anyone here feel/know they are a women inside but they don't mind having a penis? I don't mind mine but I feel I would be more happy seen and thought of as a women. I do want breasts and for people to treat me as a lady. As for my male parts I don't mind having it there.
i used to not mind. the problem is that i dont care about sex. but that doesnt stop fluid production. so my testicles get painful and become a hassle and eventually i wake up from a deep sleep to find that they got tired of being in such a state and got rid of the problem. no dream required. i hate it. having male genitals is an infuriatingly gross problem. on the grand scale of things not a big deal but. just disgusting. i wasnt going to get the pre op testicle removal because of the less tissue available for actual srs thing but. im seriously tired of having them.
edit. i guess i should clarify. i have no sex drive. so i dont take the typically male routes for getting rid of ones sex drive. i just dont care to. and since sex isnt on my mind i dont have wet dreams the way most guys do. i just wake up and its done.
its really. really aggravating.
Before someone swoops in to tell you other wise~
This is normal. I known plenty of girls that didn't want surgery, and were happy with their bodies after years on hormones and looking amazing.
I personally could go either way~ Someday I may have surgery.. But for the moment I'm just still finally gaining the body I want.
To be honest for my I thought going into HRT and even a month or so into, that it don't matter to me what was under my skirt but the further I go the less I think I will feel like a real woman with out it.
Quote from: kg85621 on February 04, 2014, 11:09:38 AM
anyone here feel/know they are a women inside but they don't mind having a penis? I don't mind mine but I feel I would be more happy seen and thought of as a women. I do want breasts and for people to treat me as a lady. As for my male parts I don't mind having it there.
It's not so much that I don't mind it, it's just "there" and I am stuck with it. I had the orchi, that's good enough. It is what it is.
It does give me pleasure. And pleasure is a good thing. I'm not keen on penetrating but my SO is and I do want to please her. I try to ignore it most of the time. It's just some flesh that I have. I hate it when I can't ignore it, ie any erection or bulge when not engaging in foreplay or "the act". I also don't like it fiddled with by my SO - lets just do the deed.
I hope this isn't too graphic. I'm new here. So I aplogise and hope the hammer doesn't come down to heavy on me.
I go back and forth on this question all the time...
If I were to go to sleep tonight and wake up tomorrow morning with a vagina, I'd be happier than words can describe. On the other hand, at the moment I don't think that I hate my penis enough to go through the trauma of surgery. I am keeping an open mind about it. I realize that once HRT starts to take effect my feelings may change.
there was a brief period of time where I thought I wanted surgery, but when I thought about it, it just didn't make sense for me.
it's a pretty invasive surgery, and it costs more money that I ever plan on having saved up...and even if I managed to score that much money, there are plenty of things I could purchase that would bring me more happiness.
Besides, I'm a lesbian. It saves me money on strap-ons
Hi ,
I used to like my penis , and in a way I still do today . But I would really like to have SRS if it will be perfectioned . I would like to have a vagina , but from what I heard , many complications could appear , from lack of sensations to completely collapse of the artificial vagina , so for the moment , although I don't use it sexually anymore , it is safe there :D
Having a vagina would make me feel more of a woman , but also , having a penis is one masculine trait that is positive in transgirls , giving an edge over common female genitals , at least that is what I am thinking now .
For me I just won't feel whole without SRS. What's down there now repulses me in ways impossible to put into words. Good things happened at my new Doctors yesterday, and it now looks like I'm on the right road toward eventual SRS. The only thing is I want to at least wait until I've been on hrt for a year and a half, or even two years to give the hrt time necessary to achieve the best results. However due to my age I don't want to wait much longer than 2 years. I've a lot of living to catch up on, lol! :D ;)
I am soon to be 50 . starting hrt and very happily married and have been changing the way me and my wife are enjoying love making . Its lot more mental before ,during and after our big orgasms .Were open minded to my changes in my performance and making adjustment now so were both satisfied .I plan to enjoy all my changes to a great lady and still enjoy my man bits too ( this feeling is shared with small part of girls here but that does not make it wrong .) I very happy with direction were going and enjoy to hear from others like myself !! Troi
I smell a non-conscious non-op here eh... ;D
I used to not mind them so much, but it really is so uncomfortable can't wear certain clothes and I sit on the jewels constantly when dressed. With that said on the otherhand I can't imagine the ongoing maintenance required after GRS.
Its not going to make me feel any less than a woman if I leave them. I honestly do not care right now. That may change as I progress and a lot say it will. Right now I have a decent chance that my wife will stay. And if she does that is the reason I will leave them. But if she goes or she actually says she is OK with it, they are gone. But since we have been discussing it she said if she ends up not being to handle it and we just stay best friends she will stay until I have the surgery so her insurance will cover it.
Quote from: kg85621 on February 04, 2014, 11:09:38 AM
anyone here feel/know they are a women inside but they don't mind having a penis? I don't mind mine but I feel I would be more happy seen and thought of as a women. I do want breasts and for people to treat me as a lady. As for my male parts I don't mind having it there.
Yup I don't mind it, having it doesn't make me any less of a woman, just a different type. :)
I don't like it, but I got married and she does.
I figure that if she can tolerate everything else I am doing and the one thing that will still resemble maleness is not anything anyone else is going to ever see anyway, it can stay.
But I won't like it. It's like living with a sweater that will forever be turned inside out.
Hum... This is a good question. And I know it depends on who you ask. Some say if you feel like your a woman why would you want to keep your penis? Like I said before I haven't had a lot of time as of yet to learn about all things transsexual but for me I don't get this one? But I am learning there def people out there that don't get srs for one reason or another. I know it confuses a lot of average people as to why a woman would want a penis
Quote from: kg85621 on February 04, 2014, 11:09:38 AM
anyone here feel/know they are a women inside but they don't mind having a penis? I don't mind mine but I feel I would be more happy seen and thought of as a women. I do want breasts and for people to treat me as a lady. As for my male parts I don't mind having it there.
I'm starting to feel the same way.
There was a point in time when SRS meant everything to me. Nowadays, I'm more thinking about breast augmentation and leaving it at that.
For me being female is mental and the surgery scares me. I'm worried about the nausea after surgery more than anything else. If I could wake up with a vagina that would be ideal. I know i will have the srs - just need to build up the nerve to do it. Dont want to have this buldge between my legs and i believe SRS will complete me as a woman. But each to their own vision of how they will be.
I'm so disconnected with that thing that I kind of forget it's even there, and rarely have I ever been able to make it work when with a special person.
At least Mother Nature was kind enough to at least give me cute real boobs :)
For years my testicles have been inside me, so tucking is an absolute non-issue. That said, I hate this thing between my legs with a passion. I have a boyfriend, and I'm just a boring heterosexual woman. I don't need a vagina to feel like a woman, but at the same time I need it because that's how I've always dreamed of myself. My honey looks at me as a woman and his girl, but I'm sure that even after I have my SRS (hopefully this year) we'll still have intercourse the way we do now sometimes, because we both love the way it feels, but he's looking forward to my surgery too. I live with a great deal of pain every day, so a few months extra to have what I've prayed for and dreamed of my whole life will be more than tolerable. I can hardly wait!
I have that thing and I use it for pleasurable masturbation. Oddly I feel feminine when doing that. I'd rather not have it. It's just not me. I don't feel right with it there. The masturbation is just an arousal thing. Hard to explain.
Don't hate it, don't love it. It's what I've got and it can be fun.
I'm invading your thread girls, sorry. ^-^
Just from what I've seen, it seems that more transwomen are comfortable with their bio organs than transmen are. I, for one don't like my female parts at all.
Quote from: Mr Hockey on February 06, 2014, 08:20:09 PM
I'm invading your thread girls, sorry. ^-^
Just from what I've seen, it seems that more transwomen are comfortable with their bio organs than transmen are. I, for one don't like my female parts at all.
Well, in my case, it's not so much a feeling of "comfort", it's just acceptance of what the situation is. I had an orchi and that was great. Would I like to get rid of the water pipe as well?
Sure.
But that isn't going to happen since I don't have the cash and other reasons that I don't feel like discussing in public.
Quote from: Laura Squirrel on February 06, 2014, 08:24:45 PM
Well, in my case, it's not so much a feeling of "comfort", it's just acceptance of what the situation is. I had an orchi and that was great. Would I like to rid of the water pipe as well?
Sure.
But that isn't going to happen since I don't have the cash and other reasons that I don't feel like discussing in public.
I see.
As I brought up in another thread, if only we could trade!
Quote from: Mr Hockey on February 06, 2014, 08:28:02 PM
I see.
As I brought up in another thread, if only we could trade!
True.
I couldn't imagine not having a vagina. It helps to make me feel complete and also makes time with guys very fun in bed.
Guys????
Ewwwwww :icon_blah:
Quote from: Laura Squirrel on February 06, 2014, 08:49:26 PM
Guys????
Ewwwwww :icon_blah:
Laura, you are so adorable. I love reading your posts :D
:D :D I just can't get into guys. Even my anthro counterpart is a lesbian.
Quote from: Laura Squirrel on February 06, 2014, 08:49:26 PM
Guys????
Ewwwwww :icon_blah:
I second that. I'm as girly as they come but the thought of being with a guy in bed is, well, Kathy said it best: "Ewwwwwwwwww!!!!"
Quote from: Allyda on February 06, 2014, 10:25:38 PM
Kathy said it best: "Ewwwwwwwwww!!!!"
Ummmm, Kathy is straight. :D ;)
I love my part and try to keep it healthy and happy so I can turn it into, well you know, an innie! I haven't told it yet though!*giggle* ;D
Quote from: Laura Squirrel on February 06, 2014, 10:41:38 PM
Ummmm, Kathy is straight. :D ;)
Sorry, I must have mistook your meaning. Mine still stands though. Only women for me. It's not about sex with me anyway, it's about the overall relationship. Right now I have no sex drive whatsoever and that's fine with me at least until I have my eventual SRS. ;)
my biggest issue is that breasts are more of a practical thing. even some women dont have them. the genitals change everything about a relationship. so. i hate that i have male genitals. because the alternative is just so exilerating to think about having. just the notion that it really would complete my feeling of being a woman.
but its the hrt that scares me. i can deal with having a penis. i dont know if i can deal with not passing after hrt.
ie: you can be passable and have a penis. you can be passable and not have breasts. but short of ffs hrt is my only option to be passable as far as my face.
and that scares me.
Quote from: Jessica Merriman on February 06, 2014, 11:06:51 PM
I love my part and try to keep it healthy and happy so I can turn it into, well you know, an innie! I haven't told it yet though!*giggle* ;D
Lol! :D :D :D That's all mine's good for as far as I'm concerned. However I hope my hrt shrinks and shrinks and shrinks, lol! :D ;)
It doesn't bother me, but I do feel more embarrassed about it. It hurts during sex. GRS is so far away for me though. But since hrt, my feelings have changed a bit and I don't know how I feel about that. I like that I can still (occasionally) satisfy my partner. Well, penetration is very different, but we can still do it. I feel embarrassed about having an erection though. Idk. I felt like I was non op, but I think about it more now. I just never expected that I would be so happy killing off my sex drive.
I think killing off the sex drive for me at least is a freedom in itself. Without those distractions I've been more able to get in youch with my inner self. Being currently single though I realize I don't have the obligations many others have for keeping a wife or partner satisfied. ;)