Hey ladies + gents,
I'm fulltime and have been on hormones for 11 months now... everything is going great really and don't have many complaints, except of course, for being so tall. In my previous life as male, I always thought I was tall and wanted to be shorter and really have struggled with this for years and now that I'm fulltime, I feel I'm not as confident as I SHOULD be in clubs, bars and social situations --- in short, I always feel I'm going to get clocked for being tall. It wouldn't be so bad if I had taller female friends, but let's face it, most cis-gender women are 5'5".
What has been your experience with being tall and being approached by men (I'm talking to TS women, or TS men who approach tall girls). Do you think men find it intimidating? Should I be the one who's trying to make the moves first? I will say, I do turn heads and I do get the flirty eyes from men, but more often than not, they aren't approaching me and I feel like I'm the giant most of the time...
Advice?
(I'm 5'10" and 6'3" in heels --- I have a medium build, I'm white and American)
Let me tell you one thing that may or may not help with worrying about height.
One of my classmates is a very tall girl and she is one of the prettiest girls in class. I don't know how you look, but as you see, height does not have anything to do with it. Look for other factors if there are any and it's not just anxiety. And no one would ever feel intimidated by her.
I'm 5'10" and don't feel like it hurts me. There are plenty of women the same height and taller than me. I don't wear heels, but then I rarely have an occasion to do so either. The few times I have, never had an issue with people reading me for that. And I have still been approached by taller, same height and shorter guys too.
Some men like tall women and some men don't and some will for sure be intimidated by it. This goes with any characteristic stereotypically male that ciswomen have i.e. women with higher authority jobs, women who make more money than them, women who are stronger than them, etc.
My oldest natal daughter is 5'10". My youngest is 6'0" and still growing. Neither gets mistaken for a male because of their height.
Be proud you are tall. Confidence is what it is all about.
I am 5'9 and sometimes think I'm tall but last night I got complimented on my long legs, which made me feel so good. Also there were 2 other girls with my group taller than me. I also work directly with a woman that is 6'3 and is very pretty. There are a lot of women over the 6 ft range so dont feel as if you are too tall.
5'10 isn't that tall just wear flats not heels if you're self conscious. 5'10 is fine, it's better then fine; it's model height.
5'10" tall? That don't seem that tall too me. I'm 6'2" and I've met women my height. I really wouldn't worry about it at your height. Plus being tall is awesome nobody can look down on you when they have to look up just to see you. ;)
Amazons rock 6'1 and a half.
Go Amazons! I used to be 5'11 but may be shrinking like an old house settling into the bog. I like my height but will tease myself as Tessa the Tall and Terrible Transsexual in my wizard of Oz voice. One of my boyfriends is 6'4 in his heels and drag outfits. She gets plenty of come hither looks. I have several new friends who are also trans, well over 6'2 and working thru transition concerns. If it's not our height it might be our nose, voice, hair... so the lists of perceived deficiencies can be endless. Please don't let this stuff get in the way of being ready for love. Forgetaboutit! A ready smile, some flirting and fun have worked for millions of other tall girls?
There are so many variables about attraction but being ready for love sure seems like a good starting point. You know it when someone gives you "that look" but only if your are looking around too?
Thank-you all ... I know I just have to OWN it and work it --- but what I wouldn't give to just be 3 inches shorter lol.
I appreciate the positivity :)
I'm 6'0"...6'4"in heels... 165 lbs., athletic build... And get hit on by both guys and girls very often. Twice today as a matter of fact.
I don't know if it helps, but I'm 5'8" and I regularly meet lots of women who are clearly taller than me. The only woman I know who's been "outed" for being tall is 7'1". (That is not a typo - seven feet, and yes, it sucks for her.)
I'm 5'11", and all I can say is Move to Wisconsin! We're all tall here!
(Seriously, it's like 1 in 3 women I see is my height at least!)
Back 35 years ago when when I experimented with transitioning about all women in my age group were mainly 5'6" and essentially no tall ones. I was an even 6ft tall and really stood out. These days it is a far different story. I see so many 6 footers now. I don't even think twice about my height, even in 2-3 inch heels.
There is hope for being tall, it is called gravity. I am now 5'11" after 50+ years of wandering around upright on this planet. I figure in about another 176 years I'll reach my goal height of 5'6"
Well, I'm normally 6' 3" without heels (approaching seven feet with them) and my height doesn't seem to be a problem... my face and voice are, LOL. I've seen some apparently cis-females just as tall or taller than me occasionally.
I'm 5' 7" tall and am forever enamored of tall women with long shapely stems. I feel short, but have never felt out of place or intimidated being with tall women. Most of the pretty models at Victoria's secret are six feet or close to it. In fact many of the high school girls these days are taller than me. Tall women that aren't fat look a lot better in their clothes, they just drape better on their bodies than they do on shorter women generally. Most importantly for tall women is that they stand up straight and have good posture and refrain from slouching or rolling their shoulders forward to unconsciously try to appear shorter, it looks awful and people assume they have horrible self-esteem problems when they do that.
Im 6' 3" and im fine with beiing tall!!! i think its not the height that can sometimes give me away, but the fact i have no hips and curves!!!
i actually saw a group of girls whilst i was shopping today, and one of them was taller than me . . . And she was by far the prettiest out of all of them! So i dont think you should worry too much about height!!!!!
Zoe
Xx
There's loads of tall women. Take Mick Jagger's girlfriend, 6ft 4 barefoot.
Must be something in the water....I find it rare to see a girl taller than me here and I'm only 5'10"
Being 5'10" is totally fine. It's uncommon, sure, but it's not an absolute rarity. Women over 6' get by just fine. I'm 5'9" and women who are taller than me come into my store (where I work) all the time.
Most clocking happens because of mannerisms, face, voice, or overall shape. If you have trouble with voice, you can practice it. If you have trouble with mannerisms, you can practice them. If you have trouble with shape, you can focus exercise. If you have trouble with face, well that's more expensive -- and I can feel your pain there if it happens to be an obstacle for you.
Anyhow, to answer your question about men, I'm kind of hybridy in my presentation, but men I know still comment and talk to me about it. With one exception (who is ironically the tallest guy I know), they love tall women and especially long legs -- their one "hang-up" is the woman being taller than them, and even then some of my guy friends seem OK with that. Men have seriously reassured me a lot about height; I think it's nothing to worry about.
I'm 6'1" (and so is my wife for that matter!). It sure isn't a problem for me in terms of passing (hit on by men a lot, and there's certainly no problem passing around women). I live in SoCal, before was in Boston, I'm from UK originally and I travel internationally for work a lot, and height has never been an issue. Apart from being pointed out as a tall woman, which isn't a bad thing. I guess I had more issues around my height with respect to transition, may be 15 years ago, but any such fears have long evaporated.
Our daughter is heading that way also probably (height of a 6 year old at 3 years), though with two parents north of six feet, it's hardly surprising.
You'll be fine. im 6'1. And Depending on how you present yourself. They will just think your a sports player, Most my male friends who dont know my secret think I play basketball or volleyball. I play beach vollyball alot. So it all works out. But yes some men are afraid of taller women. But hey, its there loss when there face would fit right between our racks lol
Quote from: Teela Renee on September 22, 2013, 05:31:16 PM
But yes some men are afraid of taller women. But hey, its there loss when there face would fit right between our racks lol
LMAO Good point um-er points Teela! ;D
6'4" here, 5'10" lets you be a tall woman, we mid-six footers are the ones that push the envelope. Be confident and flaunt it!! 5'10" is a fantastic height for women!!
Agreed I'm 6'2" as well and before coming out I have been hit on by drunk guys thinking that I was a girl with my hair as long as it was.
Also just chatting amongst guys a lot of them do like tall women. ;)
Please remember that most men have concepts of types in their head. Types of women that they are attracted to will attract them even when they are a pallbearer at a funeral. The wiring makes the attraction a connection to the the visuals of the woman and a disconnect to most other things. So you may be able to think, what is the perfect man for me, and maybe switch it around to how do I attract and keep the perfect man for me? And this is not to be taken as the mysogynist way either. Figure out what type f man do you want and then how do you get them. A fishing analolgy might be you don't use bait when you need to use a spoon.
5' 10" is just fine. I would not worry at all. As most mentioned some of the most attractive women are tall with nice legs. However I'm not sure on high heels on top of 5-10?
If you are confident & sexy men will be after you without doubt. Man always want a sexy woman!
I'm 5' 8" & wear 3-4 inch heels sometimes however normally just 1-2 inch pumps or flats.
I'm 6'6" m'self, and it used to bother me until.. I've seen a woman taller than me. She looked surprisingly normal, just incredibly tall.
Height is not an issue, I actually found it more attractive!
6'4" here, 6' 8" in my favorite (ok, only, but they're still dead sexy and I love them) pair of heels. I *thought* I would have problems passing because of it, so I've been working extra hard on things I can change... makeup, voice, mannerisms, walking, etc. When I've got it all together, I don't seem to have any problem. Still slip with the voice occasionally, but I still get treated like a lady (for the most part).
Much love for all the tall sisters out there... and for the not-so-tall. Latch on to your inner woman (she's in there, or you wouldn't be posting here!) and do your best. And, please, find people to go out with. I don't recommend going solo your first time or three out, but it is important to get out... you will find, I think, the world is much more accepting than you have let yourself believe.
*hug*
<---------- 5'9.5" and growing with confidence.
I normally wear 5" and 6" heels. Complimented all the time on my long legs.
6'1" here, my wife is 5'11" and I approached her.
Lots of tall, statuesque beauties here, just don't you all tell me that you look down on me! ;D
I'm nearly 6'4" and share the same concern. It is so nice to hear so many chiming in on this topic. The hardest part about being this tall is banging my head into everything -- when I put heels on I'm even have to duck through door frames. Fortunately the wigs serve as a nice bumper. :-)
Xoxo,
Terri
6'1" here. I have to duck under a lot of tree branches in summer. Subconsciously I've always felt shorter and smaller than I am so I don't think about my height too often. I prefer not to wear high heels though because I just don't feel it's necessary. My long legs are one of my greatest assets.
Quote from: Violet Bloom on September 24, 2013, 02:37:04 PM
6'1" here. I have to duck under a lot of tree branches in summer. Subconsciously I've always felt shorter and smaller than I am so I don't think about my height too often. I prefer not to wear high heels though because I just don't feel it's necessary. My long legs are one of my greatest assets.
I know what you mean about feeling shorter than I am. A rather odd feeling when I tend to be taller than most people.
I was out with my friends one Saturday night. Mine you I am completely stealth and all my friends are "genetic" women. There was five or six of us. We see this really tall person in very tall heals. My friends where all saying "OMG ->-bleeped-<- tall, wow is that a man haha!" We got up closer and it was a man. But we all knew it was from before just by the body language, like how they walked. I felt bad for this person. In girl world it's all about what they say behind your back because they will always act kind and lovely to your face.
I am 5' 9". I was complaining to one of my friends that I hate being tall. She was like, "shut it woman I wish I was tall and skinny like you". My bf has no problem with my height he loves it. He's 6 ft. I don't wear heals that much but when I do I don't go over a 3 inch. Trust me lads have no issue with it. 5' 10" your grand just don't overdo it with the heals like some trans people do.
If you have height and you like to wear heals and really high ones, you better own it because yes people will do a double take. If you think that people especially women are that naive think again. With only 11 months on HRT you have still some changes to go through. Good ones that is lol.
Quote from: Murbella on September 24, 2013, 03:12:29 PM
I know what you mean about feeling shorter than I am. A rather odd feeling when I tend to be taller than most people.
It was really interesting for me when I realized this. I discovered that I was subconsciously inflating the size of people relative to myself and being intimidated by that assumed size. Generally people could be as much as six inches shorter than me and I'd think they were nearly as tall as me. I also noticed that I would pick out one body feature and completely mis-scale the person based on that one bit. As a result of all this I tend to be naturally attracted to people that are distinctly smaller in scale compared to me.
Other people have a height meter. To me everyone is just "shorter than me". When I meet someone as tall or taller than I am I think that person is gigantic. It's a very strange phenomenon.
http://www.imdb.com/list/4Su1yZ6vgNc/
It's a list of 5'10" and taller female celebrities. Most of them also wear towering high heels. They're all gorgeous and no one would ever think twice about their height, other than to compliment their long legs.
Haha nice list KatelynRain, am going to stick it somewhere and stop worrying about it aswell.
Quote from: KatelynRain on September 27, 2013, 01:40:42 PM
http://www.imdb.com/list/4Su1yZ6vgNc/
It's a list of 5'10" and taller female celebrities. Most of them also wear towering high heels. They're all gorgeous and no one would ever think twice about their height, other than to compliment their long legs.
Looks like you tall, statuesque, long legged chicksters are in very lovely company!
I am 6'2". My daughter is 5'10"
I was at lunch today and a woman taller than me was at the counter. She was tall, thin and well dressed. From the back I thought she is beautiful. I never saw her front.
I'm a 5'9" cis-male (same build as the young Freddie Mercury or Keith Richards), and I LOVE tall transladies (or cis-ladies), especially if they have a wiry, svelte, modelicious build. Height alone will never dissuade me from approaching or pursuing you!
5' 10" here- plus my Doc Martins.
When I see a CIS girl taller than me, I have the urge to run and hug her.
Mind you, I get that with a lot of girls. ::)
I'm 5'10 but the whole height issue really only depends on your build/proportions I guess cause I haven't had any issues with not being approachable and I'm a big flirt too but I don't wear heels cause I need more practice walking in them else I would.
5'10"?? You're both practically midgets!! ;)
I'm 6'3" but have a slender build so that helps.
I saw a woman at the train station last night who was quite tall and was, as we say in Australia, built like a brick $#*@ house. She may have been trans, but unless she's had a bit of FFS I'd say probably cis, I couldn't tell but it didn't matter because no one else was paying her the slightest bit of attention.
I LOL'D woooo I'm a midget hooray! :laugh: :D But in all seriousness, lately since I've been going out more I've been noticing that there are lots of women taller than me sooo I don't ever get subconscious about my height anymore.
I'm 5' 9" & I've had men shorter than me really make a play for me. I'm impressed some however I've never been attracted to a man shorter than me. I like a tall man. So I think you will have plenty of men interested if you can accept a shorter man?
5' 8" and I've been told that I'm on the short side for a guy and that my height is a girl's height. So I guess that works out for me. My wife is 5' 0". My first wife was 5' 8" as well.. she thought I was too short.
Before I made the decision to transition, my height (6'1") was a big worry for me but now, not so much and that was only two or so months ago. It's something that I can't change so I just stopped dwelling on it, easier said than done I know.....
5'10 isn't necessarily tall for a girl, no one questions it at all because you could be a model for all people know. And if it bothers you very much, you can try wearing shoes with shorter heels or flats so it can help. I've also heard that E can possibly shrink your height a bit so you can pray for that. If it were possible, it would be awesome if we could trade height as I'm 5'5 and could use a couple of extra inches.
(I'm 6'7") Yesterday (wearing 3 inch heels, Capris and a black top that showed my breasts well) I went to the ATM and this guy told me: "Your so tall and beautiful!" I told him "Thank you". Even though I'm a lesbian I still found it flattering.
Being tall works for me. Compliments from men and women. I'm 5'10" too.
I own it.
I am 5' 9". I love every bit of my height and would never trade. I have nine sisters and we are all in the same height range. I've never met a man who did not like the height and what's up with all the short guys liking the tall women? Its almost as if they have something to prove. Maybe they want to crawl up my legs or something.. dont' know and if there is a short guy in the room, I can bet money he will beeline it to me especially if I am wearing heels. I had a fantasy once about being with a really short guy... hmmm... that's another subject. When I was single and dating, everyone commented on the long legs and the height.
In answer to your question. YES, they will definitely approach you. If they do not, it's because they are nervous. Very few do not like tall women but maybe cause its just their personal taste. So put on those sexy heels, stand straight and tall and shake what your mamma gave you when you walk.
Wait a minute! Five foot ten inches is tall? Most of my cisgender female friends are as tall as me (5'10" also) or taller.
And just a note... did you know that most models are tall? That tall women are often seen as sexy and desirable? Sigourney Weaver is tall. Venus Williams is 6'1". Ana Ivanovic is 6' even. Taylor Swift and Kimmora Lee Simmons (model) are both 6 feet tall. Brooks Shields is 6 foot and so is Uma Thurman. Naomi Campbell is 5'10" and so is Queen Latifah. Lucy Lawless is 5'10" and so is Julia Roberts!
The list is really huge of tall famous women.
It's not really a big deal at all. (Yes, that pun was intended. :D )
I think 5'10" isn't too tall for girls in USA, the average woman here in Sourthern Europe is much shorter, though. I am 5'5 2/3 and I already feel tall for a woman here, but honestly it's all okay, I'm still shorter than most men and guys my age.