Long time since I wrote a post.
Confession here!!
I don't get enough sex.
i'm okay with that, since my focus have been on alot of other things than geting laid or drunk.
(maybe i'm just starting to feel grown up, doing grown up things?... I hope not)
anyway
it could be cool to get laid somethime and I just been invited for a party where I got 2-3 guys hiting on me last time so maybe I could find someone hot for the weekend 8) theres just a problem
my friend call me "lazy-slut"
as I could go with most people but almost never make a move to get serious.
im quit lazy,true... but also im abit akward on how to go on them specially on telling them im trans and I guess that generally what hold me back.
I usunally think if I had a d*ck it wouldn't be a problem at all as I wouldn't have to disclose anything.
it not like i'm not open about being trans, it's just not like I tell people right aheard like "hello im trans" so if they get interesteed then it get abit akward and I start to wonder "when should I tell" or "how would they react" generally nervous of the negative effects.
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so my question is:
whats the best way to tell someone you want to hook up with, that you are trans?
This is not based on personal experience, but stories I've heard from others.
He would hook up with gay or bi men, they didn't care because they are so turned on and attracted to the person that they just want to get laid. But that was for a guy I knew who passed 100% pre t. I'm guessing if you want to get intimate you should be upfront when the time comes if there's no way around it. Once they say lets hookup just nonchalantly say hey so I lack a certain part, but hey the good thing is it could be any shape size color you want lol.
Quote from: notyouraverageguy on February 11, 2014, 04:31:04 PM
This is not based on personal experience, but stories I've heard from others.
He would hook up with gay or bi men, they didn't care because they are so turned on and attracted to the person that they just want to get laid. But that was for a guy I knew who passed 100% pre t. I'm guessing if you want to get intimate you should be upfront when the time comes if there's no way around it. Once they say lets hookup just nonchalantly say hey so I lack a certain part, but hey the good thing is it could be any shape size color you want lol.
I only hooked up with people who already knew I was trans, I had many requist online, where some of them was positve or negative when they found out I was trans. most people who seen me in real life are general positive but im still abit anxious. I do pass but I dont wear a packer, and I dont have any problems with my downstairs, I just get dyshoria if gay guys say stuff like "they could never be with someone with a vegina" or anything like that.
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The size thing dosen't really work for me =/ I don't have so many sizes only 2 actually.
and I general don't invite strangers at home as
1; I live with my parrent
2; it usunally far away from where i'm having a party.
I have somethimes taken my "sizes" with me, but it also tend to get akward as my travel bag also is my school bag and I don't want to remember the time we had bag-analyzing at school.
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Quote from: Natkat on February 11, 2014, 04:52:40 PM
I have somethimes taken my "sizes" with me, but it also tend to get akward as my travel bag also is my school bag and I don't want to remember the time we had bag-analyzing at school.
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For a first hookup the most average sized cock will do, I wouldn't overcomplicate things.
When you disclose just say it in simple terms - that you are totally male but happen have female body parts, and if you top you have a detachable penis. If people reject that, just move on. Some guys need the flesh penis, others don't. Even cis males have to deal with rejection at some point in their lives, so it is not a trans specific thing.
To me being stealth south of the border is a big deal. My bottom dysphoria seems to grow daily. I don't have top surgery but I leave my shirt on, say its a religious thing if anyone questions it or the girl tries to take it off. I play the part of the dominant one and find submissive girls are more willing to just lay back and let me do my thing so this allows me to be stealth with my prosthetic. It sometimes gets tricky if she wants to feel down there because I"m always paranoid she will touch behind my balls and SURPRISE!, wish a prosthetic was made with a bottom tab to cover that area up for exactly that reason but thats a different story.
Yes I know some people will say its unethical to be stealth and not disclose but lets not make this thread about it. I disagree and say since I am male I don't see a reason I need to tell a girl that I was born with the same biology as her even though I'm not actually a girl. Thats for more serious relationships, not a hookup.