I had gone to a meeting tonight and one of the women at the same, had related an account of a guy [a married one, too] who pressed aggressively on with his advances, notwithstanding her repeated dissenting.
Eventually, he fondled her and at the meeting tonight, she radiated traumatization.
I asked her if she was seeing a therapist and she responded to the effect,
"No. Don't get me started on that subject.
I just shook my head and said,
"Clearly, you've been traumatized and I am asking because I am concerned."
Earlier when I had the floor, I related my own account of having been victimized by 'therapeutic incompetence', subsequently firing my therapist [I did mention the cell phone idiocy].
I quite understood, obviously, but she needs help in dealing with this kind of trauma.
And then [of course] I became angry and I thought two things,
--"How many of us have had to deal with this?"
-- >:( >:( >:( "If some guy does that to me, EMS will need a mop and bucket to transport him to the hospital."
But satiate my curiosity my sisters: How many of you have been subjected to such puerile and unconscionable behavior?
I was fondled and touched inappropriately on several ocassions during transition. Both times I was out with a group of girls and a group of guys decided that they would be find out if I was male or female by fondling me and grabbing my crotch. Verbal abuse is something I could always handle, but physical abuse is different.
The girls I was with where great and basically stood up for me and forced the guys to stop (or in one case) get the bouncers involved.
I found it very degrading, mentally traumatizing and I did feel disgusted with myself (why is it that victims always feel this). All I wanted to do was go home, shower and cry.... One of the girls always came with me.
I quickly learned not to put myself into those kind of situations.
Now, I have a Brown Belt in Kick Boxing (Partly for keeping fit, the other part for self defense), God help any guy that acts innapropriately.
Buffy
Mean and Dangerous (when needed)
a drunk attempted to touch my breasts once. i literally kicked his balls. :o
Twice when I was 20 I had been touched inappropriately. Once standing in line at a convenience store the man in front of me reached behind himself and attempted to rub my crotch. I was really embarrassed and afraid. I just put my stuff down and left the store. A few months later I was in a very uncrowded theater, maybe 5 people in a theater that seated several hundred. A man sitting in the theater, came down my row and sat right next to me. Because the theater was not very full, I had centered myself in what I felt was the best seat in the house, so I was not surprised that someone else might want to sit there. I was surprised when the man sat right next to me.
As soon as he sat down I got a rush of adrenaline and I was very scared. I just looked ahead and tried to ignore him because I just didn't know what to do. Less than a minute after he sat down, he then placed his hand right on my thigh. I was absolutely terrified. I just grabbed his hand and moved it back to his lap and I said "I don't think so". Then he got up and went back to where he was sitting. I left the theater and kept looking behind me to make sure he was not following me.
Funny, I have not thought about that in a long time. I remember at the time worrying that I was giving signals to other men without realizing it. I thought it was related to my transsexuality, but was not sure how, since I was not attracted to men. That was a time in my life where I was really considering coming out of the closet, but living in Houston, with no support, I just couldn't see how I could. I didn't know at the time that Houston had what was at the time, the second largest gay community, only behind San Francisco.
All in all, they were not good experiences and I never told anyone because I was embarrassed. I knew if I told my friends or brothers I would be made fun of. I also didn't want to do anything that might start making anyone wonder why men were hitting on me.
Love always,
Elizabeth
Oh yes. It was a horrid experience. It happened at the airport while waiting for my flight, This elderly man approached the counter, leaned over and rubbed my buttocks with his disgusting hands. I complained & airport security took care of him.
Quote from: Jeannette on July 11, 2007, 12:35:06 AM
Oh yes. It was a horrid experience. It happened at the airport while waiting for my flight, This elderly man approached the counter, leaned over and rubbed my buttocks with his disgusting hands. I complained & airport security took care of him.
The police did it to me, a number of months back.......I'd forgotten about that - or I was repressing the memory.
That was pretty horrible and I was in shock; it really messed me up. But I am [I think] pretty much past it - I think.
OMFG!!! I have been inappropriately touched countless times but I was always too drunk to care.
Dito to your responce Melissa. My exact sediments.
Deb
Ya, me too. It was at a bar, and I escaped him into the bathroom.
I was shaking like a leaf and just couldn't walk back out that door. I was very fortunate that a GG asked me what was wrong. So she told me to stick with her, and we walked out arm-in-arm. I spent the rest of the evening watching her play pool.
Then I was stupid and didn't pull out my keys before leaving. I got out to my car and couldn't find them. I was so scared that he would come looking for me.
Yes, I finally found my keys.