it's just extra stuff when you're filling in forms!
(if you don't get the Firefly reference, go now, watch and be merry!
I guess I was lucky in that regard.
A new girl moved into the neighbourhood when I was about 3 or 4 - don't remember my age but it was before starting school - and I thought her name was the prettiest name I had ever heard so I adopted it for myself and never considered changing it. After 60 years I have become quite attached to it :D
Keeping the same initial makes some things easier but I didn't. I just knew that my name was Mary. Don't tell the shrinks! That could be too much of an "interesting case" for them.
I've always been drawn to names starting with the first 4 letters of the alphabet for some reason. All of my names, the many different chosen first and middle, given first and middle, and family fit into those criteria. I went with Casey for my androgynous name because it is a pretty unisex name and there was a girl I had a crush on with the name. Alice is my girl name, from Alice in Wonderland. Danielle is just a female version of my middle name. I've also gone with Cordelia (from King Lear) as a middle name and Desiree (another girl I had a crush on) as a first name.
Was I born as a girl, I would have been named Emily :)
After coming out to my mom, I asked her what she would have named me if I was born a girl.
when i was small, me and my dad saw a bunch of katydids on the screen door. he then related to me an anecdote stating that if I had been female, I would have been named Katherine, at least partially so he could make a silly joke whenever I got in trouble; i.e., "who took the last cookie? Katie did!"
I rather did like that name, and that moment stuck with me, even from before i realized i AM a girl. so for a long time I've been Katie to myself.
my boyfriend's having a lot more trouble deciding, though. there's a nice list of boy names he's thinking about, but i think he's a little uncomfortable yet, even trying one out for a day.
Mine was easy, as a boy "frank" so Francis Ann seemed so normal. I love receiving magazines such as cosmo addressed to Ms. Francis Ann ......
I was named William after my grandfather when I was born, middle name Ernest, but was always called BJ for Billy junior (my dads name was Billy). There is no feminine version of William that I liked, so I went with Bijou as a form of BJ. I'll also be changing my middle name to Elaine.
I really liked the name Zoe from when i first heard it and its nothing like my male name, which is what i want as i want to get away from my male persona totally. I could have gone for the easy option and have named myself Michelle, but i don't like that name!!!! I just think Zoe is a really pretty name!!
i used to have Paige as my middle name! but a couple of years ago i changed it to Louise, i just think that it sounds right, goes well with Zoe, and its also quite a pretty name!! :)
i don't have a clue why i chose Taylor for my Surname!!! i suppose its just a common name, which actual last name isn't!!!!
It's really weird how i chose my name, as Zoe is the only girls name i've ever gone by and i really do feel that i am Zoe Louise Taylor, it just feels right and i can't wait to see it on my official documents and stuff! :)
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Quote from: Zoe Louise Taylor on September 16, 2013, 01:18:39 PM
i don't have a clue why i chose Taylor for my Surname!!! i suppose its just a common name, which actual last name isn't!!!!
My surname is quite rare. Like there are two in the county - me and my ex-wife. When I did the TV interview about the need for the "gay Pride" events somebody got them to censor my surname. Must have been my ex.
I've always just done variations on my birth name, Charlie.
Back in high school when I first started experimenting with alternate personas, I called my female self Cheryl, (based on the story of a famous intersexual from the "nature versus nurture" infant-gender-assignment case that I saw on PBS once,) but I never really liked that name very much. To me, I couldn't separate that name from the image of a 40-year-old woman with too much makeup on for some reason. I wanted something that sounded younger and cuter.
People always teased me by calling me "Charlene," so that was out of the question from day 1.
I asked my mom what my name would have been if I was born a girl, and she says that it would have been Sarah Elizabeth [Last Name], after my two grandmothers. And she would have called me "Liz" as a nickname, because she liked the name Elizabeth. I agreed with her on that one, but never really liked the name Sarah. Probably because to me the image of "Sarah" was very "plain and tall." And again, I wanted something younger and cuter.
Next I considered "Charlotte," but for some reason it just didn't feel like me. It felt too much like a certain E.B. White book character, and yet again, I couldn't separate the name from that image, and thus couldn't picture it being used on me.
Then finally, the name "Carrie" came to me. I don't really remember how it did. I just know that it was another variation of "Charlie." And to me, it sounded cute, it sounded young, and for some reason it just clicked. So I started calling my female self "Carrie," and I liked it, so I've stuck with that name ever since.
When it finally came time to seriously consider that I'd possibly be changing my name in real life, I assumed that I was just going to go with "Carrie" legally. But then I had this odd dream one night where this middle-aged woman that I had never met before was offering me emotional support in a semi-condescending manner, and addressed me as "Caroline, dear,". At first I didn't think anything of it, but then the idea of Carrie being a nickname for Caroline grew and grew on me, because it would be kind of like the same thing that the name "Charlie" always was for me even though my legal name was "Charles." And while I still haven't completely decided on this, I think I'm pretty sure now that I'm going to go ahead with using Caroline as my official legal name, and go by Carrie. And since I also really like the name "Elizabeth," which was my maternal grandmother's name, (and my mom always tells me that I have her mother's eyes, so I think it's appropriate,) I believe that I'm legally going to go with Caroline Elizabeth [Last Name]. I REALLY like the way that name sounds. And of course, it's this name that gives me my username, Carrie Liz.
I've been trying to decide on one for quite awhile now. So far, I kind of like Rachel Valerie. Valerie being my middle name. For me it rolls off the tongue. But I guess my sister hates a girl named Rachel and so she doesn't want me to have the same name. I'm thinking about going ahead with it, and just talk to my sister and tell her we may have the same name but we're not the same person. I've also thought about Skyler, a name closer to my male name. It's kinda hard to pick one for me. Cause, I want it to be similar to the name I have to make it easier for people, but I also don't want it to be an obvious change.
From a long time ago I always thought that if I ever had a daughter I'd name her Abigail. I don't know why exactly, I don't know anybody named Abigail or have any connection to the name but I always thought it was a really pretty name and also fairly unique without being too "out there" or anything. So when I came out I figured I would take it for myself, future daughter be damned. :P It may be a bit old-fashioned but I changed my last name as well to something that flows well and I love it. :D
Quote from: Tyler92 on September 16, 2013, 02:50:55 PM
I've been trying to decide on one for quite awhile now. So far, I kind of like Rachel Valerie. Valerie being my middle name. For me it rolls off the tongue. But I guess my sister hates a girl named Rachel and so she doesn't want me to have the same name. I'm thinking about going ahead with it, and just talk to my sister and tell her we may have the same name but we're not the same person. I've also thought about Skyler, a name closer to my male name. It's kinda hard to pick one for me. Cause, I want it to be similar to the name I have to make it easier for people, but I also don't want it to be an obvious change.
Go with what makes you happy, it's your name, not your sisters :-)
I've had three legal name changes as an adult. The first two were male names and were of favorite science fiction characters of mine.
When I was choosing a female name, I wanted to choose a name that was based on a fictional character that I liked. I was set on four different names before I decided on Amelia/Amy and then it took me a little bit of time to decide on Rose.
I feel that, out of all of the names I had thought of, Amelia Rose fits me the best. Besides, that way I get to be named after two sci-fi characters. ;D
Amy
My wife picked mine actually. She hated me using Michelle or the femininzation of my middle name. She wanted to make my name Micaela as it's more Latina. As a Latina of mixed heritage I told her it clashed waaay too much with my last name (which is very German). "Well then how about Mieke?"
And the rest as they say is history. :)
Although I do get the occasional jokes about the movie Eurotrip ::), but I still like it!
Quote from: Amelia Pond on September 16, 2013, 03:30:35 PM
I've had three legal name changes as an adult. The first two were male names and were of favorite science fiction characters of mine.
When I was choosing a female name, I wanted to choose a name that was based on a fictional character that I liked. I was set on four different names before I decided on Amelia/Amy and then it took me a little bit of time to decide on Rose.
I feel that, out of all of the names I had thought of, Amelia Rose fits me the best. Besides, that way I get to be named after two sci-fi characters. ;D
Amy
Glad I'm not the only one that went with a Sci Fi inspired name! :-)
Quote from: Yukari-sensei on September 16, 2013, 03:32:43 PM
My wife picked mine actually. She hated me using Michelle or the femininzation of my middle name. She wanted to make my name Micaela as it's more Latina. As a Latina of mixed heritage I told her it clashed waaay too much with my last name (which is very German). "Well then how about Mieke?"
And the rest as they say is history. :)
Although I do get the occasional jokes about the movie Eurotrip ::), but I still like it!
How do you pronounce Mieke?
My name is from a song that I loved as a child and in fact still to this day like it very much. My middle name is just a different spelling of my given birth middle name's nick name.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AaI97Q5K30c
Quote from: Alice Danielle on September 16, 2013, 03:53:27 PM
How do you pronounce Mieke?
There is strangely enough a video on it...
http://youtu.be/Kk4HNmpmYUU
Where I live though it usually pronounced Mika, which is fine with me. I had a professor pronounce it properly once and I was briefly confused.
I tried Carly, Haprer and Melody but none of those name fit me it felt like i was trying to be somone. I picked Patience because it seemed to be the name that fit me the most. I also thought of my parents what would they want and all my sisters had virtue names. So patience felt authentic. I saw the Catwomen movie with Halle Barry in it and ever since i was little i've always loved catwomen and other girl figures. Halle's character name was Patience and i really related to the movie and helped change my life.
Especially this quote:
"The day I died was the day I started to live. In my old life, I longed for someone to see what was special in me. You did, and for that, youll always be in my heart. But what I really needed was for me to see it. And now I do. Youre a good man, Tom. But you live in a world that has no place for someone like me. You see, sometimes Im good. Oh, Im very good. But sometimes Im bad. But only as bad as I wanna be. Freedom is power. To live a life untamed and unafraid is the gift that Ive been given, and so my journey begins." "
In the movie she dies as insecure girl and reborn as catwomen.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LY1Jc4g5doU (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LY1Jc4g5doU)
I found it power seeing how i was going through the same thing.
I couldn't see myself living a lie and continuing the road i was on. It would've been depressing and my future would've been none existent. Life is all about change and i needed that change. That's why i physically/Mentally needed to die from being the old scared, depressed, insecure and lifeless boy and being reborn as the confident, full of life girl/ young woman i'm (transitioning to be) now.
Another great quote is "Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside while still alive" - Tupac.
My sister named me Tessa at age three and I was her sister until I was apparently disabused of that by an non-accepting culture, going to grade school and the reality of puberty. Like so much of my life I was able to completely repress these "thoughts" and when my sister teased me about it, as an adult, I would simply forget that it ever happened and could never remember that Tessa was my name for years. I still secretly believed I would somehow become a girl and grow up to be a mom until puberty.
Flash forward a million years and when I finally accepted myself as transgender I could also now magically remember my name was/is Tessa and that I get another opportunity to be that girl I so long denied....
Life can get much better if we can face our demons and more of the truth.
Crap you got me thinking. Its been so long since I changed my name I have a hard time trying to remember why I choose it. I guess I just liked the name Katie. Theres no turning back now since its legal. Ha.
I have an mtf friend who I larp with. I asked her to help me come up with a name for my Blood Elf at larp (red skinned elves with emotional issues) and she had created her own language for game. She said her character would refer to mine as a "fane," meaning "hot tempered." So Watcher Fane is my character and forum name.
IRL, my first time wearing womens clothes, and thereby exposing me to an oh so dormant female side was when I played a Silent Hill Nurse at Anime Boston. Nurses in Silent Hill are physical manifestations of nightmares interacting with your subconsious. The nightmares belong to a girl named Alessa. Alyssa is kinda stuck on me now :P
Wish I had a good story to go with my name, but really, I spent about 4 months going through lists of names and their meanings. I wanted a name that wasn't too common but not unheard of either, and preferably something meaningful. When I finally came across 'Marissa' meaning of-the-sea, it just clicked for me.
Quote from: Marissa on September 17, 2013, 12:42:52 PM
Wish I had a good story to go with my name, but really, I spent about 4 months going through lists of names and their meanings. I wanted a name that wasn't too common but not unheard of either, and preferably something meaningful. When I finally came across 'Marissa' meaning of-the-sea, it just clicked for me.
Oh that is even a more lovely name with that "meaning." I live on the coast and love all things maritime that are part of our water world.
We just keeping paddling, swimming, sailing or floating along;-)
I had met a girl in grade school who's name was Alexis, she was always awesome to me...Never forgot about that.
Quote from: Tessa James on September 17, 2013, 12:49:51 PM
Oh that is even a more lovely name with that "meaning." I live on the coast and love all things maritime that are part of our water world.
We just keeping paddling, swimming, sailing or floating along;-)
Thanks Tessa! *Hugs*
I picked my first name when i first discovered about most of who and what i am, i selected it from a web comic because it was unusual and at the time that character was close to what i wish i was, still struggling to pick out a new middle and last name though.
I have always liked the name Melanie , but now toying with changing it to Daisy .
I chose my current name back when I believed it would be impossible for me to ever transition so it was sort of a fantasy name. I guess I imagined it was a name a beautiful girl would have. When transition began to look more possible I decided to change my name to Amanda. But then I was at this gay bar and some lesbians who knew me started talking to me and I told them that I was now going by Amanda and one of them was like, "OH, I get it... A Man Duh!" And then they started laughing. So I decided to stick with my first choice instead.
I took mine from my favorite cult film.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NBjVBbeqf7E
My middle name I took from an ex.
Well I always wanted to name my child Zoey since I was like 6. By my child I mean the one I want to have. This was for weather i had a he/she hehe I am weird like that but then I took it for myself as I like it.
I didn't choose mine, it chose me.
I always had an affitiny for it, so when it came to the time to decide on a name, it wasn't really a choice.
My name would be ridiculously easy to feminize, Michelle, but that would have wound up being my mother's name, and that would be just creepy. >.< I am leaning on Harmony pretty heavily, since balance and peace have always been something I have strived for. I have experimented with being called by a different name before, however, and I know that it's important to find a name you can identify with immediately and unambiguously with yourself.
Roxanne was the name that my Mother had intended for me if I had been born with girl parts.
Which makes it all the more painful that she is the only person in my life that does not support me. -=sigh=-
I still haven't decided waa! But I suppose I have time.
Gene ===> Jean (eventually). I lucked out.
Quote from: Gene24 on September 18, 2013, 07:44:51 PM
Gene ===> Jean (eventually). I lucked out.
I shouldn't say this but I can't help it... you have good genes. *ducks*
Quote from: Marissa on September 18, 2013, 07:53:22 PM
I shouldn't say this but I can't help it... you have good genes. *ducks*
Lol :)
To answer the original question.. honestly, I am not sure. I have just always liked the name Anastasia, I think it's pretty and with more than a hint of the exotic (and perhaps I am just a little fascinated by the urban legend of Anastasia Nikolaevna? hah).. also, my given (male) name starts with an A, so I figure it wouldn't be too much of a change to introduce myself as just 'Ana'.. or perhaps 'Asia', 'Tashia', 'Stacy'.. lots of choices depending on mood ^^. I am still not 100% decided on it though, as it's not a common name where I am (no, I am not Eastern European ^^), though I have a cousin named Natasha so I suppose it's not THAT far off lol!
As said though, 'Ana' is a very common name so it wouldn't be hard to pass unremarked.
Anastasia is very pretty, and also featured in a song:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cE7Imp5cikk
I haven't settled yet...
Right now I'm still trying to match my initial ("T," but sooo many T-names are out... ex-girlfriends, my mother's name, etc., etc.). So I like Téa, but I'm afraid of the beverage. (Actually... I do love Tea - green, black, the kind made from coffee beans, etc).
Lots to think about... start early - I am!
I didn't choose my girl's name, dad did.
Oh you meant the new girls name :)
Yeah thanks to society heck both names are considered girls names. LeslieLesley, not much difference really. The only time my name is noticeably male is if you add the middle name. It was easy to switch it too though, simple add of a single letter and presto.
Inasmuch as I want to be addressed as female, but hmm, I LIKE my name, well my variation of it that is.