Had dinner with a group of fellow artists and writers tonight. We're putting together a small online art "feedback" service. The woman behind it mentioned a party she had thrown in 2005 that was themed a future party, where you were meant to go dressed as how you imagined yourself five years in the future and to spend the whole party pretending you were a successful future version of yourself where all your dreams and projects had come true. Someone piped up and said we should do that for our next get together. They don't yet know about my transition so if we did have a future-self themed meeting they're in for a very big surprise I suppose!
I'd like to think I will be a successful female writer and artist... so that's what I'd be going as. What's your five year plan?
Quote from: Ms Grace on December 06, 2013, 06:41:21 AM
What's your five year plan?
Great question, Grace.
I'm already successful in my career, so any growth will probably be in outside work.
I'd like to get involved in the effort for transgender rights in some way, maybe take a more global role in educating people about transgender and about the issues we face.
Hmm, five years.
Grad school would be coming up, I'd have gone very far in my transition (Doctor says it's totally possible for me start HRT by the end of January), hopefully be passing without trying. Ideally, have some committed partner, written some important papers, and just be happier.
The next five years feel like a pretty good time.
I'm a successful self-published game designer with at least one title complete. I'm also married and have an adopted child.
My plan, get away from my mother, start E, and see my boy friend, theres a long shot for SRS, but there's always hope!
My hobby is mathematics. I have this mathematical theory that I hopefully and should have finished and published by then.
Retire, obtain SRS and maybe a BA. Move to a warmer climate.
My five year plan is to become a successful writer and no longer have to depend on software development for a living. I intend to be married to my fiancee, and have integrated our families successfully. I also intend to be out of my divorce-imposed debtload and back on the road to saving for a grand retirement. :)
Bachelors in Sound Engineering, successful or semi-successful performer in the music industry,
Maybe SRS (still on the fence about it but considering it more and more every day), and somehow contribute to the trans community by educating or working at a center or something.
Fffppfft who knows? xD I have longer term goals I guess, and I'm young yet, so I feel like in five years I'll have tried different things out and maybe lean towards one path or another.
One path is finally finishing a screenplay, selling it, maybe contributing to getting it filmed, and I'd use the monies to pay off my student loans and transition further. I'd get FFS, voice surgery (until then I'm just going to be mute), and maybe SRS. Of course, I can hope whatever else I do will eventually pay these things as well. And no matter what I would like to get into the film industry one way or another.
Maybe I'll move to Vancouver, BC. Maybe I'll move to Los Angeles. Or maybe I'll stay in Seattle.
I may or may not still be living with my best friend. Hopefully we'll have a bigger place by then!
Or perhaps I'll be living with a master/mistress couple as their pet. Or some other similar arrangement. Or maybe I'll have a boyfriend, or a girlfriend, or both?
In any case, I'll be out of school with an AS and I'll likely have at least tried out an entry-level position as a computer programmer. Would I stick with that career-path? Would I have been promoted? Or will I be planning out the details of starting my own business? Who knooows?
I could even run away and join the Cirque du Soleil! xD Life is full of possibilities! :D
Ashey I hope you don't mind but I think you picture is rather cute.
Quote from: evecrook on December 06, 2013, 03:35:32 PM
Ashey I hope you don't mind but I think you picture is rather cute.
Thanks. :)
In 5 years, I want to be a brain surgeon, a rock star and a race car driver, then run for president.
In all seriousness, I will settle for simply existing as the real me while enjoying the happy little things life has to offer.
5 years is kind of my transition plan time, so I should have it all done by then and be twiddling my thumbs looking round distractedly for the next thing to do ;D
Seriously, I will have have moved on from where I am now probably working from home as a translator, and enjoying life to the full ;)
I'm retired from the struggle with five different sources of income which is nice, but it would have been better on the front end of my marriage when it would have been really handy instead of driving junk cars and struggling to make ends meet, living from paycheck to paycheck. Now that the thrash is all behind me, I'm hoping to be alive and healthy five years down the road. Doesn't seem like much of a goal does it? But when you hit 70 it really is something to look forward to and strive for. Work out, eat my spinach, get a little, that's my secret! :D
In 5 years I probably will be prepping for my final finals. As a female, of course.
I own land & a farm so I plan to grow lots of roses & flowers. Grow a garden with lots of nice veggies.
Take care of my body, eat better & exercise a lot.
Hopefully in five years I will have forgotten about all the pain & expense of electrolysis & SRS surgery.
Maybe be with a man if he's nice & truly loves me. Maybe marriage however probably not. It would be nice to snuggle in bed with a good man & received some good sex if I can climax after SRS. I so hope I can.
And just enjoy life.
In five years I should have the farm paid off, maybe get some dairy cows and a bigger laying flock and be homeschooling my baby as well as teaching him to grow his own food and raise and butcher livestock.
Quote from: Oriah on December 06, 2013, 08:03:18 PM
In five years I should have the farm paid off, maybe get some dairy cows and a bigger laying flock and be homeschooling my baby as well as teaching him to grow his own food and raise and butcher livestock.
Cool that you also have a farm. Good luck GF, enjoy.
Loving all these positive futures, girls!
Quote from: ZoeM on December 06, 2013, 09:57:49 AM
I'm a successful self-published game designer with at least one title complete. I'm also married and have an adopted child.
Hey cool! I'm an aspiring game designer as well. Doing the CS track now, learning about design on the side. Hope to start small projects once I'm more settled into myself.
Quote from: evecrook on December 06, 2013, 10:10:00 AM
My hobby is mathematics. I have this mathematical theory that I hopefully and should have finished and published by then.
Math is awesome. What is your theory about?
Quote from: Thylacin on December 07, 2013, 12:22:47 AMHey cool! I'm an aspiring game designer as well. Doing the CS track now, learning about design on the side. Hope to start small projects once I'm more settled into myself.
I don't know what I'm going to do with my computer science/studio art degree. Game design is a possibility, but I don't know. I just want to have a career, and be a loving wife at the same time, start a family with adopted children in need.
I wrote a 5 year plan that involved moving, coming out, job etc etc that my therapist made me do before going onto HRT. Things happened much, much sooner than I thought and completely out of order. For example, I planned on having SRS before moving far away to a more accepting city. Well I moved and I still don't have a vagina, lol.
However, nearly everything I planned for in my 5 year plan was done in 2. It wasn't done by hard work either, just by (mostly) luck and a little bit of confidence given to me by a dear friend.
5 years from now...?
I plan to have finished my BS in Nursing,
I hope to have completed my MS in Nursing and just get started on finding an Emergency Nurse Practitioner program...
By then my wife will have her BS in chemistry and will be teaching or in research...
We will finally have that little bundle of joy we've been wanting for awhile...
Will we be in Austin? Or Houston? Or San Antonio?
For all we know I won't make the cut for clinical rotations and will be going for my PhD in History (will lecture on History for food)!
All I know is, if the door to success is slammed in my face, this girl is getting a rock and breaking a window! >:-)
Quote from: FrancisAnn on December 06, 2013, 08:42:49 PM
Cool that you also have a farm. Good luck GF, enjoy.
Thanks, it's a lot of fun!
What are the laws about transsexuals adopting anyway?
Quote from: Ashey on December 07, 2013, 10:19:01 AM
What are the laws about transsexuals adopting anyway?
I imagine it varies wildly. They recently passed laws in my home state that allowed homosexual couples to adopt, but I don't know if that included trans* people...probably not. :( But adoption laws are a state issue in Australia, I'd be surprised if they weren't in the US too...?
To my understanding, a person is a person under the law. Once your gender is officially changed, according to the state, you are legally that gender and they can't treat you any differently. That's the one advantage to the law being oblivious to transgender issues, for the most part.
Now if your legal gender makes your relationship a homosexual one, then the states may weigh in (for now, but that's changing too). For the most part, legally, it's a gender/sexuality difference. If you are a female with a male partner, or a male or a female without a partner, adoption is an option (although individual judges/social workers can cause issues).
I'm going to finish my 4th novel and publish it all around the world and let Peter Jackson make it a movie. ;D
Five years hey...
In five years I will have found myself a partner, and have a baby here or on the way via some means ( partner's gender depending ). And we'd be considering having another child pretty soon after the first. Aside from babies, by that time I might have considered buying a mortgage depending on what happens with our insane property market. Also, I will have found a new career by then, which I might have to give up for motherhood. But all the while I'll be so incredibly happy... Have a lot of life to live.
I honestly don't know what life will be like in a month because job/school etc are all up in the air right now, and my plans usually fail so I have to change them.
Id rather not answer too, cause my plans fail every single time as well ...
So if I dont plan anything this time maybe good things will happen ;)
Quote from: FalsePrincess on December 09, 2013, 03:23:38 PM
Id rather not answer too, cause my plans fail every single time as well ...
So if I dont plan anything this time maybe good things will happen ;)
I have been thinking of just winging it too lol :)
At the rate I'm going I'll still be having facial electrolysis if alive.
Quote from: FrancisAnn on December 13, 2013, 08:36:04 AM
At the rate I'm going I'll still be having facial electrolysis if alive.
Ugh how I know! Hang in there Francis and don't get despondent over it, there's not a soul here that isn't faced with the same thing and those that have been totally cleared still have to get an occasional touch-up.
Quote from: FrancisAnn on December 13, 2013, 08:36:04 AM
At the rate I'm going I'll still be having facial electrolysis if alive.
Quote from: Shantel on December 13, 2013, 08:58:54 AM
Ugh how I know! Hang in there Francis and don't get despondent over it, there's not a soul here that isn't faced with the same thing and those that have been totally cleared still have to get an occasional touch-up.
It's agonizingly slow for me. My electrologist told me that a lot of her TS clients become good friends afterwards because they've spent so much time together discussing their lives. Anyway, she transitioned about 10 years ago, and yesterday said a TS friend and her got together on Wednesday to do each others random hairs. Apparently they do this every couple months for a touch-up and dinner.
Quote from: kathyk on December 13, 2013, 10:49:04 AM
It's agonizingly slow for me. My electrologist told me that a lot of her TS clients become good friends afterwards because they've spent so much time together discussing their lives. Anyway, she transitioned about 10 years ago, and yesterday said a TS friend and her got together on Wednesday to do each others random hairs. Apparently they do this every couple months for a touch-up and dinner.
My former electrologist's biggest business came from post menopausal women who were getting unwanted black facial hairs and mid-eastern women who have awful facial hair problems due to ethnicity. MtF's were just the light end of her clientele.
I had a lot of beard clearing during my first tilt at this, bit it was with a single needle and a less efficient technique. Still, that was numerous one hour sessions over a two year period (on the rare occasions I could afford it) and they got did of a lot on my cheeks. They barely touched the mo or under the chin though so that's where the majority of work remains. This time it's a multi probe (32!) using the (apparently) most effective method in three hour sessions. My face looks like I stuck my head in a bee hive for a few hours afterwards but I'm hopeful I've got less than 100 hours (or 33 session, one a fortnight) to go... can it possibly be that it will be all gone in a bit over a year? I sure hope so!!
I don't know after looking at all these posts I might just stick to the hormonal imbalance excuse
It is not surprising to me that so many of us are involved with the arts, human services and creative talents. Yes, feeling our way thru the maze has been good for us in some ways?
Like a few other seniors I will be happy to be vital and dancing 5 years from now. I like to imagine that my seeming obsession with transition will have given way to a comfortable state of just being.
On the aspirational front world peace would be handy but, again like my sisters. making a positive difference within the local and global community is reward a plenty.
And then there is the more personal world and I envision an intact family, life partner and warm circle of friends. Sheesh I am starting to get myself all teary and can't imagine how to translate this into Grace's original party costume.
Speaking of parties. A group of psychologists plan a costume party and agree to dress as a psychological concept. The party is great fun till one enigmatic character shows up naked with a pear stuck on the end of his penis and people try to guess his concept. He seems to grow more remorseful with each wrong guess rolling his eyes, sighing and occasionally thrusting away. Finally unable to contain himself he says "isn't it obvious, I'm f**king despair!
Have a fruitful holiday ;D