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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: jebee on February 23, 2014, 07:19:33 PM

Title: feel alone..
Post by: jebee on February 23, 2014, 07:19:33 PM
you know i've slept with two different very pretty very nice women in the last 2 weeks, infact one of them lives just 100 feet from me, and i see her almost every day, and the very best friend you could ever want. The other well you never know perhaps girlfriend material. Any way that's not the point i always feel so alone, like i just dont belong. Anyone else had a similar experience?
Title: Re: feel alone..
Post by: mandonlym on February 23, 2014, 07:39:01 PM
I don't feel alone all the time but I do have a tendency to sleep with people to boost my self-esteem. I mean, I enjoy it and all that but part of me always does it to prove to myself that I'm attractive. Not sure if that will ever go away. Hang in there.
Title: Re: feel alone..
Post by: Jessica Merriman on February 23, 2014, 07:59:50 PM
Please don't look at this as judgment or disrespect as that is not the intent. I hardly ever feel alone when I take the time in a relationship to form not just physical contact, but mental as well. The emotional aspect covers the time the person is not available or out of town. This way I feel they are here even when they aren't. By taking time to know them inside I form a much better healthy relationship. :)
Title: Re: feel alone..
Post by: Jamie D on February 23, 2014, 08:12:59 PM
Jebee, loneliness is sometimes part of the burden we carry as TG/TS.

I have written before that I can feel lonely in a crowded room.  And even though I have been in a 30+ year monogamous relationship, I can never quite shake the feeling.

Companionship is important.  Inclusion and acceptance are too.
Title: Re: feel alone..
Post by: big kim on February 24, 2014, 02:25:51 AM
Always,since I was a kid.It took me a long time to realise I wasn't going to fit in with any body else,even theother outcasts.I'm used to it but still wonder what it could be like not to be alone
Title: Re: feel alone..
Post by: Ms Grace on February 24, 2014, 02:32:22 AM
I'm frequently alone but rarely feel lonely, often prefer my own company as the real world can sometimes be a bit too hectic and in my face - I enjoy my time with the people I enjoy being with and that usually lasts me until the next time. That said, it would still be lovely to have someone to cuddle up to, especially on cold nights! :)
Title: Re: feel alone..
Post by: Sarah leah on February 24, 2014, 02:38:33 AM
I am a single parent.... what is sex! What is dating lol! As for feeling alone, I do everyday, but I hope HRT along with seeing Dr Lyons will boost my confidence. Who knows, perhaps in a year I might be able to enter the public once more without feeling ill about what I look like and feel secure in myself. 
Title: Re: feel alone..
Post by: stephaniec on February 24, 2014, 11:35:36 AM
I consider it being creatively lonely
Title: Re: feel alone..
Post by: Lizzie on February 24, 2014, 11:52:42 AM
I've been alone for years. Sucks but I guess you learn to live with it. Could always get a cat. But they tend to leave you alone most of the time anyways.
Title: Re: feel alone..
Post by: jebee on February 24, 2014, 01:10:06 PM
thanks for the nice messages :) xx
Title: Re: feel alone..
Post by: Zoe Louise Taylor on February 24, 2014, 01:21:13 PM
Yea i know the feeling!! :(

Even when im around people, i still can feel alone, as my insecurities often make me believe that people dont wanna be around me!! :(
And as for a relationship . . .  Thats just not gonna happen!!

Hopefully beginning hormones will make me more confident and less insecure though!!!

Zoe
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