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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: courtneylynn on January 21, 2014, 08:54:05 PM

Title: I just did the hardest thing ever
Post by: courtneylynn on January 21, 2014, 08:54:05 PM
I just told my dad. He is a big biker beer drinker hard ass anti-->-bleeped-<-got guy. I told him i've been fighting an uphill battle most of my life that i'll never conquer. I can only give in and accept the hand i was dealt. sorry if i disappoint you blah blah blah. He said and i quote. "your still my son and i love you no matter what". I am so happy and relieved i can't explain how happy i am. That is all. haha
Title: Re: I just did the hardest thing ever
Post by: stephaniec on January 21, 2014, 08:58:26 PM
love is amazing
Title: Re: I just did the hardest thing ever
Post by: Aina on January 21, 2014, 08:59:51 PM
Congrats, glad to hear he took it well!
Title: Re: I just did the hardest thing ever
Post by: courtneylynn on January 21, 2014, 09:02:51 PM
I'm really sorry about my language. I'm really excited and i think that describes my dad pretty accurately. I really don't mean to offend anyone.
Title: Re: I just did the hardest thing ever
Post by: Constance on January 21, 2014, 09:07:04 PM
Congratulations, Courtney! I'm glad to hear you have his acceptance!
Title: Re: I just did the hardest thing ever
Post by: GinaDouglas on January 21, 2014, 09:23:44 PM
I don't know if that's acceptance, calling you "son".  But it's a start.

My dad said, "You're not really transgender.  You just want sympathy about losing your job."  Which I had lost because I was transgender.  I guess he figured that I was making up the transgender thing because I didn't want to tell why I really lost my job.
Title: Re: I just did the hardest thing ever
Post by: MadeleineG on January 21, 2014, 09:58:15 PM
Quote from: courtneylynn on January 21, 2014, 08:54:05 PM
I just told my dad. He is a big biker beer drinker hard ass anti-->-bleeped-<-got guy. I told him i've been fighting an uphill battle most of my life that i'll never conquer. I can only give in and accept the hand i was dealt. sorry if i disappoint you blah blah blah. He said and i quote. "your still my son and i love you no matter what". I am so happy and relieved i can't explain how happy i am. That is all. haha

Congratulations.
Title: Re: I just did the hardest thing ever
Post by: Jamie D on January 21, 2014, 10:18:35 PM
There is another young MtF on these boards who has a biker father - Angelique in Louisiana.  She is out too.
Title: Re: I just did the hardest thing ever
Post by: GinaDouglas on January 21, 2014, 10:33:49 PM
In my opinion (and in my novel), bikers are more accepting then most men, because they really believe in freedom.  Most bikers I know (and I used to be a regular in a bar frequented by bikers in colors) strongly support my right to do what I choose to do with my life.

Moreover, the most sympathetically treated transgender character I have ever seen on television, was on Sons of Anarchy.  One of the head bikers dated her, after the head-biker shot the transgender character's mom in the head, while the mom was verbally abusing the transgender character.
Title: Re: I just did the hardest thing ever
Post by: Stacey M on January 22, 2014, 12:21:53 AM
good on you, and congratulations
I had the same problem with my partners father he's
one of those scary biker dudes, and all we got when we told him was an ok good and when can I visit
which was a lot out of him  :)
Title: Re: I just did the hardest thing ever
Post by: Adam (birkin) on January 22, 2014, 01:30:21 AM
Congratulations! :) As hard as that was I bet you feel amazing now.

Title: Re: I just did the hardest thing ever
Post by: big kim on January 22, 2014, 03:10:54 AM
Bikers,punks and rockers/metalheads are cool,they have no problem with people who are different.I used to be a biker for many years and often went to a bar where the Outlaws drank when I transitioned,I was treated with respect by them all.Gina I love Sons of Anarchy and Tig and Venus make a great couple.They're my favourite characters,it was so sad when Venus told the Sons about her abusive childhood
Title: Re: I just did the hardest thing ever
Post by: Jennifer.L on January 22, 2014, 04:35:50 AM
It's the strait laced up standing Oh so religious and mostly republican types you have to worry about.  The freaks, weirdos, monsters and outsiders already made the same choise you did, to jsut be then selves and screw anyone that judges them.  :)
Title: Re: I just did the hardest thing ever
Post by: Jessica Merriman on January 22, 2014, 06:04:53 AM
Quote from: Jennifer.L on January 22, 2014, 04:35:50 AM
It's the strait laced up standing Oh so religious and mostly republican types you have to worry about.

NO KIDDING! That's what my family was like. After I told them you could have filmed "The Exorcist I, II, III and IV" without a special effects team or studio. OMG it was scary! ;) Appearances you know, but as a medic going into these peoples homes and private lives they are the BIGGEST weirdo's on the planet. ;D
Title: Re: I just did the hardest thing ever
Post by: EllieM on January 22, 2014, 02:50:48 PM
Wow Courtney, that's amazing! Good onya girl!
Title: Re: I just did the hardest thing ever
Post by: Adam (birkin) on January 22, 2014, 02:58:05 PM
I'd also add too that I've noticed bikers being some of the most accepting people. But the most unaccepting biker I ever met? A gay man. It was strange, and honestly I expected better of him.
Title: Re: I just did the hardest thing ever
Post by: Oriah on January 22, 2014, 05:46:41 PM
Congrats!  That's a wonderful feeling!  My dad is a lifelong biker/alcoholic and pretty conservative too...  Of everyone in my family I thought he would handle me coming out worst, yet he's been the best of all of them.  He said the same thing "you're still my son" and while he thinks my decision to transition is "pretty f***ked up" (his words) he also says this is my life not his, and that he's at least glad that I'm happy, and that he's proud of the life I'm living (settling down, starting a family of my own, and starting a farm/living off the land)

Not exactly supporting, but ten times better than the rest of my family....

it's a good feeling.....I'm happy for you