So after about 5 years of battling my emotions I have finally decided to begin pursuing MTF transition.
As of now I have only come out on another online community and not real life. Everyone there has been supportive of me but I figured it would be good for me to join a community of people who can identify with what I am feeling and give me guidance.
I have been doing a lot of research recently. I first looked into transitioning a few years ago but it felt out of reach then. Now I am 18 and I feel I can do more for myself so I can finally work towards being the true me.
Problem is... I have no idea where to start. I know there are a lot of processes involved, right now I am really just focused on HRT.
Thanks
-Faye Rose
Hi Faye Rose!
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18 you lucky girl!
First thing is a gender therapist who will guide you through the process. Depending what country you are in makes finding one a problem or not. Easiest way is to google gender therapist where ever you are.
Hugs Hon
Cindy
Forget HRT for now baby. Find a good Gender therapist and get an official diagnosis of Gender Dysphoria first. Too many of us scare off therapist by being tunneled into the subject of HRT. Some of them get plain hostile if you go in with pre-conceived ideas and a diagnosis already in your mind. It is a sure turn off. Therapist, then HRT. If you know this is absolutely what you want it is OK to do things like voice coaching and preparing people for possible changes in your life. From what I have seen here, the families that were slowly made aware of a possible transition were the most supportive because they did not get hit with it all at once. That is not true for everyone, but seems consistent. Any help I can give I will. I have been started on HRT, but have to change therapist's due to differing opinions of how I present. I am going all the way to FFS, Voice Surgery and SRS. It is hard to go slow, but well worth it in my humble opinion. Slow gives you time to prepare and make darn sure this is what you want. There are a lot of good and knowledgeable people here. Use them. Good luck! :)
PS-Welcome to the family my new sister. :)
Welcome to the site Faye Rose, I agree with Cindy, the first step should be a gender therapist. They will help with alot of things one is finding an endo that will work with you, and for you. the other and more important, is your emotional standing.
also we all come from meny difforent back grounds. so dont hesitate to ask, some one here will know the answer, or know the place to get the answer.
Best of luck to you and finding your self.
Welcome :)
What I did when I was 18 was coming out to my mom and begin talking to a gender therapist,,,
its not an easy thing to be honest but its worth it :)
It took me 1 year to get hormones :/
I think the younger you are the longer it will take to get hormones,,,pffff nice system ...not
anyway dont let that discourage you it depends to the therapist after all...
Nice to meet another young girlfriend :laugh:
Thanks so much for the warm welcome everyone!
Gender therapist it is, then :) I am glad I have a place to start now as simply googling things was not exactly giving me clear results :|
What exactly can I expect going to a gender therapist?
you just described my last 5 years.
welcome. ^__^
Quote from: Faye Rose on January 01, 2014, 05:48:06 PM
What exactly can I expect going to a gender therapist?
Just open the line of communication and when you are comfortable tell them how you feel. Answer all questions honestly even if they are tough one's. Really like a regular therapist just one who specializes in gender. Do NOT go in the first time or two and ask for HRT. Let them evaluate you themselves. They may find something other than Dysphoria or not. An open mind is a good thing to have. If you can't get comfortable with one, tell them and find one you are comfortable with. See where all the information leads to. :)
Welcome Faye Rose!
Personally you don't need some therapist to tell you your trans. But they will help with getting a hormone doctor. That being said start laser hair removal because that takes many sessions for removing facial hair. Then go from there. I wish I started with hair removal first.
Quote from: Jessica Merriman on January 01, 2014, 03:22:28 AM
Forget HRT for now baby. Find a good Gender therapist and get an official diagnosis of Gender Dysphoria first. Too many of us scare off therapist by being tunneled into the subject of HRT. Some of them get plain hostile if you go in with pre-conceived ideas and a diagnosis already in your mind. It is a sure turn off. Therapist, then HRT. If you know this is absolutely what you want it is OK to do things like voice coaching and preparing people for possible changes in your life. From what I have seen here, the families that were slowly made aware of a possible transition were the most supportive because they did not get hit with it all at once. That is not true for everyone, but seems consistent. Any help I can give I will. I have been started on HRT, but have to change therapist's due to differing opinions of how I present. I am going all the way to FFS, Voice Surgery and SRS. It is hard to go slow, but well worth it in my humble opinion. Slow gives you time to prepare and make darn sure this is what you want. There are a lot of good and knowledgeable people here. Use them. Good luck! :)
PS-Welcome to the family my new sister. :)
Hi Faye and welcome to over 9061 brothers and sisters here at Susan's.
I highly recomend that you read what Jessica, who is my best friend forever has said and you won't go wrong. She's a very intelligent person, and she knows what she's talking about. :) And if you have any other problems you got any of us to ask. Good luck on your journey. :)