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General Discussions => Education => Philosophy => Topic started by: katia on June 29, 2007, 06:54:45 PM

Title: can a person love another for "who they are"' if ..?
Post by: katia on June 29, 2007, 06:54:45 PM
the object (for lack of a better word) of their love doesn't know themselves?
Title: Re: can a person love another for "who they are"' if ..?
Post by: tinkerbell on June 29, 2007, 09:14:23 PM
Yes of course. You love a person for what you see in them, not for what they see in themselves.

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Title: Re: can a person love another for "who they are"' if ..?
Post by: RebeccaFog on June 29, 2007, 09:30:51 PM
Quote from: Katia on June 29, 2007, 06:54:45 PM
the object (for lack of a better word) of their love doesn't know themselves?

I believe so. My partner loved me for years while I didn't know myself.  She has issues now that I do know myself, but I think that is outside the scope of your question.


Have a groovy day.
Title: Re: can a person love another for "who they are"' if ..?
Post by: Fiona on June 30, 2007, 11:54:24 AM
No. You wouldn't be loving them you'd be loving someone else; or, what's worse, merely enjoying them.
Title: Re: can a person love another for "who they are"' if ..?
Post by: RebeccaFog on June 30, 2007, 03:06:33 PM
Quote from: Fiona on June 30, 2007, 11:54:24 AM
No. You wouldn't be loving them you'd be loving someone else; or, what's worse, merely enjoying them.

I think it is possible to love a person who doesn't know them self. I see that kind of confusion as an individual's trait that, in the right case, could be even more endearing. A person can not know themself and still be respectable and lovable.  In my mind.
Title: Re: can a person love another for "who they are"' if ..?
Post by: Kate on June 30, 2007, 05:47:33 PM
Quote from: Katia on June 29, 2007, 06:54:45 PM
the object (for lack of a better word) of their love doesn't know themselves?

I think that's partly what being in love is all about... showing someone just how beautiful they really are when they can't see it for themselves.

~Kate~
Title: Re: can a person love another for "who they are"' if ..?
Post by: Tay on June 30, 2007, 05:54:25 PM
I hope so.  Otherwise, I'm messed.

Because after all, I'm still discovering myself as I am away from my abusive family and in my capacity as a non-girl.  I have two people who I love very, very much and who love me very much.  If it is impossible for them to love me...

That's really depressing.
Title: Re: can a person love another for "who they are"' if ..?
Post by: Elizabeth on June 30, 2007, 08:16:55 PM
Quote from: Kate on June 30, 2007, 05:47:33 PM
Quote from: Katia on June 29, 2007, 06:54:45 PM
the object (for lack of a better word) of their love doesn't know themselves?

I think that's partly what being in love is all about... showing someone just how beautiful they really are when they can't see it for themselves.

~Kate~

Could not have said it better.

Love always,
Elizabeth