I was watching TV and every time I saw commercials with women instead of thinking "wow she is hot or sexy" instead I was getting more jealous. I was angry that I was not them. There is a new commercial with Hayden Penettiere and I am so jealous of her. I was/am jealous of what she wears in the commercial and amazingly cute she it . My jealousy has gotten stronger. Not sure if this is normal or I just cant take living in this male body anymore. Anyone else have a period of time where they were so jealous of other women?
I use to be incredibly jealous. I just admire their beauty now.
Welcome to womanhood, dear. Every cis woman I know has those same feelings. It's a nearly universal condition of being female to wish you looked prettier / thinner / bustier / sexier / more fashionable / etc.
Treasure it. It's one of the things that makes us women.
Yeah, I had this problem and still do, but this is something that all women go through, trans or not. We just got a very unfortunate starting point which can make us even more envious at times.
Sometimes I'll see someone and think 'Her legs! I'm so jelly!' or something along that line. It's normal. Just don't end up hating them. Nobody is at fault.
Quote from: learningtolive on November 25, 2013, 06:06:43 PM
We just got a very unfortunate starting point which can make us even more envious at times.
It's confusing when you haven't accepted it yet too. I used to get so mad at myself when I'd see an attractive woman and feel that pang of jealousy, and think, "omg I wish I were her!"
Then I'd have to correct myself. "No, you wish you could have se-- damn those are nice shoes! What was just thinking about?"
Seriously though, I still do get jealous. It stings, but I'm pretty used to it by now. :-\
I I feel jealous of them all the time epecially the pretty ones
I used to get jealous of other women because of what they have and I don't. As my transition has progressed, I've learned there's no point in being jealous. I've learned to be happy with how I'm developing and that's good enough for me. Though I still need to lose like twenty more pounds.
Beer commercials are the worst triggers, I espicially hate anything that appeals to the desires of perverted men.
Truthfully I tend to avoid TV, the simplicist of things get me depressed, envy is a powerful thing for me right now. I can barely look at any cis-girl without getting hit by it hard.
I had a terrible envy for every woman I saw (includking the girls here on Susan's). Every women or girl had something I couldn't have, no matter how old, pretty, or plain. Then everything changed as I let the woman inside run free in my transition.
Oh, I still watch, and often envy pretty women for their bodies and beauty. But then I guess I'm an old lesbian. ;)
I've been jealous of girls/women for as long as I can remember. Having to play football in junior & high school all I could think about was the girl cheerleaders & how I should be one of them, dressed nice & dancing around having fun.
Quote from: Jillian on November 25, 2013, 06:15:43 PM
"No, you wish you could have se-- damn those are nice shoes! What was just thinking about?"
This thought pattern was one of my early clues that I am a transsexual LOL..... i'd see an attractive woman and my thoughts were NOT the usual male ones. I'd notice her hair and jewelry and nails and shoes and her figure and i'd wish that I was her.
Now I am transitioning, and I know that I'll never win a beauty pageant but I can be the authentic ME which is far more important.
Thank you for this post I thought I was a freak for feeling this way. I would see a pretty outfit on a pretty girl and was not thinking about getting her into bed but DAMN I wish I could look like that in public!! I thought I was going crazy!!!
I know really! This is how I am all the time now. I use to see women and think I wouldn't mind having her in bed. Now I see them and wish I was them. Wish I was them getting the attention and dressing and looking cute.
I have started to wear undergarments, at last, all the time now. I feel free!! My therapist is excellent and I know someday I will be a total woman! :)
funny this notion of jealousy... i have always admired feminine women, fantasized about becoming them and really see them more as a source of inspiration rather than anything else. jealousy to me is tinged with potential aggressive behavior. how about being envious? isn't that softer than being jealous? it still says to me 'wow, i wish i were like her or could dress like her'. cute, pretty and naturally feminine women continue to provide a daily unending gift of inspiration and wonderment.
i have a feeling some girls on this site may say that true ggs do feel jealous of other 'beautiful' women as they are wont to do, ogling each other up and down, getting the claws out and that it is therefore a sign of being or thinking like a woman. maybe so but i admire women too much to feel jealous yet i still feel like one of them deep down.
Honestly not sure it is jealousy, but I contribute this to one big reason why I haven't had a girl-friend in a long time. When I see a cute and attractive girl. I find myself thinking wow wish I could look like her, or how lucky she is to be so attractive. Instead of wanting to date them. Yet I am still attracted to the female body....
I can't say I've ever done this when looking at attractive men. I will say I was jealous of their popularity back in middle and high-school. Yet middle and high-school was when I my desire to be a girl was really on overdrive.
First time round I was maybe a bit jealous but I think I was probably depressed more than anything. This time around I'm not much of either, sure I notice how beautiful a woman may be but I'll admire that beauty rather than get jealous.
For me I wouldn't say I'm jealous just envious. It happens at the oddest times. Like I remember going to see the last Twilight movie. I was sitting behind this couple. Before the movie her boyfriend got up and went to get her a drink and snacks. They sat smiling and laughing feeding each other popcorn and nachos. Then when the movie started he laid his head on her shoulder. I couldn't help but think if I were a female I could "Have that too" without trying. Or when I'm out and I see a woman who's style reflects my own. Someone who's well groomed and put together out shopping with a friend smiling having fun without a care in the world. It makes me sad sometimes when I think about the fact that they just are who they are and that I'm literally working just to get what they didn't do anything to get.
Perpetually jealous, but there is more to it than that.
It frustrates me to see a birth female neglecting or not respecting her own body, it was a wonderful gift bestowed on her by her parents and I hate to see something I would kill for treated with so little regard.
Quote from: suzifrommd on November 25, 2013, 05:55:00 PM
Treasure it. It's one of the things that makes us women.
Truer words were never spoken! Sums it up for me. :)
Be her or do her, that is the question.
barbie~~
I am the same way I feel it the most when I see a group of women out shopping together. For them it is such a natural thing to do and there just out having fun while for me when I shop for clothes I'm full of anxiety over the experience (though I am getting more comfortable doing it)