Before HRT did you prefer the opposite sex and then find HRT changing that preference?
I was born a biologic male and through corrective therapy assimilated into society as a heterosexual. I dated, married and sought after females in the traditional male role. I never once considered, checked out, dated or fantasized about males in the least. Upon accepting my Gender Dysphoria I began to transition. A couple of months into HRT I had a really amazing dream and now cannot get men out of my brain as potential sexual partners. I look at females now as competition and with jealousy when they look better than me. Which is always the case it seems. I also see in myself now a new voracious appetite and drive for relationship, but in more of a nurturing capacity and with an eye on quality and not quantity. What are your experiences with this subject? Am I an aberration or are there others this has happened to? This is new to me and I wonder if it is normal. Help me out family. Love you! :)
No. It did give me courage to act on my feelings however.
No, not at all. It did however lower my sex drive.
Sexually, emotionally, romantically, I'm still only attracted to women.
However, being on HRT has made it easier for me me to see the beauty in everything, including the male form; until you get past the waist, then I would get really dysphoric and throw up (no offense guys).
Amy
I'm interested to see for myself, I assume it will, because I have little desire for sex as of late, the past 6 months to be exact.
E didn't change my preference at all I liked men before and still do now. If anything my attraction to men has only grown stronger. ;D
Well, my first fantasies (around 13 y.o.) involved men. But I was always a female there... I could never engage into anything sexual with guys while my body was reflecting theirs (at least, mostly). At the same time, I was kinda interested into girls, but not really sexually. It all ended with me being completely asexual and celibate until I hit 23 and I deliberately chose to get the ball (omg, another sex pun....) rolling. Big mistake... After that, my libido skyrocketed and all what had been suppressed by workout and mental conditioning, erupted outwards and completely enslaved me. My body demanded sex, but my brain subconsciously resisted against me getting into male-female relationship. My body won...
Now, with the HRT my libido is down where it was in my teens and I am finally free. Also, as my body continues to change, I find myself being drawn towards guys more and more. I am not sure if I am ready for sexual relationship, but I very much enjoy communicating with them as a female - a little bit of flirting and teasing. Women now are like soulmates and I am not that much really sexually attracted to them anymore.
So, it is quite complicated at the moment and I am really looking forwards how this all will come together in the end.
No change at all. However it helps increase my intensity & desires for a men.
Interesting so far! It seems with the majority the HRT only released inhibitions of previous thought. I tried to apply these thought with my situation and I am starting to think I am a different creature than most of you. One of the things I noticed in respect with being hetero for my birth sex is that relationships were to me very stale and almost a duty or something. With being on "E" I am starting to feel, have emotions and be free with expressing them. Very interesting, thanks for the thought's family. :)
I started being interested in being touched by men even before starting hrt, after having no interest when I lived as a man.
However, I still do not find men attractive or have an interest in entering a relationship with one.
I usually preferred girls to boys before HRT,I enjoyed both but had more relationships with girls.After HRT it was more like 50/50
"trans enough" for what pray tell? Trans enough to be in transition and more it seems?
I think Jessica challenges the dominant paradigm where the dogma is that sexual orientation is immutable.
Could someone make you gay? Could some one pray the "gay away" or treat me with hormones to make my orientation change?
Very intriguing and food for thought.
Thank you Jessica
My Gender Dysphoria led to many failed relationships, two failed marriages and the need to lose everything in my life that once meant something. Not Trans enough? If there was any doubt I think I would have chosen the easier path.
Jeez, I was kidding!
I can't speak for another here but it seems to this observer that "her trans truth" is just that, hers! I am very uncomfortable that anyone here would question how we "handle" our completely unique truth of being trans unless we are asking for that specific advice. There is more than one legitimate way to understand our truths and sexual orientation for many is disconnected from our gender identity. That's what makes this fascinating to me.
Emily you also seem to suggest that there is a change in how you feel about flirting and more?
Isn't change what we embrace here?
OK, glad you were "just kidding"---you did say you are more gigglier now ;D
No harm. I do stand out concerning this topic though. Factors are at play and some of the comments here are giving me a lot of thought. It also has started to occur to me with the comments that my intense programming starting at age 7 could have something to do with repressed behavior. What if the intense psychological programming I received actually only made me think I was hetero? What I am trying to get at is I was subjected to what would be called today psychological abuse by professionals and family. I suffered mental, emotional, physical and other abuses when feminine behavior was noted at age 7. Maybe that programmed me to think I had no attraction to the same sex. I do know that like before I had no attraction to the same sex, but also found no satisfaction in opposite sex relations. Very thought provoking. If left alone earlier in life would I have been interested in same sex relationships? I don't know. Possible.
Did any of You miss that Freshguy (there was a whole novel going on here and in the chat room) and his posts about "handling trans truth"?
Oh, nevermind then... I tried to joke and failed.
Tessa and replying to Your question, I did not know much how to flirt and tease before - I was pretty much frozen at most times and did not really know what to do (recalling back, I know that I was sort of reactive instead of being active - except most of the girls prefer to be that way and when two reactive persons come together, nothing can happen since nobody takes up the initiative to act). But I was mostly blaming my upbringing and lack of father and did not gave deeper consideration to all of that.
Thanks for the relevant context Miss Emily. Sorry if I jumped too soon. I quess that's why we have emoticons all over ??? ??? ???
let's kiss and make up :angel:
It's OK Emily, my sister! Love ya bunches. I don't get upset at family and there was not anything for me to get upset about anyway. I love all of our interactions on the forum. That goes for everyone else here. BIG HUGGIES to everyone!! Bear hugs, not diapers, Jeesh!
Quote from: Tessa James on October 12, 2013, 03:29:44 PM
let's kiss and make up :angel:
Jeez, I just read that as "lets kiss and make
out" And this just tends to happen to me recently... Maybe I am not trans enough...
I think, the time has come for me to take a shower and go to bed :)
/me blows kiss
Oh you are a flirt! He He he, me too.
Good night sweetie
I am bi and I would say 70/30 preference guy to girl. I now do not feel guilty for having had relationships with guys. I always preferred the friendship of girls and that has increased. Guy friendship was mostly just for sex or hanging out of boredom.
Although, I now fanaticize about guys I know as apposed to unknown in the past. I never once fantasized about a girl, just being one.
No. I've always identified as a straight and remain that way. I suppose one could argue I'm sort of bi, but I don't have any romantic inclinations women. I do think many women are really pretty, but I have no desire to be intimate in anyway with another girl. So my romantic and sexual preferences both lean towards men. I guess that's unfortunate because it would probably be easier to be a trans lesbian than dealing with men. Oh well, it's my curse. ;)
Nope. But it might have changed my ability to act on it. :) I was bisexual before and I'm bisexual now, and I always primarily preferred women. But whereas before there were relatively few men I found attractive, now I've discovered that most straight men treat women TOTALLY differently than they do other men (and there's also light-years difference between that and how gay men other treat gay/bisexual men). So there are a lot more men in my "attractive and available" pool than before. Presumably there are also fewer women in that pool now, ironically enough.
I'm married, so it's moot in any case, but it's been interesting to observe.
I do find it frustrating occasionally when people assume that there's "no point" in becoming a woman if I'm still interested in women romantically - that while a cis woman can be gay or bi, a trans woman isn't "really trans" if she is. (Nobody in this thread has said so!! It's a commentary on people elsewhere who assumed that HRT would make me straight.)
I was a horny ->-bleeped-<- before and now im a even more horny ->-bleeped-<-...
so... hmm I dont really think T changed anything of my sexual preference.
However it has change my preference in porn. Pre-T I where more into thing with good storylines, like wathing a erotical movie thing or fan fiction. and I couldnt get turned on by regular porn. Now its pretty opposite.