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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: anibioman on February 17, 2014, 02:31:14 AM

Title: Funeral
Post by: anibioman on February 17, 2014, 02:31:14 AM
I have a funeral to go to. The thing is I recently grew out of my suit and all I have now is a jacket and it's a light/medium blueish gray. I feel it might be too light for a funeral. I could go dress shirt with sweater on top, I have dark sweaters. I also can't get a black suit because then I'd need to get black shoes and a belt. All I have now are brown shoes. I have maybe $200 I could spend but no way to get to the desired store. I also don't want to be the only guy not wearing a jacket. I'm in a pickle.
Title: Re: Funeral
Post by: greypeacock on February 17, 2014, 02:46:06 AM
Some places will rent you a suit for the evening.
Title: Re: Funeral
Post by: ZombieDog on February 17, 2014, 02:46:55 AM
Unless your family(or the family of the deceased person) are die-hard traditionalists, I wouldn't sweat it too much.  Any color jacket, so long as it's respectful, should be fine.  Even a dark sweater would probably work(make sure you  have an idea of what the weather will be like.  No sense in being physically miserable while you're also being sad.)  Heck, before I transitioned, I wore a sun dress to a funeral.  Not the most traditional of attire, but I don't think my mom minded.
Title: Re: Funeral
Post by: Arch on February 17, 2014, 03:01:38 AM
If you are careful, you can sometimes get nice bargains at thrift stores or resale shops. Of course, finding a jacket that way can take some time. But I see nothing wrong with a dark sweater as long as the weather isn't hot, as ZombieDog mentions.
Title: Re: Funeral
Post by: Bimmer Guy on February 17, 2014, 08:11:55 AM
Quote from: Arch on February 17, 2014, 03:01:38 AM
If you are careful, you can sometimes get nice bargains at thrift stores or resale shops. Of course, finding a jacket that way can take some time. But I see nothing wrong with a dark sweater as long as the weather isn't hot, as ZombieDog mentions.

I agree that you should be fine with just a dark, quality sweater.  The other thing you have going for you is your age.  When you are a teenager, people have less expectation that you dress at the high end of "dressy" for an event.  I am sorry for your loss.  I hope it wasn't someone you are extremely close to.
Title: Re: Funeral
Post by: anibioman on February 17, 2014, 12:57:55 PM
I think I'm just going to wear the jacket as I remembered it being lighter than it is. plus my mom said it's fine.
Title: Re: Funeral
Post by: overdrive on February 18, 2014, 12:57:07 PM
Yeah I was going to say the black or dark color thing is becoming a thing of the past, at least in the funerals I've been to in the past several years. I never wear that dark or color to them as funerals are supposed to be a celebration of the persons life, not a day of depression. Last few funerals I've been to, I wore black pants but a lighter colored sweater. I started wearing lighter color shirts after one funeral of a family member with cancer had said they wanted people to come in comfortable clothing and nothing drab and dreary. I thought about it and realized I would want the same thing... so my days of wearing all dark clothing to funerals came to an end.