I guess I'm just looking for a little support because I can't see any question in this. :laugh:
My wife is flying into town from California next Thursday. We haven't seen each other for about 4 months, and I've only been full time for a little more than 5 months. When she left I was still somewhat plain looking and didn't have a lot of new clothes, but there's been big changes, with a whole new wardrobe and lots of makeup.
JoAnn hasn't lived with another woman in the house since she rented a bungalow with two friends before we married. I'm not entirely sure she's ready to see all my makeup, hair products, and clothes, or see my morning routine. I'm a far different woman now, and JoAnn may not react the way I hope. During a telephone conversation yesterday with my therapist I was told to be ready for a negative reaction, but not to make any changes to my daily routine or style. Believe me, I have no intention of changing who I am. but there's a little concern the changes may take our marriage to it's end.
We've both said we need to talk all about our future and my transition when she gets here. I'm changing more rapidly than she expected, and that's because I feel so incredibly good about who I am. I may not be a teenager or young adult, yet there's no old crotchety woman in me either. I'm an active, healthy, and happy woman who understands her age, but still wants to do a few things a 30 year old girl would do. I'm just not sure JoAnn's ready to join me, and share the fun.
Good luck Kathy, I know you must be apprehensive but the ball is in her end of the court. Just be your kind, sweet self, no raised voice on your part, keep us posted! ((Hugs)) ~Shan~
Quote from: Shantel on October 18, 2013, 10:06:32 AM
Good luck Kathy, I know you must be apprehensive but the ball is in her end of the court. Just be your kind, sweet self, no raised voice on your part, keep us posted! ((Hugs)) ~Shan~
Oh, I'll try my best. Unfortunately she just talked to me on the phone because the court sent the paperwork for my legal name and gender change to our home address and not to me. Had to ask her to submit for the required Public Notice in the local newspaper, and that didn't go over very well. I hope she at least delivers it.
Each time something like this happens it upsets the balance a little more.