No, it's probably not what you think. ;) Today I was hanging out my brother and his girlfriend. She is the kind of girl that I always wanted to be. She's cool, she's stylish, and she loves playing video games. She's also the only person I know in real life outside of my immediate family that knows that I am transgender. It's been bugging me a lot lately that even though I've dropped any efforts I might have been making to look masculine when I'm at home, I'm still not nearly where I think I need to be to be able to go out in public and be recognized as female. So I have very few sources of objective feedback as far as transitioning goes. Before she left today, I told her that I was really questioning whether I should completely transition, because more that anything else I wanted to make sure that I would make sense as a girl. As far as I'm concerned, even if transitioning is something I want to do, if people wouldn't see me as a girl without me forcing myself to act in a way that was unnatural, transitioning would be the wrong thing to do. I would just be putting on a different kind of act, and that's really no better than what I've been doing.
But her response was quite possibly the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me. She said she thought the way I acted was cute, and that she had no doubt whatsoever that it wouldn't seem unnatural if I were to present as female. I have never been called cute by a girl in my entire life. This is not situation under which I had originally envision it happening, but somehow this feels about a million times better anyway. Having someone like her saying she would have no problems seeing me as a girl is the biggest boost to my confidence I have had in a long time. I'm still not going to make my final decision about transitioning until the beginning of next year when I can see a therapist, but let's just say the scales are starting to tip. ;)
This makes me happy.
Girl,
Hold that comment close. That is wonderful affermation.
Hugs,
Jen
Good for you! I had someone say the same thing to me a couple of weeks ago, and I'm still holding on to that feeling. ;D
Awesome! ;D
It's a great feeling getting that kind of external confirmation. I remember being chuffed to bits when a girl I used to live with told me how she'd been looking back on things, and that when we used to hangout it was totally like 2 girlfriends chatting/watching TV series.
Girls often say that to other girls. I've been told I look cute by other girls. But don't you really want guys to say you look cute? as other girls are just generally complimentary to each other anyway.
Quote from: Naturally Blonde on November 10, 2013, 06:34:16 AM
Girls often say that to other girls. I've been told I look cute by other girls. But don't you really want guys to say you look cute? as other girls are just generally complimentary to each other anyway.
Umm... I'm not really sure about that right now. Back when I was still under the influence of testosterone I wasn't interested in guys at all. After two years without it, I really don't know anymore. I guess it would be validating if guys thought I was cute too, but if one was actually seriously attracted to me... I don't think I'm nearly far enough along in this whole process to be able to deal with that. Either way, what I was asking her was really more about my personality and mannerisms than my appearance.
You weren't asking me but, here's my perspective on it...
Quote from: Naturally Blonde on November 10, 2013, 06:34:16 AM
Girls often say that to other girls. I've been told I look cute by other girls.
Girls are more honest with their feelings. Guys don't talk much like that unless they want something. lol
QuoteBut don't you really want guys to say you look cute?
NO! lol I'm not into guys... But I did have some flirt with me....
Quoteas other girls are just generally complimentary to each other anyway.
Exactly, but they don't say it if hey don't mean it, because they are often catty.