So theirs this girl I think she's cute, She's a freshman and I'm a Jr, Know my little sister (Not real one, we just act like bro and sis) She went back and told her that I thought she was cute, The things is know that she knows I don't know how to approach her she sees me as male and knows me as Brandon but doesn't know I'm a trans boy. I don't know what to say at all....... or how to say it, I wanna get to know her as a friend
honestly dude, just say hi. start by saying hi, if you see her reading a book or something, ask her about it. little things like saying hi once in awhile can easily be turned into more whether it's her starting the convo or you. since your friend seems to know her, when your friend is around her, go talk to your friend and acknowledge the girl too. since your friend is friends with her it should make it easier for you because your friend can be kind of..a wing man? wing woman??? to help because your friend is comfortable with both of you. she knows you find her attractive though and doesn't seem to have been put off by that, she probably won't be put off by you saying hi to her or even starting a convo with her. the best thing about having your friend be friends with her is you can ask your friend what she thinks and if she thinks you're being creepy or forward or w/e, your friend will probably tell you.
just my advice though.
Quote from: invisiblemonsters on January 12, 2014, 09:29:04 PM
honestly dude, just say hi. start by saying hi
As someone who has spent a number of decades being shy around women I'm interested in I second this. It's hard as sin. And the more interested you are, the harder it is. Sometimes you'll find they have no interest, which is sad, but sometimes you'll find they do, and that will take you to incredibly awesome places. But, you'll never know unless you try, and that simple "hello" is the first step.
From the girls point of view, just say hi. Do not try a pick up line. Those annoy me beyond all measure. If a guy comes up and just says hi, then I will talk with him.
If you have a friend that's friends with her, just talk to her one day. Just be like "oh, you know this person i know" and ask maybe if they have classes together. Maybe you can get a group of friends together (including that friend who is friends with the person you're interested in) and meet up together, hang out as a group.
Quote from: missadventure on January 12, 2014, 09:33:00 PM
As someone who has spent a number of decades being shy around women I'm interested in I second this. It's hard as sin. And the more interested you are, the harder it is. Sometimes you'll find they have no interest, which is sad, but sometimes you'll find they do, and that will take you to incredibly awesome places. But, you'll never know unless you try, and that simple "hello" is the first step.
Well I have talked to her before but that was before she figured out that I though she was attractive, It was in the hallway because my sister got mad at me because me and my friends didn't want girls in are dance group but it was jokingly, And thats what I had told the both of them
Quote from: Brooke777 on January 12, 2014, 09:34:38 PM
From the girls point of view, just say hi. Do not try a pick up line. Those annoy me beyond all measure. If a guy comes up and just says hi, then I will talk with him.
I don't do pickup lines lol, Your right though
Dude, you just have to talk to her just like you would with anyone else. Just go up to her and chat her up. Also don't be afraid of the "friend-zone". In my experience... Becoming friends with a girl has usually led to them getting the hots for me. Haha. So this shouldn't compromise you if you wanna move it further eventually. xD I don't believe in the friend-zone anymore. I truly think just treating the girl as any other friend of yours is the best way to get to know her better.
I would even go as far as just saying treat her like one of your guys. (Without calling her bro! or anything similar lol!) I've called girls bro before out of habit, and although they said they didn't care, they started calling me sister after so lol, idunno. (No they didn't know I was trans, they were just doing to me what I did to them, cept they were doing it on purpose. :P)
GOOD LUCK, MY FRIEND!
Thanks man, Will do
Well she did follow me back on twitter so that's a good sign I just have to break the ice in person.
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