We'll call them "family" for simplicity, as they've got the status that socially dictates they be called that. Hm.
If anyone recalls, I came out to Mother a while ago. I'm certain she doesn't get it, though she seems supportive. Evidently, she did tell Father when we got back to the house, though I wasn't sure she did until a couple weeks ago - I'll also have to make sure she did or didn't tell other family members, though I only care about Father's side (which is somewhat religious) knowing about it.
Evidently, he is supportive as well, and possibly a bit behind her in getting the full picture. I don't know what exactly she said, which I'll have to ask later. She didn't mention this at all until I asked about it, and the nature of what Father said to me after she told him was - ambiguous, for him. For all I knew, he could have been talking about my switching nicknames, for the way he speaks.
Sister wasn't surprised; I knew she wouldn't be, but I still chickened out of clarifying that I wasn't a transguy, but transandrogynous/neutrois. Will have to do this later.
What bothers me a bit is that nobody asked questions. Not about pronouns, not about plans for the future, not about anything. I feel like I'm pushing an envelope - I do plan to clarify some things (Father still calls me "she," "daughter," etc. although Mother had been instructed not to, and still seems to be avoiding pronouns for me herself - all understandable, but I worry about how much got across), and I know that we're all going to feel awkward with this. But, oh well. I need to clarify my plans for them, what I should be called, etc. so I can move farther along my transition.
If this isn't very well put together, I'm in an off mood and apologize. Thought it was about time for this topic, anyhow.
NIght Haven,
My experience has been they either totally accept it from the start, they totally reject it from the start or they watch and try to figure out how they feel and what their feelings mean. You seem to have a family of watchers. They are waiting for you to tell them what to feel or what to do so they can react.
For my wife, who was a watcher, the key has been communicaiton. Telling her what I am thinking, what I am doing and where this is going. Then, I do it all over agian a few hours hours later....
Hugs,
Jen
Thank you, that does sound like them and I hadn't considered it that way before.
I'll have to plan for what to tell and when... And make sure to get everything out when it's due, something that's caused me some trouble in the past.