Hi!
I 'came out' 1 week ago.
It's in ' ', because my parents probably didn't understand me.
We were driving (car) to the airport, at 4am, and without sleeping - I know, but it was the last time while we're together (me + parents).
I said: "I would like to go to a specialist, which could help me to 'understand myself'. It's very difficult for me, and I know that is not a good time to say that. The truth is that I don't feel as a boy, I don't want to look like a boy, and I don't want to do 'boy's things', and I would like to do something with it."
My father said that it is ok, and I had to say it much earlier (then was asking why I didn't said that earlier). He also said that if I want to go to the any doctor, I should say it asap. "We will help you".
Up to here it's ok.
But then he said that I don't look like a boy, so I should do something with it, like going to the gym, cutting my hair, etc. Here I repeated that I DON'T WANT TO DO THIS - he didn't comment this.
WTF?!
I just feel that my father just heard the 1st part of my 'speech' without listening to the 2nd part. :(
My mother didn't comment this.
I don't know what to do and what to think. :(
On the one hand they can help me (at least they offered that), but on the other hand they just ignored that I don't want to be a boy. And I don't know if they heard that, or not.
I tried to speak with my normal voice, so it's not be possible that they didn't hear me.
What should I do now? I feel like I didn't come out. I feel like I'm treading on thin ice, because I don't know if they understood me in 100%.
May I should come out again?
I think you came out properly tbh. That's actually how I came out to....pretty much everyone I'm out to.
Maybe your dad is in denial? I mean you just came out, so it's understandable that he's extremely shocked about it.