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Community Conversation => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Transsexual talk => FTM Top Surgery => Topic started by: Alexthecat on February 15, 2014, 09:50:19 PM

Title: theres nothing there
Post by: Alexthecat on February 15, 2014, 09:50:19 PM
So I occasionally get the comments from my surgery that there was nothing there before. I said well now I'm flat. I guess I need a better way to shut them up and stop saying that there was nothing there. They were saying that before I had surgery too.
Title: Re: theres nothing there
Post by: anibioman on February 18, 2014, 10:17:11 PM
Yeah I haven't gotten that at all post op. I did however get that before surgery a ton. I'd just ignored it or told them that all you see is me covering it up.
Title: Re: theres nothing there
Post by: blink on February 19, 2014, 02:45:03 PM
If you want them to shut up, perhaps something along the lines of, "I went through surgery for my peace of mind, not for anyone else. Unsolicited opinions on this subject are inappropriate."
Title: Re: theres nothing there
Post by: Sebryn on February 19, 2014, 04:16:11 PM
Frankly I'd just ignore them. Go silent and walk away. Eventually they might get the picture. Surgery of any kind is no one's business but your own. They don't have any rights, though they may believe differently, to comment on nor ask why.

I have gotten the same comment about not needing surgery because I was small chested...from a therapist no less! I was very upset with her and dropped her faster than a hot potato once I got my T letter....which it turns out I did not need. And quite honestly unless these people have seen you minus clothes and binder they can't form an honest opinion about such things.

My point in telling you this is that no one has any right to make comments like that about a surgery that you, yourself have deemed necessary for your own peace of mind and well being.