Hey Girlies
I just thought it would be nice to have a thread where we could all reflect on 2013 and let people know what steps we have taken this year! And talk about our hopes for next year!
My year has been crazy!
. I started by moving 200 miles away from my family home to Sheffield for a job in construction design ( still massively in denial about my trangendered feelings)
. I started to dress alot more and as i had money i was able to buy more and more clothes.
. I started venturing out, and was still very secretive about being Zoe.
. In June, my housemate at the time, found my makeup and clothes, and confronted me about it, she was really good about it and when i told her that i think im transexual, she said she would help me come out to my other housemates if i wanted!
. In Early September i started to see a Councillor. Talking to her helped me come to terms with who i really am, and it was after two sessions, that i accepted to myself im transexual, and i really need to do something about this!
. In late september i went on a night out for the first time as Zoe, and ive never felt so alive! It was a transgendered night out in Leeds called Leeds First Friday. It was the first time ive ever gone out and felt good about myself, and it gave me so much confidence to be the real me!!!
. In Early October i Came out to my best friend and she was so accepting!! I also came out to some other friends and they were all fine with it, one of my mates actually told me he was a transvestite and had considered transitioning himself in the past!!!!!
. Late October i met up with my mates who i had come out to, it was the first time they had seen me as Zoe, and i was so nervous. It was a tad awkward for me at first, as i was getting the usual questions, but it was totally amazing and we had such a good night out!!!! :) My friend who's getting married in 2 years time also said i could be one of her bridesmaids, which took me totally by surprise!!!!! :D
. At the start of December i moved out of my old flat and moved in with a housemate who i had told previously i was trans! I started to live as a woman, outside of work and its been amazing!!! Probably the best month of my life!! :)
So yea . . . Thats been my year! Its been pretty crazy, ive gone from still being massively in denial, to fully accepting myself, and embracing being a transexual! I'm so glad i did as living as Zoe is the greatest thing ive ever done!! :)
Next year hopefully i will start on Hormones and find a more accepting work environment so that i can live 24/7 as the real me!!!! Im gonna be starting an NVQ level 2 course in beauty therapy, and im hoping that i will be able to be a beautician or makeup artist in the future! :)
So what steps did you all take this year?
What are your hopes for next year?
Zoe
xx
Well, I'm not sure it was a case of me taking steps as steps being taken for me - whether I liked it or not!
My wife finally decided she couldn't live with me, even if I didn't transition - the possibility that I might, one day, just made her too scared and too tense.
Then she outed me to my daughters, who kind of knew already but had pretty much buried the whole thing, since years had passed since I first tentatively suggested that I had issues with my gender and I'd not done anything obvious about it since.
So that was my marriage gone and my family blown apart (though I am slowly trying to put the pieces back together, at least so far as my kids are concerned).
That means that early next year we'll be selling the house where we've lived for more than 20 years and my wife and I will go our separate ways.
And THAT means that after decades of denial, suppression, wasted time and money on therapy and drugs to somehow 'cure' me and make me 'normal' ... and after years of knowing what has to happen, but not having the courage to do it - and not wanting to wreck the family I love ... 2014 will be the year that I finally, formally, definitely start my transition.
It's got to go slowly. A slew of personal an professional commitments mean that i have to be able to present male - some of the time, at least - until the summer of 2016. By then I will be 30lbs lighter. I'll have removed all my beard. I'll have had LOTS of voice training and practice. I'll have taken hormones for 12-18 months (could be pushing it, staying male after that long, but anyway ...). And then it's full time, FFS, a sweet new voice c/o Yeson ... and just a year till SRS.
Well, that's my 2014 New Years Resolution, anyway! :)
In August - Finally started to come to terms with my desires of wanting to be female
I started - Shaving arms, hands, chest ect (Actually also shaving legs now also)
I have been thinking of way to come out
I made some progress in my voice yet still to afraid to test it out...
I started telling some friend online hoping it will help me come out to some RL friends.
I've started doing exercises that focus on my waist and hips (one can hope to hour glass them areas a bit pre-hrt!)
My year hasn't really been that crazy - honestly I think I still in a bit of denial. My hope for next year is I just get fed up enough to break through my fears and be able to muster up enough courage to tell my family so maybe I can move forward.
It is a start at least!
Let's see.
On HRT since August, changed to patches in October & added fin. pills in November. I feel good & some changes have happened to my body. My breasts are growing some & I sure feel so much nicer. My skin is smoother, etc...
I retired so no job to be concerned with however I still have some friends & relatives that I'm not open to so I do not see them much. However I've added a lot of new friends that like me very much as Francis. They support me more than I thought they would. One woman friend is very excited & supportive that I can finally have my SRS one day & really become her sister. Several other women friends wonder why I waited so long in life to become normal.
I've had 6-7 electrolysis visits & some facial hair has been removed however I still have so much hair left to clean away. It hurts & I dread each visit. My lady is nice & does all she can to reduce the pain however it still just hurts.
For 2014:
I need to find a new physician for blood work & to hopefully increase my HRT levels so my body can change more. I think my levels are low. I need to come out to more friends & forget the one's that do not matter to me anyway.
For the most part just relax more. take HRT every day & allow time to make the changes. I get it too big of a rush & sometimes become too frustrated such a slow change. Continue electrolysis no matter the pain.
Hopefully 2014 will be a good year.
Also, I've had several men that wanted to meet me & date some. I've delayed because I'm hopeful for my SRS soon, maybe late 2012 however I'm sure this will not actually happen. So I am going to date men again and enjoy being a woman the best I can. I've always loved being with a man as a hetrosexual woman. I need some love & pashion in my life for 2014 & love to be desired by a man.
I got a full time job as a female. That's one of the biggest steps you can take in transition. That indicates you can do ANYTHING for yourself, as yourself. Not only that, but it is a job that deals with the public and is typically filled with females. My wardrobe is getting larger too.
In 2014 I'm hoping to get enough money together to get SRS.
Well had an appointment with Charring Cross early in the year and I knew they were strict so I worked on my voice a lot early in the year and on makeup and stuff so I could go to the appointment fully dressed and try to get hormones. Got the makeup done well but voice still needs work. Either way it did not work because NHS rules are stupid. So I kicked the NHS to the kerb and booked myself to see a private doctor in the summer.
Kept working on my voice some more made some progress I think, though I find it hard to tell personally. I always think it sounds stupid but sometimes I think it is OK. Gonna get there in the end though for sure.
So saw that doc a few times and got hormones near the end of this year. Good times ahead I think. Will have to start electrolysis soon though, blonde/gingery hair might be good for lack of shadow but is not good for laser.
Hopefully will be full time by summer .I'll have been on HRT for 8 months. hopefully will be alright . Need to hit the thrift stores for clothes. Starting out slow on acquiring clothes I think mostly skirts and blouses help it go farther. It's happened so fast but been brewing for so long.
2013 - realized, after years of mental issues (depression, anxiety, general craziness and lack of focus), that it could all be down to my gender. Started to piece together the jigsaw with 20/20 hindsight. Bought some makeup, cheap wig (Party City - hideous), saw myself for the first time as Me. More importantly, saw the potential. Lost 30lbs. Quit drinking.
2014 - Therapy. Grow hair (and see how well Minoxidil and Finasteride work). Lose weight. Try to figure out whether I want to go forwards and commit to transition, or whether I am comfortable as myself right now.
It's been an interesting 2013, and 2014 promises more of the same - lots of ups and lots more downs, I'm sure.
I hope 2014 turns out to be a year where we all make progress towards who we really are. :)
Quote from: Seras on December 31, 2013, 10:23:33 AM
Well had an appointment with Charring Cross early in the year and I knew they were strict so I worked on my voice a lot early in the year and on makeup and stuff so I could go to the appointment fully dressed and try to get hormones. Got the makeup done well but voice still needs work. Either way it did not work because NHS rules are stupid. So I kicked the NHS to the kerb and booked myself to see a private doctor in the summer.
Kept working on my voice some more made some progress I think, though I find it hard to tell personally. I always think it sounds stupid but sometimes I think it is OK. Gonna get there in the end though for sure.
So saw that doc a few times and got hormones near the end of this year. Good times ahead I think. Will have to start electrolysis soon though, blonde/gingery hair might be good for lack of shadow but is not good for laser.
Are NHS doctors still insisting on patients presenting as female BEFORE they have hormones? I thought the rules had changed - I've certainly seen NHS policy statements online that seem to suggest hormones can be given sooner. As it is, I think they're just being cruel, frankly. I know that I don't want to go public - even remotely public - until I feel confident that I am far enough along in the process to stand some chance of blending in. Of course it's unrealistic to expect to slip right into being seen as female from Day One. I just want the odds to be a little more in my favour ... I guess that means I'll have to go private all the way, then!
2013-
September, came to terms with myself
October, came out to my parents and began therapy sessions and started presenting as myself in public and at the therapy sessions
November, came out to my sister and her husband, had my first laser session, went to therapy and some support group meetings
December, started HRT on my birthday!
2014-
I hope to go full time sometime around the summer. I'm also thinking about getting a degree in nursing to get a better job in a much more accepting field.
I did so many things...Basically from a normal guy I became what I am now,,,transexual is what I should call it? :)
Anyway I have a long way to go , I just wish that 2014 will be the year that Ill find peace and be myself...
Btw
@megumi
I started hrt one day after my birthday
december 11 XD
Quote from: Carlita on December 31, 2013, 11:50:04 AM
Are NHS doctors still insisting on patients presenting as female BEFORE they have hormones? I thought the rules had changed - I've certainly seen NHS policy statements online that seem to suggest hormones can be given sooner. As it is, I think they're just being cruel, frankly. I know that I don't want to go public - even remotely public - until I feel confident that I am far enough along in the process to stand some chance of blending in. Of course it's unrealistic to expect to slip right into being seen as female from Day One. I just want the odds to be a little more in my favour ... I guess that means I'll have to go private all the way, then!
In many places they want you to present as yourself in order to see how serious you are. The system I work with here in the states is different from yours but the doctor I go to for my HRT is that way. From what I've been told by others he has turned a few away because they didn't present as female and showed up in male mode. One girl who passes 100% was denied by him years ago because of it and she hates his guts to this day but I see the reasoning behind it. HRT has quite a few implications, namely irreversible effects of long time usage. While yeah it's cruel that we are forced to go out into the world as who we are even if we DON'T pass at all, that experience is valuable to us in many ways. I found out exactly what I've always known and know the direction I need to go now because of that experience. Had I stayed hidden at home and waited till the day when I "passed" it would have never came simply because the system that I have to work within to transition. They have to cover their bases and there's not much that can be done about it.
Quote from: Megumi on December 31, 2013, 12:08:27 PM
In many places they want you to present as yourself in order to see how serious you are. The system I work with here in the states is different from yours but the doctor I go to for my HRT is that way. From what I've been told by others he has turned a few away because they didn't present as female and showed up in male mode. One girl who passes 100% was denied by him years ago because of it and she hates his guts to this day but I see the reasoning behind it. HRT has quite a few implications, namely irreversible effects of long time usage. While yeah it's cruel that we are forced to go out into the world as who we are even if we DON'T pass at all, that experience is valuable to us in many ways. I found out exactly what I've always known and know the direction I need to go now because of that experience. Had I stayed hidden at home and waited till the day when I "passed" it would have never came simply because the system that I have to work within to transition. They have to cover their bases and there's not much that can be done about it.
I agree with this! I think living as Zoe has been a huge step for me, and has 100% confirmed that i wish to have hormones in the near future, and that hormone therapy is gonna be the correct path for me!
However everyone is different, and i can totally understand why someone wouldn't want to live in there preferred gender without having taken hormones before. So it is totally mean of a doctor to refuse access to hormones for people!
I think this ducument may be of interest for people hoping to transition on the NHS (Pg 24 & 25 talks about hormone treatment)
http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/files/pdfversion/CR181.pdf
It can be seen as cruel. I've been more fortunate because I take to my mothers side in facial features and have for a long time strolled around in public with no problems, especially with well done make up. Even before I had long hair I had this cheap wig that didn't look to good but nobody said any thing. When I was in high school I always thought about going out but was terrified of doing it. I took me to the point I just couldn't stay inside any more because I wanted to live normally and not hidden. Yea, it is cruel but there seems to be a valid point behind it. Once you have the operation you really are stuck with your decision . A famous tennis player Rene Richards did the entire transition and realized later she had made a mistake and tried to reverse the operation. I don't know how successful it was ,but I doubt it was the same as before.
Here's a brief synopsis:
Spring:
-accepted a new job outside of the classroom (not a conscious step, but an important piece of context)
-came out to my wife (not planned)
-came out to my sister
Summer:
-discovered Susans
-started counseling
-firmly decided that transition was necessary
-first psych appointment
-first pedicure (fun little first!)
-came out to my son (again, unplanned)
-came out to my parents
autumn:
-started my new job
-first endo appointment
-started HRT
-first changes ;D
-hit the 2500 post milestone on Susans :P
-began facial hair removal
Quote from: Zoe Louise Taylor on December 31, 2013, 12:33:21 PM
I agree with this! I think living as Zoe has been a huge step for me, and has 100% confirmed that i wish to have hormones in the near future, and that hormone therapy is gonna be the correct path for me!
However everyone is different, and i can totally understand why someone wouldn't want to live in there preferred gender without having taken hormones before. So it is totally mean of a doctor to refuse access to hormones for people!
I think this ducument may be of interest for people hoping to transition on the NHS (Pg 24 & 25 talks about hormone treatment)
http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/files/pdfversion/CR181.pdf
Thanks for the link! I was particularly struck by the following sentences: "Change of role must be taken into account when
endocrine treatment is being considered, but administration of hormones is not contingent on role change and patients should not have to take this step or be obliged to make a commitment to it." Well said!!
In my own case, I have a specific problem. I'm by no means a celebrity, but by virtue of my work, my transition is almost certain to become public. So I really can't afford to be spotted, and then publicly outed looking anything other than reasonably passable. Quite apart from anything else, the harm and embarrassment to my children would be too great. That's why I have to do things very slowly,and very privately - in every sense of the word.
One of the major, early influences on my attitude to transition, when I first began to think about it seriously, five years ago or so, was Andrea James and her 'Transsexual Roadmap'. Referring particularly to late transitioners (an I am VERY late!!), she wrote: 'You should make going full-time your primary goal. I also recommend finishing as many physical things as possible before going full-time. It's sad, but your physical presentation will have an enormous effect on the level of acceptance you'll have.'
I think she's absolutely right, and so one of my major resolutions for 2014 and 2015 is to work really hard on preparing the ground before I step out into the world in my new self.
But that's just me ... whatever works for other ladies, that's what they should do!
Quote from: Zoe Louise Taylor on December 31, 2013, 12:33:21 PM
I agree with this! I think living as Zoe has been a huge step for me, and has 100% confirmed that i wish to have hormones in the near future, and that hormone therapy is gonna be the correct path for me!
However everyone is different, and i can totally understand why someone wouldn't want to live in there preferred gender without having taken hormones before. So it is totally mean of a doctor to refuse access to hormones for people!
I think this ducument may be of interest for people hoping to transition on the NHS (Pg 24 & 25 talks about hormone treatment)
http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/files/pdfversion/CR181.pdf
I think taking the plunge is the only way to get over the fear of passing or not passing. By taking that big step, it reaffirms the trasnsition. I have taken very casual steps towards transitioning. Now I feel emotionally ready for it, despite my family and friends not backing me up.
Quote from: izzy on December 31, 2013, 02:02:20 PM
I think taking the plunge is the only way to get over the fear of passing or not passing. By taking that big step, it reaffirms the trasnsition. I have taken very casual steps towards transitioning. Now I feel emotionally ready for it, despite my family and friends not backing me up.
small steps for me has helped alot
2012 - March, faced being trans finally. September, began HRT.
2013 - Numerous problems with HRT, mainly yo-yo testosterone levels. Still battling that. Began serious facial hair removal at E3000.
2014 Goals:
1. Come out at work to HR and management in late February or early March, depending on when annual evaluations are done. (I'll come out after.)
2. Legal name and gender change, likely in the August - October time frame, dependent on money.
3. Full time, outside of work in the next few months, at work by the time I make the legal changes.
4. Continue facial hair removal throughout the year, aiming to be done by next December, if not sooner.
5. Find a new, more aggressive endocrinologist if this one keeps playing games over the testosterone issues.
Those are my major transition related goals for 2014.
Quote from: stephaniec on December 31, 2013, 02:10:11 PM
small steps for me has helped alot
I need to completely get overmyself. I do notice I only take step backs when my mom makes negative comments to delay my transition. I think I need to get her voice from stopping what makes me happy.
I don't have much to tell it's all mostly plans and ideas at this point.
dec. 2013 realized I was transgendered. Made appointment with therapist. Also looking for Mtf hair removal.
2014- hopes and plans
keep on my workout plan and lose weight. Learn how to appy make up and dress properly. Hopefully by summer start HRT. By dec. hopefully make decisions about FFS and SRS.
2013 - survived it.
2014 - regather funds and assets lost in 2013
2013-
- Started therapy sometime in the spring which has been a major development in my life.
- Stopped doing certain harmful things to my body towards the end of February.
- Came out to my immediate family in the month of June.
- I had my hormones adjusted in October which was a game changer.
- Started hrt in the summer. Estradiol in June. Sprio in July.
- Found a new job in a supportive environment and have my immediate boss' acceptance.
- Started laser hair removal on my face (I think it was at the end of November).
- Lost an impressive amount of weight over the course of the year (I'm not fat, but I've been wanting to she some pounds).
2014 Goals-
- Go full time in the summer (the current goal)
- Finally take the GRE and continue to save up for grad school so I can go sometime within the next few years.
- Save up and get Rhinoplasty.
- Continue facial and body hair removal.
- Start developing an impressive wardrobe!
- Find a supportive, intelligent, funny, handsome boyfriend! :)
- Make new exciting friends that know me only as a girl!
- Continue to develop more experience and do some volunteer/charity work on the side.
- Maybe one day finish reading "War and Peace" and "Great Expectations",lol. I've picked up both books at various different points in my life only to get bored and give up. One day, I will finish them without going into a coma. Let's make it this year!
P.S. I know the order of my lists doesn't make sense. I wrote as things came to mind, lol.
Quote from: learningtolive on December 31, 2013, 03:06:26 PM
2013-
- Started therapy sometime in the spring which has been a major development in my life.
- Stopped doing certain harmful things to my body towards the end of February.
- Came out to my immediate family in the month of June.
- I had my hormones adjusted in October which was a game changer.
- Started hrt in the summer. Estradiol in June. Sprio in July.
- Found a new job in a supportive environment and have my immediate boss' acceptance.
- Started laser hair removal on my face (I think it was at the end of November).
- Lost an impressive amount of weight over the course of the year (I'm not fat, but I've been wanting to she some pounds).
2014 Goals-
- Go full time in the summer (the current goal)
- Finally take the GRE and continue to save up for grad school so I can go sometime within the next few years.
- Save up and get Rhinoplasty.
- Continue facial and body hair removal.
- Start developing an impressive wardrobe!
- Find a supportive, intelligent, funny, handsome boyfriend! :)
- Make new exciting friends that know me only as a girl!
- Continue to develop more experience and do some volunteer/charity work on the side.
- Maybe one day finish reading "War and Peace" and "Great Expectations",lol. I've picked up both books at various different points in my life only to get bored and give up. One day, I will finish them without going into a coma. Let's make it this year!
P.S. I know the order of my lists doesn't make sense. I wrote as things came to mind, lol.
The part that you said making new friends who only know you as a girl would make me so excited, I would cry.
well, the vast majority of this year has been spent in depression and denial, BUT I can say that within the past couple of weeks I have finally come to accept myself, truly, as transsexual, and to accept that there is absolutely nothing wrong with me for being so.
I started walking for 45-60 minutes everyday and going to the gym for intense cardio 2 to 3 times a week 2 weeks ago. So far I'm feeling really good and I've been able to keep it up! My first weigh in will be January 20th...I hope I'll at least stopped the weight gain (and goodness losing a few pounds would be awesome...) I'm determined to lose the weight this time because it truly MEANS something now.
In 2014 I plan to find close-ish gender therapist, as well as continue my weekly regular therapy.
I also hope to finish 2 university courses in the Spring, 2 in the Summer, and 1 in the Fall, setting me up to finish my last course in Spring 2015 and graduate with a B.A. in Spanish Linguistics in May '15.
I'd like to get a part time or even full time job using my bilingual language skills that would allow me to save money for HRT, VFS, potentially FFS, and definitely SRS/GCS, oh and let's not forget starting electrolysis! :P oh joy...
I'd like to become more fluent in my oral, auditory, written, and reading Catalan language skills in 2014. And also revisit Portuguese and French from time to time, and Latin if I have the time!
I'd like to try to see the sunrise and sunset more often this year. lately they've been taking my breath away. ;)
2013:
- Lost 25 lbs
- Landed a new job with an employer that has trans benefits (didn't know it at the time, but it's been a godsend).
- First time out en femme.
- For the first time, realized that I can be happy with transitioning and living as my authentic self.
- Had several heart wrenching conversations with my wife about it and that I will be transitioning--divorce is on the horizon :(
- Started psychotherapy, also returned to the adult trans support group I'd been going to 5 years ago.
- Started electrolysis
- Began training my voice some. Still not confident to use it in front of people though.
- Came out to a close friend and she was cool with it. ^^
- Came out to my brother and he and his wife are very supportive :icon_mrhappy:
- Represented my employer at an LGBT job fair hosted by TEA of Utah.
- Got my letter for HRT, but still waiting for my appointment with MD (:icon_blah: <- me after being told it was a two month wait.)
2014 Objectives:
- Start HRT!! God the wait is killing me!
- Explain everything to my kids at their level. Let them know that they are still loved by both of us.
- Come out to the rest of my family and friends
- Come out at work and begin FT.
- Document my journey, maybe even video journal/blog it.
- Consider attending my 25 year high school reunion en femme :D
- Hope to god I don't have to continue electrolysis into 2015.
- Keep working on voice.
- Win the lottery... ok, maybe not, but I'm gonna have to find some way to supplement my income and fund transition expenses. Especially after divorce.
- Work on improving my artistic ability every day.
- Train for a marathon.
- Just live and love every day to the fullest. No more going through the motions.
- Face my fears and conquer them all!
Although I am not able to start HRT in the immediate future since I am in the military, I have already begun my transition in so many other ways! :) I started laser for my face and neck in July. I have been dressing more and more androgynously while actually moving more towards a completely feminine wardrobe (oh my gosh i love shopping and building my real me wardrobe so much!!! ). This wardrobe shift has been slow and subtle in an attempt to condition everybody around me into being comfortable with the way I dress with the hope that when I do finally come out to them, it will not be such a shock (this was absolutely golden advice from one of the members of my transgender support group, and it really has worked like a charm! Being home for the holidays, I have had polish on my toes and all of my fingers, and have been dressing in nothing but feminine clothing items from boots and shoes to jeans to tops to all of my outerwear all the while wearing perfume receiving some comments and question looks, but overall acceptance :) ). Sorry for that long tangent in the parentheses :/ Sometimes I can't stop myself once I begin! Anyway, I have also been working on more feminine mannerisms, changing my handwriting, and now that my apartment roommate is out of the country for the next few months, I will finally start on my voice!!! :) My plan is to try and knock as many things that might possibly give me anxiety during HRT out of the way now, so that I won't have to completely worry about all the different aspects of transition when I am finally on hormones!!! (now I know that I will still be super anxious about pretty much everything, but I am sure it will help allay at least a little bit of that anxiety). And I suppose, now my first post on here! ^_^
2013
- Year 2 of electrolysis
- Completed 8 psych sessions and have GD diagnosis (and he said I am not nuts ::))
- Started HRT in October. Yay blue pills!
- Formally told kids what is happening
2014
- More electrolysis but not nearly as often. Phew!
- Lift HRT levels.
- Start voice training at communications dept at local university.
- EXERCISE more. Looking at Pilates (5 mins walk from home) although GP doesn't want me to lose any weight. I am in the healthy BMI range so it isn't an issue. Might lose a bit >:-)
- look seriously at Rhinoplasty. Hooter certainly needs work.
- See therapist a bit too!
- Wigs! Hair is a lost cause I think.
- work on full time at boobs seem to think it is a race!
Looking at that, 2014 is going to be HUGE and all about me! I intend to enjoy every single day.
Have a super year everyone.
Em.
It's now already next year where I am.
But Last year was quite life changing...
Came out to my extended family including partner and children over a period of some months.
I didn't realise how much emotion I would expend and had no idea there was so much inside me.
I have some absolutely utterly wonderful friends in this world. :)
There has also been some collateral damage along the way. :'(
I have been on Spiro alone for just on a year now, I am one of those few happy people that is developing on it alone. My natural levels of E are now >160 and T <4 on spiro alone
This year...
My Endo will be putting me on estrodol to help me get levels up a bit (he's very cautious and wanted to see how spiro went first and also wanted to do a stress test on my heart before continuing)
I will be getting my ears pierced, so my children have no excuse for birthday and Christmas gifts! ;)
I will continue with electrolysis... when does it end! :'(
My boobies will not stop growing I hope, and the right one will catch up with the left...
I will run a sweep stake on which one reaches a B cup first ;D
My hair will continue to grow back like it is and a bit thicker and longer so I can cut it in a bob.
I need to loose some weight... from somewhere... anywhere...
Have an utterly wonderful New Year everyone :-*
This year has been big. As far as transition, I have: legal name change, gender marker change, finalized ht dosages and gotten post op orders, nearing hair removal completion with the transition from laser to electrolysis, scheduled my visit to doctor Bowers. RLE is wrapping up in days.
Normal stuff: My failed marriage was wrapped up, I am out of debt, I own my farm, I have started a new relationship against all odds.
Quote from: Alainaluvsu on December 31, 2013, 10:19:06 AM
I got a full time job as a female. That's one of the biggest steps you can take in transition. That indicates you can do ANYTHING for yourself, as yourself. Not only that, but it is a job that deals with the public and is typically filled with females. My wardrobe is getting larger too.
In 2014 I'm hoping to get enough money together to get SRS.
Great for you GF. Is that a real snake???? It's so funny even it it is not. Happy New Year!
1974 came out to my mum aged 4
Procrastinated many years
2012 Joined up to Susan's and started laser with good results and got referral to therapist
2013
After more procrastination saw therapist
Started Electo on white hairs on face
Saw Endo and started HRT
Started being me at home most of the time
Struggled as he fought a loosing battle as she slowly took control.
2014
This will be a big year
Have seen wonderful changes occurring due to E and will let it continue to do its magic
Get an E implant so I won't have to take oral.
Loose some weight and get fitter
Build a new wardrobe and clean out the old
Enjoy life as this year is the first new year I have actually looked forward to
Make plans for the big events like full time and SRS.
Lots to do so lets get on with it! :laugh:
Hmmm I just joined Susans. But nonetheless. Came out in my early 20's as trans, hormones 2001 name change in 2002, Ba in 2011, Orchi in Sept 2013 stopped all tblockers, got gender markers changed on birth certificate and health card, photo ID, Finally quit smoking cigarettes its now going on 6 months or so yay me. 2014 get new passport, hope to get my own place, finish laser and electrolysis. and work towards srs in late 2014 to 2015 whichever comes first.
Quote from: Carlita on December 31, 2013, 11:50:04 AM
Are NHS doctors still insisting on patients presenting as female BEFORE they have hormones? I thought the rules had changed - I've certainly seen NHS policy statements online that seem to suggest hormones can be given sooner. As it is, I think they're just being cruel, frankly. I know that I don't want to go public - even remotely public - until I feel confident that I am far enough along in the process to stand some chance of blending in. Of course it's unrealistic to expect to slip right into being seen as female from Day One. I just want the odds to be a little more in my favour ... I guess that means I'll have to go private all the way, then!
Not to derail in this direction more, but yes. One year full time and legal name change is the requirement I am told. I went to my last appointment there fully dressed and everything and they told me no way do I get hormones. Until I do those two things.
Quote from: Lana P on December 31, 2013, 07:23:49 PM
Hmmm I just joined Susans. But nonetheless. Came out in my early 20's as trans, hormones 2001 name change in 2002, Ba in 2011, Orchi in Sept 2013 stopped all tblockers, got gender markers changed on birth certificate and health card, photo ID, Finally quit smoking cigarettes its now going on 6 months or so yay me. 2014 get new passport, hope to get my own place, finish laser and electrolysis. and work towards srs in late 2014 to 2015 whichever comes first.
Congratulations, Lana. Keep making progress. :)
Nov 13th is when i came out to my parents (which is something i never thought i could do. Thankfully they were supportive of me when coming out. even though they are against me taking HRT)
However shortly after started HRT without their consent and I also started a new part time job.
Next year i plan on starting electrolysis sometime in early Jan and also plan on going full time as myself for my birthday and during later next year around may/june get voice feminization surgery with Dr. yesen. :)
2013:
November:
Psychologist
Doctor
Blood test
HRT (Nov 15)
December:
Out to family
Happy
2014:
I am not Nostradomus.
I intend to keep going and see where it takes me.
Things are going really fast.
Steps that I took / things that happened in 2013:
Jan 1 - Came out as trans to my mom
Jan 8 - Started t-blockers
Jan 11 - Started estrogen
February 22 - Came out as trans to my best friend from high school
March 1 - Came out as trans to two of my closest work friends
March 18 - Went out publicly as a girl for the first time in my life
May 7 - Started transgender vlog on Youtube
August 10 - Went to my first ever trans support group
August 29 - Came out as trans to all of my ex-coworkers. (Unfortunately, after I was already fired.)
October 8 - Mom got to see me in "girl mode" for the very first time.
November 13 - Officially came out as trans publicly on Facebook, changed gender on profile. Everyone I know knows now!
November 21 - Got my ears pierced!
December 26 - GENDERED FEMALE FOR THE FIRST TIME! :eusa_dance:
Hopes for 2014:
-Go full-time before the end of the year
-Get out of debt, start saving money for SRS.
-Legally change name and gender marker
-Possibly get orchiectomy (still haven't decided whether I want to do that, or just wait for full SRS. Depends on how soon I can go full-time, I guess.)
-Hopefully start reaching "male fail" mode.
I can't say 2013 was a good year for me, but I survived. For the most part, I could sum it up by saying the first third or so was like going through a nervous breakdown in slow motion, while the rest of the year was then spent picking up the pieces. Not so much dealing with trans-issues as the mess my inability to deal with said issues caused.
I did, however, manage to:
Come out to my family (March)
Come out to one of my closest friends (April)
Find a therapist (September)
For 2014, I intend to:
Get my ears pierced
Start laser
Continue therapy (and hopefully nail down a plan. I've been in limbo as of late).
Maybe even try low-dose HRT
But above all, I need to relax, be myself, and not worry so much.
Ok my year was not as busy as some of the girls here.. but here goes
2013
I got my first boyfriend and broke up with him. An experience which was nice, okay not the breaking up part. I liked being the woman in the relationship and was intimate with a man for the first time.
I had a small growth spurt ... went up to a 36D bra from 36C bra
My roommate and I stabilized our business.
2014
End of January will see me getting SRS... so healing will be a big part of this year
Get my 3rd set of hole pierced in my ears.. The 3rd set of holes will represent SRS, (1st set of holes acceptance of being a cross dresser, 2nd set was starting HRT)
Get my nose pierced.. I want a small stud in my nose.
Once healing is done, I would like to loose my virginity as a woman.
Get a tattoo, I am thinking of getting a tramp stamp on my lower back. (but I really do like butterfly's)
Wear a string bikini.. I have worm plenty of bikini tops, but I want to wear the bottom too, without covering it up.. SRS should solve this problem.
Continue to grow the business with my roommate.
My year has been pretty great, feel like i made a lot of progress.
June: broke down and came out to my wife (rocky at first, much emotion)
July: she started to come around to the idea of us, and our future
Aug: started therapy, super nice lady. Totally understands my situation.
Sep: still easing it in with my wife (sometimes I try to go too fast) but I went shopping with her and got some clothing of my own.
Oct - present: deployed overseas (more waiting) but able to save a chunk of change
All in all I'm optimistic for next year, I'm planning on "palace chasing" to inactive guard. Then ill start going to college with GI Bill, oh yeah... And transition, starting with laser and HRT! So excited, 'til I get back to the states though I must wait. :-\