I'm a pretty bold person. I have no qualms going into public in girl mode. My girl voice is coming along nicely, considering I just started it. I'm also totally comfortable speaking in my boy voice.
I meet no hostility. BUT, here's the thing: people think I'm goofing around. I get lots of, "Ha ha! Yeah, that's funny!"
Uuuuuuurrrrghghhhhggggghhhhh.... gurgle.
People aren't being mean. I get lots of smiles, so I can't be mad at anybody, really. But it just sucks. People just see me as a clown. I don't want to be Mike Tyson (read that as "unintentionally funny."); I just want to be a girl.
Okay, I'm not on any hormones. I get told that I look like a girl as it is, so why do so many people see me as a dude who's clowning around? This is a rhetorical question, by the way.
Its all in how you carry yourself and present. There's more to it than just looking like a woman. Go to the mall and watch women as they walk by. Study their walk their body movements. Try and imitate what they do. Before I divorced, I studied everything about her. ive had several girlfriends tell me how good I present myself and have never had any any awkward moments
exactly what erin said ^
I did the same thing, except it was the opposite with me, when I first transitioned. I would pay close attention to a man's presentation of himself, and his behavior. I watched men and their mannerisms. I've learned to imitate them quite well, and now people don't question me very often.
Quote from: Erin Brianne on November 01, 2013, 07:37:19 PM
Its all in how you carry yourself and present. There's more to it than just looking like a woman. Go to the mall and watch women as they walk by. Study their walk their body movements. Try and imitate what they do. Before I divorced, I studied everything about her. I've had several girlfriends tell me how good I present myself and have never had any any awkward moments
Very good advice! Before I first stepped out dressed six years ago, that's exactly what I did. I observed the way women did things and then I tried to imitate what I saw until I had it down perfect. :) Presentation helps more in being a woman than just dressing as one.
This may sound silly but....Go to a shopping Mall or the equivalent and sit. Sit and watch and study, watch women (or men) and how they move, interact and behave. Do this for a few hours at a time. You will learn how people behave. It will be time well spent!
Remember, you are not your clothes, they are just on you.
The person in the clothes might be your problem if they are not taking the clothes seriously.
Then again, you might really just be a funny person eh :)
Comedians suffer the same problem the moment they try a serious role. I can't picture taking Jim Carrey seriously. Sorry Jim, you did too good of a job looking like a goof. I think a lot of people had trouble realizing, that James T Kirk is really not what William Shatner is all about.