1. I've been seeing a therapist now for about 3 weeks or so. Their office is at the school I am attending. I have been straight with her and told her quite a bit so far. Last week, she asked if I would like to see her 2x a week instead of once. I was like hellz ya, I was thinking the same thing last thursday because I got so much to say and I liked going and talking to her. I really like her, and feel comfortable with her, but am worried that maybe she doesn't know what to do really. She is a grad student, going for her masters, so I was wondering if I still should see her or look to someone else, maybe with more experience and someone who has experience dealing with transitioning (she said she didn't have any, only that she knew someone who was going thru something similar as I am). She is super cheap also tho, which is a major + since I'm so poor. She is always listening and asking things, and never seems weirded out or hostile as some people say their old therapists where. Tomorrow, my next appointment with her, I plan on telling her a ton of stuff, and one major thing that I have not mentioned yet.
2. Told my boss yesterday that I was seeing a therapist about something (convo came up randomly at work). She understands that cuz she sees one as well, but I didn't say why I was seeing one. Also, sometime the same day, she said my eyebrows where a mess, which I agree was totally true, because have been super busy recently so haven't done too much personal grooming, and she said you should go get em waxed. I was like WTH?! lol, kinda took me by surprise that she would say that. I have recently considered doing that maybe next time I go get hair done, but am curious why she might say that to me? I feel like I've always been sorta in between at work, as sometimes one of the girls, and sometimes as one of the guys, so I guess I'm wondering, does she suspect something else??!?!
Any thoughts anyone?
-Kelly
Quote from: LivingTheDream on February 12, 2014, 11:42:38 AM
I have recently considered doing that maybe next time I go get hair done, but am curious why she might say that to me? I feel like I've always been sorta in between at work, as sometimes one of the girls, and sometimes as one of the guys, so I guess I'm wondering, does she suspect something else??!?!
Sounds like this was an opening for you to come out to her. She probably has an idea that you're trans.
As far as the therapist, if you feel like you're getting good advice, the younger therapist is probably OK. Be advised, though, that doctors who get therapist letters sometimes want the therapist to have a master's degree.
1. I would suggest you look for a specialist who is trained or educated on the proper steps to transitioning as well as the laws and requirements and pretty much all things Trans. I saw a therapist about 5 months ago who was absolutely FANTASTIC, she was so nice and so open minded and was totally helpful, however she told me that because she wasn't a professional in that field that I should seek the help of a specialist because she wasnt qualified to deal with that kind of issue, so luckily she referred me to a psychologist who specializes in Trans issues as well as sexuality and kink issues. The problem is that most gender therapists dont take insurance and are usually very expensive, but i would definitely say my psychologist is worth the money; I was lucky enough that my psychologist concentrates more on her clients than on the money so she negotiates her price with whatever you can afford. But i really truly recommend you find a specialist who is educated and knowledgeable about the whole process. Age doesnt really matter because skill is skill regardless of age lol, my first therapist was only 28 but she was absolutely fantastic ~ but you'd have a quicker and easier time with this whole process if your therapist is a certified gender/trans issues therapist.
2. Many people wax their eyebrows, both men and women. So its not uncommon for someone to recommend waxing as an option ~ honestly its the quickest and most effective way of grooming your eyebrows. Both my Dad and big brother wax their eyebrows on a regular basis ~ its quicker and more effective than tweazing or plucking. These days, what use to be considered "metrosexuality" is pretty much basic human behavior ~ both men and women seem to use skin care products, hair care products, pay closer attention to grooming and hygiene; its become a normal thing regardless of gender.
I personally wouldn't read too much into it, but at the same time i would consider it a pretty reasonable opening because even though body waxing is common among men and women, most men choose to stay hairy regardless, so maybe she noticed that you are more feminine?
I usually get em done when I get my haircut, but the norm crew were all on vacation so they didn't this time. when I notice them getting shaggy, I usually just take a pair of lil scissors and trim em myself. Never heard of any dude getting eyebrows waxed round here, damn backwards Michigan! Prolly just overreacting a bit, but still seems odd that she would mention that to me.
Ya I was gonna say that after I tell her what I need to tomorrow, gonna ask her what she thinks, what she think I should do etc. So guess tomorrows the big day..."gets scared". So I'll update in about 26 hrs from now.