My problem is.......my big flipping HEAD!
I've got a big old head. It sucks! There's no surgery for that. I was once told by a doctor that I had a large head. He even pulled out his friggin measuring tape!! Estrogen won't make it smaller. In fact, its more noticeable in girl clothes. Its like..."hey I'm used to women having tiny lil peanuts for heads and you have a watermelon. What the flippin heck??" :eusa_boohoo:
Does anyone else have this issue?? What the heck can you do?? Wear big hair to compensate????
I hate it!
Let's give it up for big heads! I used to always get teased for my big head and I love my big head :)
Quote from: gowiththeflow on February 13, 2014, 03:39:28 AM
Let's give it up for big heads! I used to always get teased for my big head and I love my big head :)
REALLY!? Get out....YOU?? Well maybe I'll love my big head too. :D
Yup. Lots of awesome woman and men have big foreheads . I love mine
I have a big head too! As you say, there's nothing you can do about it :)
Quote from: Just Lara on February 13, 2014, 03:06:38 AM
My problem is.......my big flipping HEAD!
I've got a big old head. It sucks! There's no surgery for that. I was once told by a doctor that I had a large head. He even pulled out his friggin measuring tape!! Estrogen won't make it smaller. In fact, its more noticeable in girl clothes. Its like..."hey I'm used to women having tiny lil peanuts for heads and you have a watermelon. What the flippin heck??" :eusa_boohoo:
Does anyone else have this issue?? What the heck can you do?? Wear big hair to compensate????
I hate it!
You are so funny , I love your optimism and your style , it always gets me in a better mood .
And , yes , I have a big head too , it is partially genetic , many of my relatives have big heads , but also , compared to other girls is bigger because I am almost 5'11" tall and also experienced the male puberty .
But I think that long hair helps a lot , at least in my case it makes me feel ok when I have volume in hairstyle . It is clearly better than when I have my hair in a ponytail or something , and the shape and size of my head become much more visible .
Also I hope FFS will help a little , removing some mm from chin and jaw , some from my nose , some from my eyebrows area , overall it will give the illusion of a better proportioned/smaller head , and unless a cute little girl sits near me , I guess my head won't look as big .
Lara, it is a nearly universal curse of being a woman to dislike some aspect of one's looks. Nearly every woman has something about her that they can't stand to see in the mirror.
Embrace it. Being a woman is so wonderful that, for me at least, the good far outweighs the bad. But just as our quest for beauty in ourselves and for the world is one of our strongest points, self-criticism is one of our weakest.
All part of girlhood, dear.
Quote from: Claudia_FF on February 13, 2014, 07:39:10 AM
You are so funny , I love your optimism and your style , it always gets me in a better mood .
And , yes , I have a big head too , it is partially genetic , many of my relatives have big heads , but also , compared to other girls is bigger because I am almost 5'11" tall and also experienced the male puberty .
But I think that long hair helps a lot , at least in my case it makes me feel ok when I have volume in hairstyle . It is clearly better than when I have my hair in a ponytail or something , and the shape and size of my head become much more visible .
Also I hope FFS will help a little , removing some mm from chin and jaw , some from my nose , some from my eyebrows area , overall it will give the illusion of a better proportioned/smaller head , and unless a cute little girl sits near me , I guess my head won't look as big .
Thank you. I try to stay optimistic. This road we walk on can be long and dark and if we are not careful can swallow us whole. I'm looking forward to longer hair to hide the massive asteroid that sits on my neck. Okay, its not THAT big but you get the idea. I've also been looking at FFS as a possible solution. In reality Ill probably be whining about something even after all that. lol
If a cute girl sits near me I hope its you! Ill bring cookies! ;)
Quote from: suzifrommd on February 13, 2014, 08:05:28 AM
Lara, it is a nearly universal curse of being a woman to dislike some aspect of one's looks. Nearly every woman has something about her that they can't stand to see in the mirror.
Embrace it. Being a woman is so wonderful that, for me at least, the good far outweighs the bad. But just as our quest for beauty in ourselves and for the world is one of our strongest points, self-criticism is one of our weakest.
All part of girlhood, dear.
Golly I never realized this aspect of being a woman was so powerful. What a pain in the butt! I can't even walk out of the grocery store because I'll see my own reflection in the glass doors. I mean, I'm not sure if hormones are making my dysphoria better or worst. Still, you are so right. Being a woman DOES outweigh all that.
Thank you so much for reminding me.
My hat size is 8. I have never once worried about it. A big brain needs a big vault. BFD.
Well this is a new one! But I agree I also have what you call a "BIG Head" Lol being I'm 5'11 its kinda hard not to have one ;) but I found with my long thick hair I give it a nice side part with my hair curled it makes my watermelon look smaller :)
Quote from: Jill F on February 14, 2014, 02:34:53 AM
My hat size is 8. I have never once worried about it. A big brain needs a big vault. BFD.
Yeah size 8? And you have no issues about it? Sheesh, maybe I'm just worrying about it too much. I don't even know my hat size. lol
Quote from: Adria on February 14, 2014, 02:36:32 AM
Well this is a new one! But I agree I also have what you call a "BIG Head" Lol being I'm 5'11 its kinda hard not to have one ;) but I found with my long thick hair I give it a nice side part with my hair curled it makes my watermelon look smaller :)
Yeah I'm 5'9, guess its just a given. It seems that I just need to let my hair grow out. I can't friggin wait and my watermelon can't wait either! 8)
So much to look forward to!
Lol I wouldn't worry to much about it Hun from your pic
You look great! Sadly we are our own worst enemies when it comes to our flaws! I should know I do it on a daily basis Haha
I need to post another pic. That one is getting stale. I blame the angles for the good pic but I'll also take your compliment. Thanks!
Lol no prob Hun wish I could figure out how to get a pic up since I'm using my phone Lol but something a friend told me once that always stuck with me was that the flaws we focus on ourselves are the things no one else notices Lol something to think about :D
Thats so true Adria! Thanks so much!
No prob Hun anytime!! Yeah I've been in transition for a little over a year now and my girlfriends give me hell over the smallest stuff I nick pick about and as much as I'll never admit it to them their right haha
A big head is a typical MTF trait....but making it appear even bigger with a big hairdo/too full wig and cheekimplants and augmented lips...is a reality disorder.
FFS to reduce a forehead, jaw and chin thus making your face look smaller , sure.
BUT a reduced forehead emphasises your jaw and chin, a smaller nose emphasises the width/size of your (already) big face and cheekimplants.....look ridiculous, making a big face look even bigger and out of proportion.
Plus: cheekimplants make a face look harsh/older, even a ciswoman's face.
Ciswomen who had (way) too much plastic surgery almost always look like transsexuals...but having a small head :-)
If this worked my pic should be up and noe you can see my watermelon head Haha ;)
It don't look like you have a big head to me.
I can't really comment on this in the way you want, but I just wanted to put a reminder out there. I am 5'10 with a massive head and I am ftm. I know it helps me now, but I think it is worth noting that not all people who went through female puberty are petite. If you pass well enough in other areas I'm sure nobody even notices.
I have a big head, but my curly hair helps hide it a little, but it does nothing for my horsey-face.
I did measure my head and the head of a coworker the other day, mostly just to annoy her, but anyhoo, we were about the same diameter head. So apparently, she has a big head as well. And if it matters, she and I have about the same size foot too.
Quote from: Dahlia on February 14, 2014, 05:28:43 AM
A big head is a typical MTF trait....but making it appear even bigger with a big hairdo/too full wig and cheekimplants and augmented lips...is a reality disorder.
FFS to reduce a forehead, jaw and chin thus making your face look smaller , sure.
BUT a reduced forehead emphasises your jaw and chin, a smaller nose emphasises the width/size of your (already) big face and cheekimplants.....look ridiculous, making a big face look even bigger and out of proportion.
Plus: cheekimplants make a face look harsh/older, even a ciswoman's face.
Ciswomen who had (way) too much plastic surgery almost always look like transsexuals...but having a small head :-)
I think about FFS all the friggin time but this is a really good point! I really don't care about how pretty i look (ok I care a bit) but I really just want to look female. I think I would rather not pass than look like a trainwreck.
Quote from: Adria on February 14, 2014, 08:12:24 PM
If this worked my pic should be up and noe you can see my watermelon head Haha ;)
pffft You look great!
Quote from: Sir Wafflinton on February 14, 2014, 09:56:19 PM
I can't really comment on this in the way you want, but I just wanted to put a reminder out there. I am 5'10 with a massive head and I am ftm. I know it helps me now, but I think it is worth noting that not all people who went through female puberty are petite. If you pass well enough in other areas I'm sure nobody even notices.
That's a really good perspective coming from someone who is FTM. We can really learn a lot from each other if you think about it. I think I will focus on passing over all instead of thinking about each thing that I friggin hate. Thank you so much!
Quote from: petunia on February 16, 2014, 11:47:54 AM
I have a big head, but my curly hair helps hide it a little, but it does nothing for my horsey-face.
I did measure my head and the head of a coworker the other day, mostly just to annoy her, but anyhoo, we were about the same diameter head. So apparently, she has a big head as well. And if it matters, she and I have about the same size foot too.
Hah, I think the same thing about my face. I sure we are both just being knuckle heads about it.
I was thinking and for me a the problem doesn't stop at my head's size , i hate my hands and feet too, they are just huge . For example i like bracelets a lot but i can't wear the ones that are solid , i need the ones that have a lock and can be set direclty on the forearm/wrist area . With shoes it is even worse , i struggle so much to find a pair that fits me , i don't even get to choose model / color , i am just happy when i find one that fits my monster feet . I heard a girl saying that HRT made her feet a little smaller so i still hope , i need a little decrease to mingle in the women big size category, now i am in extralarge zone ;D
Do any of you have this kind of problems and how do you cope with them ?
A large head never stopped this girl:
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... and she has an epic sized mellon. Many guys find her smoking hot, which never computed with me... but a big-head is a small problem. Really.
Quote from: Claudia_FF on February 27, 2014, 10:24:05 AM
I was thinking and for me a the problem doesn't stop at my head's size , i hate my hands and feet too, they are just huge . For example i like bracelets a lot but i can't wear the ones that are solid , i need the ones that have a lock and can be set direclty on the forearm/wrist area . With shoes it is even worse , i struggle so much to find a pair that fits me , i don't even get to choose model / color , i am just happy when i find one that fits my monster feet . I heard a girl saying that HRT made her feet a little smaller so i still hope , i need a little decrease to mingle in the women big size category, now i am in extralarge zone ;D
Do any of you have this kind of problems and how do you cope with them ?
I know what you mean Claudia. I used to live with women with hands and feet that were bigger than mine and probably yours too. lol They would always complain about the same thing. Always looking and looking for the right size, the right fit. At least we have the excuse of being born male then becoming female later. Can you imagine being bigger than all the boys in class, having a flippin mustache (yeah they had to shave!), and being born a genetic female?
Still they do fine and I'm sure we will too.
Quote from: JennX on February 27, 2014, 07:46:36 PM
A large head never stopped this girl:
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... and she has an epic sized mellon. Many guys find her smoking hot, which never computed with me... but a big-head is a small problem. Really.
You know I always thought so! I also always wondered if she could really cook?? hmmmmm
Great point JennX!
at least it makes your shoulders look smaller! :-)
Another huge-head here. And I'm 5'6" so it really stands out. I totally own it!
Quote from: kira21 ♡♡♡ on February 28, 2014, 08:36:40 AM
at least it makes your shoulders look smaller! :-)
HAH! yeah, I guess so! Good point!
Quote from: mandonlym on February 28, 2014, 09:13:55 PM
Another huge-head here. And I'm 5'6" so it really stands out. I totally own it!
Wow, 5'6". I'd love to be 5'6" and have that problem. lol I guess 5'9" is that big of a difference though.
I have got to get better at that. Owning it. I guess practice makes perfect!
The difference between scale and proportion is critical here... having a large head in proportion to your neck and shoulders will actually help with feminine appearance.
I have huge hands- scaled against cis girls hands... but they are proportioned such that they look slender and feminine. Yay for small mercies.
no... I'm a transman with a super small head though! In bio class (in undergrad) we had to measure all of our heads one time and it was me and one other guy at the super small end with all the ladies. I wasn't officially out in that class, but many people in that class just made the assumption that i was a dude (even with my female name) so I didn't correct them. He/shes didn't really effect the immediate situation much.
Really when it comes down to it its like other people said... your head size does not determine your gender in other people's eyes. That other kid in my class was very definitely a cisguy and he was at the bottom with me. No one questioned his gender. Why should they?
Hi Lara,
I wouldn't worry too much about head size as that's just one part of your overall look. In my family my mum and me have the biggest heads while my dad and sister have the smallest one's - we're an odd looking family!
Alena x
My head is so big, Macy's approached me about being in their parade.
Quote from: JaimeD on March 09, 2014, 05:38:50 AM
My head is so big, Macy's approached me about being in their parade.
=]
One of my exes is a cisgender girl with a big, ol' noggin. Didn't stop her from being a beautiful woman, and I can't see why it would stop anyone who wants to be a beautiful woman from being exactly that! It's something I keep in mind should I start to fret about the size of the planetoid on my shoulders... lol
FWIW, yr head doesn't look big in yr avatar. :)
Quote from: JaimeD on March 09, 2014, 05:38:50 AM
My head is so big, Macy's approached me about being in their parade.
HAH!
Quote from: Ally_B on March 11, 2014, 02:05:18 AM
One of my exes is a cisgender girl with a big, ol' noggin. Didn't stop her from being a beautiful woman, and I can't see why it would stop anyone who wants to be a beautiful woman from being exactly that! It's something I keep in mind should I start to fret about the size of the planetoid on my shoulders... lol
FWIW, yr head doesn't look big in yr avatar. :)
Thank you! I think my biggest issue is that I live with my wife and look at her tiny little peanut head ALL DAY LONG. I have learned that my sister, who is the same height as my wife has a much bigger head than my wife. I'm learning so much about head sizes! LOL
She says that to counter the whole big head thing she just keeps her hair really long. And her hair is SUPER long. This whole head thing has gone from something I was kinda bummed about to something kinda hilarious! Some people have peanuts (like my wonderful wife) and some people have....ummmmm....Macy's Day Parade Floats!
When we draw super heroic guys we make the proportion of the head smaller- take a look a superman. Normally nine heads high instead of seven and a half. Space marines take this to the ridiculous extreme- often having a head twenty times the height in some drawings. All relative babes!
Now me, I got wide shoulders. I widen my head by adding volume to my hair at the sides.
Quote from: Emmaline on March 16, 2014, 08:27:09 PM
When we draw super heroic guys we make the proportion of the head smaller- take a look a superman. Normally nine heads high instead of seven and a half. Space marines take this to the ridiculous extreme- often having a head twenty times the height in some drawings. All relative babes!
Now me, I got wide shoulders. I widen my head by adding volume to my hair at the sides.
I often make a point of drawing people with real proportions. The super tall people in comics just bug me.
Adding volume....thats a good idea! Thanks.