I went out for a meal with a group of friends the other night as well as to have a few drinks at a pub/club. This is a group of friends who constantly take the mock for me being 'girly' or being 'gay', but not bad enough to feel bullied or hurt. Of anything it almost confirms that I am trans.
It was only a little thing but my friend's girlfriend bought a couple of pitchers for the table for her and all the other girls at the table while all the guys (including me) had a beer. However plans changed halfway through so it was just me, my friend and his girlfriend and neither pitcher had drunk that much. So I was offered to help finish them. It's only a little thing but it was so nice to be able to drink what it is stereotypically a 'girly' drink and to not be made fun of. Even when a couple of friends turned up later who had been out on a date saw me they made no comment. It was really surprising because this is a group who really pick up on anything like this. It was only small but so nice.
Those little things give us hope...even though they doesnt really mean much or done to flatter us...
Actually for me 2 examples come in mind...
One time we were hanging with my friends and we were talking about adams apples, so one of the guys turns to me and says "you dont even have one you are just like a woman"
and one other time I was with a friend walking and we spot some other friends on the street and when we approached to say hello one guy said to my friend " seeing you from afar I though you found a girlfriend"
oh wait and one other time on my home village we were having dinner and I didnt ate much so my grandpa told me I was acting as a girl ,that though made me sad too cause he had an angry tone...
I think the mick taking is just what 'mates' do. If I protested to being called 'gay' or 'girly' I think they would stop but they're not trying to hurtful. It is quite likely that I will come out to them as trans in 2014 (but the rest of my family first) they would be quite accepting.
No you are totally right thats what mates do...
and dont worry they will be accepting