(Words cannot describe how I feel right now, I am so proud to say that I know and love this woman. I haven't cried yet but I'm sure I will once I read and re read this. It will be my Daily reassurance.)
Well, my partner and I (I'm trying really hard in my head to get used to the term "wife") we have been married for 3 years. and recently back in April of this yr. "he" finally came out to me as being transgender, she always knew since she was about 8 that something wasn't right and always felt different. Any whos, when she first told me I was in complete shock and in a way felt like our whole marriage at this point was a "lie" (now I realize it wasn't) but for about the first 2 weeks, we didn't talk to each other, it was very awkward because neither of us wanted to say the wrong things or just didn't know what to say. There's been many times when I wanted to just run away from it all but I know that's not what I really wanted and I am very glad I didn't do any of that. Its been 4 months now since coming out and I feel we have come a very long way, I've helped her do some make up, even bought her, her own makeup lol we recently went clothes shopping and last week we went to Austin for a Pride Parade and that was the first time I had ever seen her, dress completely like a girl. ( I actually had seen pictures of her a week prior while I was in Florida and I broke down, and said a lot of hurtful things I never should have, but now its all in the past) anyway, seeing her in person rather then in pictures was very different and I actually did not mind it at all. I think she is very beautiful and found myself becoming extremely protective of her when we were out in public. ( I gave a lot of death stares) lol the point I'm at right now is wishing that she never had to go threw this, and helping her gain confidence to change her voice. sorry this was so long lol that's my story lol
- Valentina Howell
I cant seem to pull myself together right now im so emotions
Erin, consider yourself one of the VERY few and VERY lucky to have her in your life...I.m so happy for you.. HUGS...
I wish you both luck as you go through this journey together. *hugs*
Hug her often and do not let go of her. You Mam have won the lottery.
Congratulations to our Erin and her Valentina for working things out and renewing your emotional ties with one another. You two are an inspiration and, with going public, a real resource for your community. My wife has challenges losing her "husband" but was quite happy to start calling me her wife. And I love being a wife too even if it seemed a little unusual to start.
Rock on good family!
Wow, thanks for posting this, Erin! I just came out to my wife a couple weeks ago and we really don't know where we're going from here, so reading that inspires a little more of the rare and precious resource called hope!
Thank you everyone for your kind words!
Val is amazed at how quickly this is being shared on Facebook and the comments here.
*hug*
That's for both of you. Thank you for sharing your story of hope and acceptance! :)
This is wonderful! ^_^
Congratulations to you both.
:)