So, at.first when I came out, the reaction from my in-laws was pretty much expected. Then they started calling me "it " and saying that I was controlling and would ruin my son. I was pretty angry after that (see my rant in my blog). Now though, I'm not sure I want to talk to them ever again.
Yesterday, my wife talked to her sister, and asked her if she'd ever support me. Her sister said no, and then things started coming to light.
First she said that my wife deserved better, and I was doing things to keep her around because I would never be able to find anyone else. .... uh, sure. I could. I don't want to. I love my wife.
Then, we come to find out that her parents and sister never really supported our relationship or marriage much to begin with. And that several times her sister told her that I wasn't right for her. My wife does not recall these conversations.
And then, the hypocritical moment shows itself. So they are mad because I lied to everyone for 8 years. Yes, I did, but what I did was a lie, not treating someone like a criminal.
Here we come to find out that apparently my inlaws thought I was a pervert all this time. Yes, you heard right. My mother-in-law and sister-in-law apparently suspected me of going through their clothing whenever we visited. Now I never wore any woman's clothing but my mom's, my wife's, and whatever I bought. But apparently they deliberately stacked their clothing a certain way in the laundry room downstairs and would check it after we.left, and accused me of looking through it. Apparently my SIL also caught me "peeping " on her several times when her door was slightly open. Well, if I pass it, and its open, yeah I'm going to look in to see what you're up to. I don't usually expect to look in my SIL's open door to catch her naked or changing. Me, I usually shut my door when company is over if I'm going to be partially or completely naked.
So yes, now I'm livid. The same people who I lied to for 8 years have apparently been treating me as a no good dirty pervert for the same amount of time ... unbelievable
*hugs Chelsea*
It sounds like they're really bigoted. Avoiding them might not be a bad idea. Better than stooping to their level anyway. And it's not lying to finally stop conforming to an unwanted role that's forced on you. I bet you were the best person you could be during those 8 years.