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Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: Sheala on January 16, 2014, 01:30:15 AM

Title: poking the "badger"
Post by: Sheala on January 16, 2014, 01:30:15 AM
ok so that one needs a little explaining hehehe.  I unfortunatly..... or fortunatly dependng on the day, live acrost the country from my whole famly. half of who i have told that i am a transwoman are accepting the other half...... well i think telling them i went to jail or killed some one would have been better.  and they are my parents..... they are the badger.....

Well i told my parents that i was a transwoman and was going to transiton early november, before any hormones. you would have thought i had shot there faverat pet infront of them. my mom sayng "I need proof" "i work in a lab i need genetic proof that you are"...... ya ok, well from then on my trans status was the whte rino standng in the corner of each conversation.

Well ths evenng after 2 months of silance about it i brought it up again.  ended up having it out wth my mom again, another round of.....  should talk to them about it first, and i should come to them saing i have these thoughts i need to talk about. basicly comming to them asking promssion. im 32 years old for hells bells.  i dont need mommys or daddys promsion to make me right.

i ended the conversation in a rather blunt manor thou,, i knda feel bad but i had to put it out there. i told her "ok, we can talk about it latter. but i need to tell you this now. I have started hormones and they have stoped all the suicidal thoughts that i have been fightng."

Im still hlding out hope that i can bring them around.
Title: Re: poking the "badger"
Post by: LordKAT on January 16, 2014, 02:03:37 AM
If you sent them books or pamphlets, would they read them?
Title: Re: poking the "badger"
Post by: Sheala on January 16, 2014, 02:06:54 AM
i sent as much info as i could. thats part of the 2 month wait. I was also hoping they would do some of there own research.
Title: Re: poking the "badger"
Post by: Cindy on January 16, 2014, 02:11:09 AM
As you said, you are 35, their problem not yours!

Genetic test? Oh my goodness!

Stay well and strong Sis
Title: Re: poking the "badger"
Post by: Ms Grace on January 16, 2014, 03:06:14 AM
I have to agree with Cindy. It's a pity they are in denial but if they don't want to be open minded there isn't a lot you can do about it. Hurts, I know. :(

As for genetic tests, they prove nothing. Being XY or XX (and all there varieties) doesn't make a jot of difference to how you identify your gender. During my first go at transition my endo had my chromosomes checked, oh god how I hoped that it would come back as anything other than XY. At the time I felt it would make me "legitimate", it would "explain" why I felt that way. No such "luck"... XY it was. That has led to a lot of self acceptance.

Anyway... on a lighter note...!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EIyixC9NsLI (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EIyixC9NsLI)
Title: Re: poking the "badger"
Post by: Sheala on January 16, 2014, 03:14:51 AM
thank you ms grace i needed the pick me up there lol.

I know that there is no lab test that will or can indecate that some one is transgendered and to be honest i dont thnk i would trust such a test any way.  and you two are 100% correct, I need to just let them be them and not worry so much about what they think.
Title: Re: poking the "badger"
Post by: lilacwoman on January 16, 2014, 05:48:40 AM
Send the badgers some pix of their new daughter and go show her to them next vacation.
Title: Re: poking the "badger"
Post by: Sheala on January 16, 2014, 02:12:08 PM
Well even if I don't send pics I will be making a trip there this summer and I will be out in full so they will have to see and take or leave me for good. Thanks for all the support you all are great.