I have been trans all my life. My beautiful spouse learned about it pretty much right from the start but of course then it was a novelty, a "thing", nothing life changing. We have two amazing kids, both know about me and we are good to each other. Over the years I tried hard to suppress "Monica" and worked like crazy which kind of paid off. But, like many, there was an emptiness that just about destroyed me, my spouse, and my relationship with my spouse. Years of therapy later, i moved out earlier this year, started laser, let my hair grow, started HRT. But i totally missed my spouse. More recently, we started seeing each other again, started communicating again, got back together and got engaged (for the second time). we are going to therapy together. we are trying hard to find common ground. Monica may co-exist but a complete transition is a deal breaker at this point. Maybe later, probably not though. One day at at time now. Some are really good, some pretty tough. I am hoping that I will find some comfort from this forum by seeing others dealing, adjusting, even thriving with similar situations. Hopefully I can I can contribute in a positive way, too Cheers, Monica
Hi, Monica. I just had a week on a couples outing with my wife of nearly 30 years. My androgeny has been a source of tension (forever, it seems), but we tried to get back to basics, and reconnect. It was sort of like dating all over again.
Welcome Monica to Susan's.
You will see that everyone here will taken you in with open arms to the family. It is great to hear that you and your spouse have been reconnecting. Finding a new ground to build on even helps those who have been dating for a very long time.
I hope I have not said something I should not have.
Again, welcome to Susan's :)
-Dalex
Hi Monica :icon_wave:
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Hi Monica, :icon_wave:
Welcome to our little family. Over 8170 members. That would be one heck of a family reunion.
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Hi, Monica! :D
Welcome to the family, sister. You are free to be you here, no one is going to judge. Everyone here is so supportive. It's an amazing place. I'm sure you'll fit right in.
-maggie
Thank you for the kind words, much appreciated. Life is a journey and I am looking at change in a positive way. Going from closeted to andro has already helped. Clothes are andro, at least on the weekend, hair is longer and more andro, light make-up helps, HRT since spring time has helped me both physically and especially psychologically, more calm, more me. Will probably have to reduce, maybe even stop HRT before changes are too pronounced but it sure has helped so far. I look forward to being part of this forum, it really looks like a good place to be. Cheers, Monica