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Gina,
Ask me that in six months time ;) .
First half year after surgery you don't feel ready to jump into bed with anyone other than a tender partner who's supported you through the transition.
Sure I could have sex with a guy this weekend if I were so desperate, but I'm only now starting to look seriously for a relationship.
Maybe there will come a point where I just want to try that vagina out, a brief "fling", but I'm far from being there yet !
Laura x
Quote from: regina on June 26, 2007, 05:42:23 PM
Hi, I'm getting SRS in November and am thinking (a LOT) about what hetero sex could be like with a man. I'm specifically interested in the experiences of straight post-op women and their first time with a guy. A few questions:
1) How long was it after SRS that you actually had penetrative sex?
- 4 months2) Did your partner know about your trans history (be honest now)?
- Yes we've been together since Dec 20063) Was your partner someone you really cared about or more someone you were with just to have the experience?
- Someone I cared about4) What did you like about the experience both physically and emotionally?
- it was emotionally draining, but physically pleasing5) What didn't you like (or what was difficult) physically and emotionally?
- There wasn't any 4th of July fireworks, but the foreplay was nice6) Did you have other sexual experiences with that same partner or was it a one time deal?
- I had other non-penetrative sexual experiences7) How does your first time (as a woman) feel now that you have some distance from it.
- it will be an experience that I will always remember.Steph
Quote from: regina on June 26, 2007, 05:42:23 PM
1) How long was it after SRS that you actually had penetrative sex?
Must have been about 7 months after.
2) Did your partner know about your trans history (be honest now)?
No, I told him a couple of months later...
3) Was your partner someone you really cared about or more someone you were with just to have the experience?
I totally loved him and wanted to be with him forever...
4) What did you like about the experience both physically and emotionally?
Can't really say, it just felt normal and good.
5) What didn't you like (or what was difficult) physically and emotionally?
The day after I was a bit tender and we'd planned a day doing lots of walking which didn't turn out to be the best of ideas. At one point I just had to stop and sit down! ;-)
6) Did you have other sexual experiences with that same partner or was it a one time deal?
Yes, I did.
7) How does your first time (as a woman) feel now that you have some distance from it.
My memories of it are still very good, though I was pretty innocent and overly passive back then. I'm a much more 'active' partner now and would definitely make sure he did the necessary to make me orgasm (back then I was all about trying to give him pleasure...) One thing that was funny, was that I was over agressive with my hand on him (I'd never masturbated back when I was pre-op, the thought just disturbed me too much...) and he had to show me how to give him pleasure... Pretty funny when you think about it!
Voilà Gina !
MVER XXX
Quote from: regina on June 26, 2007, 05:42:23 PM
Hi, I'm getting SRS in November and am thinking (a LOT) about what hetero sex could be like with a man. I'm specifically interested in the experiences of straight post-op women and their first time with a guy. A few questions:
1) How long was it after SRS that you actually had penetrative sex?
2) Did your partner know about your trans history (be honest now)?
3) Was your partner someone you really cared about or more someone you were with just to have the experience?
4) What did you like about the experience both physically and emotionally?
5) What didn't you like (or what was difficult) physically and emotionally?
6) Did you have other sexual experiences with that same partner or was it a one time deal?
7) How does your first time (as a woman) feel now that you have some distance from it.
Many thanks your sharing, honesty and candor. I'm really looking for your own personal experience rather than any advice.
ciao,
Gina M.
Well, I have a somewhat different experience to add but I think you'll find it interesting
I slept with a post-op TS a while back which killed two birds with one stone for me, firstly I'd never slept with a girl like that before thus figured I may as well give it a go before losing the ability to, secondly it gave me some first hand experience with the handiwork of my most likely future surgeon.
1) the girl was like 6 years post-op
2) I would not have suspected anything unless I was right up close, there was little scarring.
3) just to have the experience
4) she enjoyed it but i didn't ask for a breakdown of emotional/physical feelings, I think it was more physical.
5) Physically it's a bit tricky to get past the pubic bone and the muscle they tunnel through though that's more due to my own lack of decent functionality and i'm not sure if the pubic bone thing is an issue with natal girls, there were no depth issues.
6) first and only experience with her to date.
7) N/A
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QuoteROFL You're funny, Thundra. BTW I wish I can contribute to this thread, but I've not had any experiences after my SRS. I'm still a virgin. Maybe soon...who knows, right Thundra? LOL
No comment!
Actually I love heterosexual women. ::) Being andro has it's advantages.
Quote from: Tink on July 04, 2007, 10:18:01 PM
... I wish I can contribute to this thread, but I've not had any experiences after my SRS. I'm still a virgin. Maybe soon...
tink :icon_chick:
Same here, after 3 and 1/2 monthes of my SRS, I still feel not ready for penetrative sex yet, though I've had non-penetrative love-making with my beloved bf and got my clito orgasm... Although we're looking forward to the first time, we both agree to wait untill I feel totally comfortable and confident...After all, it is worth to wait a couple of monthes longer for a better longterm result...
Wow. I am sorry, I don't have any opinon to contribute as i have no vagina but...it was lovely to read the first sex experience. Thanks! *i am so jealous, btw*
QuoteThanks for the derailment. Maybe you could start your own 'grossed out by lovemaking' thread?' But I'm still seriously interested in the experiences from women whose background I thought I pretty clearly outlined at the beginning. See, this subject actually means something to me and really appreciate the shared experiences of the people who responded.
I was just teasing G.M. In a mood I was. Please forgive me my trespassing. I was wound up cause the girls came into the boys room. Big no-no that. Carry on with yo heterosexual self.
Some of my best friends are heterosexual.
I have not been penetrated by a male as a female. I don't plan on anything like that, but who knows, I'm open for the opportunity. Right now I'm married and will not break my vows. If anything should happen, well, who knows.
Sheila
Something tells me that I will be penetrated by a female before experiencing the "real" thing. Several women have expressed an interest in 'deflowering me" though first, of course, I will most likely enjoy being pleasured. without penetration.
Quote from: melissa90299 on July 14, 2007, 07:51:35 PM
Something tells me that I will be penetrated by a female before experiencing the "real" thing. Several women have expressed an interest in 'deflowering me" though first, of course, I will most likely enjoy being pleasured. without penetration.
Isn't it a bit too soon for you to be talking about this? ;D ;) deflower, I have to look it up....LOL ;)
tink :icon_chick:
Posted on: July 14, 2007, 07:58:23 PM
Found it ;D ;)
Quotedeflower definition
tr.v. de·flow·ered, de·flow·er·ing, de·flow·ers
1. To take away the virginity of (a woman).
2. To destroy the innocence, integrity, or beauty of; ravage.
deflower synonyms
verb
To deprive of virginity: defile, violate. See sex
deflower etymology
[Middle English deflouren, from Old French defflourer, from Late Latin dflrre : Latin d-, de- + Latin fls, flr-, flower; see bhel-3 in Indo-European roots.]
deflower derivatives
de·flower·er n.
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Quote from: Tink on July 14, 2007, 07:58:23 PM
Quote from: melissa90299 on July 14, 2007, 07:51:35 PM
Something tells me that I will be penetrated by a female before experiencing the "real" thing. Several women have expressed an interest in 'deflowering me" though first, of course, I will most likely enjoy being pleasured. without penetration.
Isn't it a bit too soon for you to be talking about this? ;D ;) deflower, I have to look it up....LOL ;)
tink :icon_chick:
Too soon? Are you kidding me? I have been celibate by choice for four months and six months since I have been with a woman. Even if I am not completely healed, I can have sex comfortably with a woman knowing I don't have that unmentionable thing that I kept hidden.
Quote from: melissa90299 on July 14, 2007, 08:06:05 PM
Quote from: Tink on July 14, 2007, 07:58:23 PM
Quote from: melissa90299 on July 14, 2007, 07:51:35 PM
Something tells me that I will be penetrated by a female before experiencing the "real" thing. Several women have expressed an interest in 'deflowering me" though first, of course, I will most likely enjoy being pleasured. without penetration.
Isn't it a bit too soon for you to be talking about this? ;D ;) deflower, I have to look it up....LOL ;)
tink :icon_chick:
Too soon? Are you kidding me? I have been celibate by choice for four months and six months since I have been with a woman. Even if I am not completely healed, I can have sex comfortably with a woman knowing I don't have that unmentionable thing that I kept hidden.
Well, I'll be post-op for 4 monthes by next week... I still haven't felt being ready for "penetration" yet... during the first 3 monthes I wouldn't even think about it... Though my bf is eager to try it soon, he totally understands that and take care of me, cause being totally healed is the most important for us at this stage... I guess we should think about the long term result more than how fast and early we can have penetrative sex... and I beleive if somebody really loves you, he/she should first think about your health but having sex with you earlier...
Take your time to be healed and give a chance to your body to get recovered... You will see it's not easy at all during the first 2 monthes... only the endless dilation will take a lot of your energy... Again, best wishes to you!
If the op arises, I will go for it in a heartbeat. The thing with women is, it is all "foreplay" anyway, if I am not ready to be touched there, I will just tell her.
I can't wait! I truly cant!
Quote from: regina on June 26, 2007, 05:42:23 PM
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okaaayyy. I'm not seeing a thread topic. Alrighty then!
First time, hetero, after SRS sex experiences?
Yeah? What about them? ;)
What happened to your original post, Gina? Do you want an answer or not? ;) ;D
tink :icon_chick:
Quote from: Tink on September 14, 2007, 11:44:14 PM
First time, hetero, after SRS sex experiences?
Yeah? What about them? ;)
What happened to your original post, Gina? Do you want an answer or not? ;) ;D
tink :icon_chick:
Yeah, I've been also wondering what happened to Gina's original post?! Tink, have you just got your latest updated answer to her questions? ;)
Quote from: Asianrose on September 15, 2007, 02:19:14 AM
Quote from: Tink on September 14, 2007, 11:44:14 PM
First time, hetero, after SRS sex experiences?
Yeah? What about them? ;)
What happened to your original post, Gina? Do you want an answer or not? ;) ;D
tink :icon_chick:
Yeah, I've been also wondering what happened to Gina's original post?! Tink, have you just got your latest updated answer to her questions? ;)
Perhaps or perhaps not. ;) :P
tink :icon_chick:
I wonder what it is going to be like. I doubt I'll have problems finding anyone (believe it or not, there is a list of people who are "waiting" -- it's kind of flattering, but kinda creepy. Some of those people couldn't wait, so pre-op I've been with a couple of people in the last couple of months. But, it's getting awkward with the parts not matching, so I'm trying to keep my hands off people until after SRS and I heal).
I don't know why so many guys are after me; it's flattering in one way, and annoying at the same time.
Posted on: September 18, 2007, 01:43:28 PM
Quote from: Tink on July 04, 2007, 10:18:01 PM
ROFL ;D :D You're funny, Thundra. BTW I wish I can contribute to this thread, but I've not had any experiences after my SRS. I'm still a virgin. Maybe soon...who knows, right Thundra? ;) LOL ;D
tink :icon_chick:
Seriously, Tink? I've seen your icons and you're drop dead gorgeous! I can't believe that men haven't chased you down the street! But, then again, I understand about wanting to do it with someone you love, etc, etc.
Oh yeah, pre-op one guy didn't know I was Trans -- urm, but I had to tell him, of course. *yay the crying game* I actually thought he knew before hand, he knows my friends, and he knew me for months and months, and I just figured that he'd figured it out. I pulled one of my friends aside one day and asked her if he knew, she said that he thought he knew and that he'd probably figured it out. Well, it turns out that he didn't. So, my friend talked to him and I talked to him and he was okay with it.
The other guy was this guy that I was chasing, and then my girlfriend got jealous and competed for him. So, she slept with him first, but we were all still friends. And then somehow we ended up in a three-way. I don't know how that happened, and we were all sober! Anyway, it was an interesting experience.
And then, of course, on the girl side of things there's my girlfriend and that's about it. Others it was more foreplay with women (and other men).
I live a really weird life... and my relationship is pretty complex. Thus, I'm trying to stay out of ppls beds and trying hard not to flirt and make out with ppl. I don't want to end up with the wrong person who doesn't know and then finds out. Plus, things are so complex now that I need to take a step back anyway.
Posted on: September 18, 2007, 01:53:41 PM
Oh yeah, my gf is going to be my first person once I heal. I don't know who the next person would be, probably some guy but I don't know who.