So I'm trying to get the courage up to get my hair done more femininely the next time I'm at my stylist. Any suggestions?
Kisses
I initially just let mine grow long heavy metal style when I was 20-21. The longer it is, the more options you will have until male pattern baldness sets in. Then it gets complicated. That's what I got for waiting until I was 43 to transition. Now I have to let the new hairs up top catch up with the rest for at least another year before I can have a really cute 'do. Oh well, at least it looks like I won't be needing a transplant now, so I guess I did it just in time.
What exactly is long heavy metal style?
Seems I missed a comma. Long, heavy metal style is how it should have read.
It was 1989-90- look at some of the metal bands from back in the day with the mullets having been grown back out. Eventually the front caught up with the back and I let it grow for a couple of years after that. My point was that the more you have to work with, the more options you have.
Oh ok I understand now. Thanks for the advice
Kisses
Quote from: kaylagirl0806 on October 30, 2013, 08:20:03 PM
What exactly is long heavy metal style?
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Long hair not especially styled in particular way. Worn by both men and women as a style.
I highly recommend it.
Thanks. Any other recommendations?
Get your ears pierced in a professional studio, not by some hack at the mall.
I have seriously thought about that one Jill but I'm not sure what my parents would say :-\
When you turn 18... ;D
Now you've got me wishing. Sigh :-\
We can't really make much more than the most general suggestions without seeing your hair or at least having a description of it. Short hairstyles obviously tend to look more manish on males, even if the cut looks great on a woman. If you don't have long hair, start letting it grow. Parents and others always give boys a hard time about this, but if you keep the ends trimmed, use good conditioners and style it well it will be easier to accept. Your best bet is probably to talk to a hairdresser and confess that you want to look more like a girl. The right hairdresser will enjoy the challenge and help you with this. Just don't get talked into a high maintenance style that requires coming in often. One advantage to long girlier styles is you can sometimes go a couple of months or more without having anything cut or done.
~ Lyric ~
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Then you basically don't have hair right now. Even the Mily Cyrus look would be challenging at this point. My advice is just to stop getting haircuts. Smooth it back or use headbands until it's a long style (like chin length). Longer is better if you want a feminine look.
Quote from: kaylagirl0806 on October 30, 2013, 08:03:41 PM
So I'm trying to get the courage up to get my hair done more femininely the next time I'm at my stylist. Any suggestions?
Kisses
Just tell her this, like you're talking to one of us. :)
"What kind of cut do you want?"
"I want something that is a bit more...feminine. I'm tired of guy haircuts."
She'll help you out.
Only one truth with hair for people born in male forms.
Baldness. Most lose the choice eventually. If you are 20, enjoy it while you can.
Because most of us 40+ already have no options to grow it :)
My mother is kinda sparse for hair these days, and it needs to be curled just so to have any real ability to cover. She likely could due with a wig as much as me.
I wear a wig, and it looks like my actual hair. Only people that know I am actually really balding are not being fooled.
My friend Sierra though, damn her hair looks gorgeous. Makes all the difference. Cut like a woman, she truly doesn't look at all male.
If your stylist is aware you are TG, just tell her, you want her to do your hair properly and ask her for suggestions.
I took in my wig, told her can you adjust this, and let her use her expert opinion. When she asked my thoughts, I told her, 'I don't even know what will look right'. I simply told her, I wanted her to just do the right thing.
Well, there are plenty of styles. Any idea of what you are going for? Feminine hair is a bit vauge because it can be styled in many ways. What's important is that you find something you like and that it suits your face. Play around and experiment with it. Eventually you'll find what you like. In the meantime, grow it out and allow yourself some room to play with it. Have fun! :)
Without knowing what you look like, it's impossible to tell you what'd look good on you. Any stylist will tell you that.
If you look nowhere near feminine and your hair looks like in that picture, there's absolutely nothing that can be done with your hair but grow it out. There's no cut that's going to make it grow out all cute and feminine either. You've just gotta grow it out and leave it alone for at least 6-8 months.
Either don't get it cut, or let the stylist know that you have EVERY intent of growing every strand of it out and just want a very slight trim / shape. Otherwise, you'll likely be shorn on the sides and given a male looking haircut.
At any point if you come across a stylist that you really like, I would consider coming out to them so they know to transition you slowly from male -> andro -> female. Seriously, my stylist was one of the first people I came out to and I'm glad I did. It made the whole process easier. When I started going to him 4 years ago, my hair was only down to back of my head. Then about a year ago it was halfway down my neck in the very back, and I told him I was going to transition. He started subtly adding a few layers here and there, then one day I was suddenly full time! Okay going full time wasn't all THAT easy but you catch my drift with the hair ;)
Thank you for the suggestions Jenny and Alaina! I'm not sure I could come out to my stylist though. I always get too nervous. The closest I've got to asking for something more feminine was when last year I asked if I could start growing my bangs out and have them be wavy to one side of my face.
Kisses
Have you ever seen an androgynous hair cut you liked? Can you take a pic of it and ask to have your hair cut to that exact style?
I've always had trouble finding a cute androgynous style :-\ Any suggestions?
I really wish I was brave enough to ask for this though. This is really cute!
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If you're not even brave enough to ask for that, what makes you think we can find a feminine hair cut that you'd accept?
Quote from: kaylagirl0806 on November 02, 2013, 02:57:36 PM
I really wish I was brave enough to ask for this though. This is really cute!
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I actually had my hair cut in a somewhat similar fashion a few days ago. My bangs aren't as long (nor have they ever been) and the style isn't as choppy, but I feel like showing off my cheekbones made me 90% more andro.
As weird as it sounds, I brought a picture of a transguy to the salon to get my cut (just a basic Great Clips). I wasn't entirely comfortable bringing in a photo of a woman with the style I wanted, but using a man as an example relieved that anxiety. And, to be honest, some of the cutest hairstyles I found online were from /r/androgyny and /r/transtimelines - I doubt any of the posters would be offended. They upload photos to get criticism and give inspiration to early transitioners. I bet they'd be glad to help!
Thanks for the tips guys!
Love,
Kayla
Quote from: kaylagirl0806 on November 02, 2013, 02:57:36 PM
I really wish I was brave enough to ask for this though. This is really cute!
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I've seen guys wear their hair like that as well as women. In my opinion, you won't be outed if you ask for that sort of hair. They may think you are emo or a little fem, but I doubt they will assume you're trans. Just look at all the alternative rock bands. You have enough societal cover to help you keep it a secret. Worst comes to worst, they will maybe think you're gay; however, I doubt trans will enter many people's minds. Besides, hair stylists are typically really open people. The ones I know are out there and accepting people. Good luck!
Quote from: Joules on November 03, 2013, 04:46:06 AM
My hair is one of the very few physical blessings that I have in regards to transition. I had only lost a bit of the vellus hair in the upper corners of my face, and now even that is growing back.
I'm doing about what Jill did, just letting it grow and not cutting it at all. It was a nuisance for a while, shaggy and hard to maintain in any kind of shape but I'm almost past that point now. With luck, I hope to make a near-shoulder length in a few more months.
One thing to keep in mind, HRT made my hair finer and softer. It seemed like it was more of a feminine style just from that, I almost couldn't get it to look masculine. I kept trying the typical male side part but it just didn't look right. I finally settled on a middle part, it winds up as androgynous, maybe slightly feminine looking and is fairly easy to keep in place. Sort of an early Beatles look, if you are familiar.
This is just for the time being, I'm looking forward to doing much more with it some day!
I'm thanking god I'm lucky to still have my hair... I have straight fine hair that gets a bit wavy when it's long enough (the ears make it flip out a bit)... It just naturally falls to the sides, and I part it in the middle... it's quite androgynous that way.
One thing that has helped me is co-only washing. I don't use shampoo and have a natural conditioner I like. It keeps the hair just a bit oily so it sits flat - otherwise my dry to normal hair is impossible to keep in one spot.
Any idea how to stop the hairs along the part from breaking? They won't stay much more than an inch long and it makes my hair look fuzzy all along the part line.
My stylist has slightly cut my hair on the rear and sides as they form a mass. I need to win to make the mass of hair on top and it balances the cut.
I had long hair at a time. I cut because it was depressed about losing hair. I only learned about the finasteride there a few months (grrr, if only I had known earlier ...)
I hope to have the same mass of hair than before and the same rate of growth ...
What do you think?
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Quote from: Joules on November 03, 2013, 07:33:18 AM
You should talk to a doctor, but Finasteride may help you a lot. I take it as an AA because my kidneys didn't like Spiro. I'm not sure it's all that great as an AA though, it blocks DHT (the main culprit in male pattern baldness) but it's not as effective for Testosterone in general.
I takes proscar since April. There was some improvement, but nobody knows if it will come back as before (or better with ths, but I must be dreaming ...)
Quote from: Joules on November 03, 2013, 07:23:32 AM
HRT may make them softer and more compliant. Otherwise, all I can think of is taking Biotin. It is supposed to help with both hair quality and quantity. It is non-prescription, just take it like a vitamin (which it is, AKA B7 &/or H).
There is some controversy over Biotin: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/09/30/biotin-hair-skin-nails_n_4016804.html
Is it something I should stay away from before going on AAs? I don't want to grow more hair, grow body hair faster, make laser more difficult, etc... I'd previously bought some biotin and not taken it because of that!
Quote from: Joules on November 03, 2013, 07:42:02 AM
I don't know kabit, you have to make your own choice there. As far as laser goes, laser might be better done before HRT. I had some slight amount if torso hair, it could have been lasered before HRT, but it turned vellus after HRT, no chance for laser now. It's barely visible but still looks odd because it is longer and thicker than "first pass" vellus.
I am not planning on doing body hair laser. I hope it goes away - what doesn't should hopefully be more invisible after shaving than it is now.
I thought I'd heard biotin can make the facial hair more resistant to laser... and increase the sort of androgen insensitive body hair... but I don't know the truth and I don't want to make rumor. There's not a lot of info on biotin use both pre and post HRT ;)