*sigh* I figured its probably about time I start telling friends and family that I'm not a girl and such.
I've told my little sister, but I'm not sure she completely understood what I was talking about. .-.
Anyways, I was wondering, how did y'all go about it?
Here's some reading material on the subject. Hugs, Devlyn
https://www.susans.org/wiki/Category:Family_and_friends
All the adults in the family I wrote a letter to, gave it to them, and watched them read it. It was very difficult - especially the first few times. You could just give them letters and not sit there, but I like the personal touch. I find it hard to just tell people - they usually don't get what they need and I fumble with the words. Once it's open for questions it's easier.
Also... 1-3 people at a time... no big groups!
I was thinking letters, but I can't think of what to say.
And definately not big groups, I wan't going to do anymore than one or two people at a time anyways.
I don't think I'll be able to do it in person.
Lots of people try to plan out the conversation ahead of time, but it really all goes out the window after "I have something to tell you, I'm transgender"
I waited until enough changes were fully visible, then I just basically went around to everyone in person and confirmed what they were thinking. My family were aware of issues I've had since being a child anyway, so it wasn't so bad. My dad was just glad that I wasn't gay, which to me was weird that he was ok with trans, but not gay. go figure...
Guess I could wait..
I don't know. Maybe I should just wait for now.
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on October 07, 2013, 02:42:40 PM
Lots of people try to plan out the conversation ahead of time, but it really all goes out the window after "I have something to tell you, I'm transgender"
AMEN sister Devlyn. It kind of turns into a complicated federal type mess real quick. It's like when they hear transgender they kind of lose the presence of mind to think, reply or even speak. I don't know who blushed more or had the most butterflies, them or me. What is really funny to me now is I took my medic bag in with me just in case. *giggle*
Every situation is different. You know the people in your life better than any of us. Do it in a way that makes you and the other person as comfortable as possible. That may mean different things to different people.
I didnt come out and say that I was transgender because I think that word is misrepresented in many ways people dont understand what it fully means , people around me think its just guys cross dressing and that its sooo weird , which is unfair :( , so what i did was I came out , saying I think i have gender indenity issues and explained why and how its been effecting me and said , I really feel like i should have been born a boy and that my life and i would have been a better if i was , but i was born in the wrong body ,
and it went ok , i have to come out to my doctor and im more scared about that then i was to my mum lol ;/
I think I've decided to tell my aunt.
She's the first one I told about being not straight, so I think I can trust her and stuff.
my dad actually confronted me about being kind of a depressed person ad i just slipped it out there, he took it fine, i knew he woul but at the same time it was a very tear filled experience.
then told mom and my sister was the first one to know and that wa s a horrible tear filled moment too. i wanted to tell her but i didn't know how, for my dad and my sister it was something that i was lucky enough to have come up in conversation.
later on when i came out to my friends it was sort of i just pulled them aside and told them what was up and the first few times i was kinda freaked out but after like 3 times of that it got easier and it gets easier with each time i tell someone, it's not sucha big deal, but at the same time i have been so fortunate that i have such understanding mature people around me who get it, who just want me to be happy and be who i am.
Well, I hope people I know will be like that, haha.
Also, my aunt is an amazing person.
Yea it was definitely a difficult time for me when it came to telling people bc i tried so hard to hide who i was even from myself. And when i finally did tell my parents, they pretty much already knew. not so much that i felt that i should have been born male but they knew i wasnt into guys and they pretty much said the rest of my extended family knew that much as well. And they were very happy i finally admitted it to myself and that i could finally start to be who i really am and stop hiding all the time. My brother also accepted me, and also knew as much as my parents and he was glad i finally stopped hiding who i am. I literally did this one by one.. and so far everyone i have told has accepted me. and it really hasnt been much, 2 friends and my cousin and my hairstylist who i known for a long time. But i tend to feel alot better after i tell people. slowly but surely. Right now i have moved away from everyone i know to try and get myself on the right track bc i am trying to get myself on a path to where i can be happy with my appearance. So i am struggling some being in a new place with no friends. i am just going to try and pay off some debt and start my transition as best as i can. Eventually start HRT and hopefully save enough to get a double mastectomy.