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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: Cindy on November 25, 2013, 03:23:22 AM

Title: Acceptance - a different perspective.
Post by: Cindy on November 25, 2013, 03:23:22 AM
It is pretty obvious I'm out FT. I'm due for surgery and I'm totally accepted. My wife is, as many know, disabled and lives in a nursing home. Even though I can't pass as a guy and all the staff call me Cindy she is still worried about, I think, her care from people. This is totally understandable and an issue I have raised with the staff who are 100% with me.

My wife has wanted me to visit wearing 'trousers' which has been leggings or female pants. I'm not fooling anyone! But I prefer to wear skirts or dresses for comfort. But I will happily put up with her requirements.

Today I got a call to visit her urgently, I told her I was wearing a skirt and she agreed for me to come in anyway, the alternative was a long drive to get changed.

Of course no one batted an eyelid, she had four staff and her Doctor dealing with the issue of concern. Everyone called me by my name and no one was phased.

She is fine and the issue was minor in the end.

She phoned me a few minutes ago. She thanked me for calling in (as if I wouldn't) and said she was surprised how easily I was accepted by everyone.

She had been frightened that I would be insulted by people. She realised that I was not only accepted by everyone but that I was an attractive woman who has great legs. - A comment from her Doctor-

Her fear of me presenting as me was fear for me. A fear I do not and did not have.

Love is fear and fear can reflect love.

Hugs my wife.

I love you

Cindy; your husband.
Title: Re: Acceptance - a different perspective.
Post by: Ms Grace on November 25, 2013, 04:40:09 AM
That's lovely Cindy.  :)
Title: Re: Acceptance - a different perspective.
Post by: Ms. OBrien CVT on November 25, 2013, 10:27:27 AM
She is the one disabled and in a nursing home, and she is worried for you.  Awwwww  How sweet.

You two are the prefect couple, so in love.

Hugs and love to both of you.
Title: Re: Acceptance - a different perspective.
Post by: Robin Mack on November 25, 2013, 11:46:17 AM
Virtually hugging you both through my real tears.  Thank you once more, Cindy, for sharing a lovely post from the heart.  :)