Hi, I've decided, now is probably the time for me to come out of the closet to my parents. However, my parents are going through a rough time worrying they may have to move out of their house due to financial reasons. Should I wait until this dies down as it could be several months. Also, here is my letter I plan on writing via email. Also, should I wait until I have a gender therapist in mind or should I find one after. Here is my rough draft of my coming out email to my mum
So, you have noticed how I have had an extreme lack of motivation as well as been very depressed recently. What you don't know is I looked up ways to painlessly kill myself twice now. Though I know I will never do something so drastic, I have been insanely depressed. After much thought and careful consideration, I feel these symptoms may be from gender dysphoria. I know a long time ago I told you I was "turned on" by the idea of being turned into a girl. Well those feelings have not changed over the years. In fact they have only grown stronger. I am not sure what I am entirely, whether that be transgender or transsexual, but I do know, there is something not normal about me going on. I was hoping to speak with a gender therapist so I could figure out what is going on with me and perhaps make sure there is no alternative explanation. I know you will want to call and immediately discuss this and you are probably mad or even sick to your stomach. I would like you to wait to call me until the end of the weekend if not the end of next week as I need to focus on my studies and I would really like you to carefully think over and read the provided documentation. I need help. I'm tired and I don't know what to do anymore. I love you very much and that won't change no matter how you take this. I need help and I don't want to do this alone. I am open to emailing you but, I am not ready to talk over the phone or in person yet. Please understand I have been thinking about this since before I was five and have tried multiple times to pray it away. The problem is, it will not go away, no matter how hard I try.
Screw it, I'm just gonna do it. After this I'm sure it is Five O clock somewhere :icon_neutral:
I'm sick to my stomach but also a little relieved. I finally did it. Here is the final copy of my letter for anyone interested. http://www.->-bleeped-<-.com/r/asktransgender/comments/1z9dji/i_finally_came_out_to_my_mom/
Hey op,
Congrats on getting it out of your system! I don't know what sort of family situation you have, but I wish you lots of luck. It'll be okay in the end, no matter what the result is.
Thanks, I've been worried sick about it and now I can't sleep lol. But as the Doctor says GERONIMO! (Doctor Who reference in case you aren't as geeky as me :P) But thanks for the support guys.
Quote from: transgressingwaffle on March 01, 2014, 06:37:43 AM
Thanks, I've been worried sick about it and now I can't sleep lol. But as the Doctor says GERONIMO! (Doctor Who reference in case you aren't as geeky as me :P) But thanks for the support guys.
I totally understand. When I came out, I had my sisters hand my mother my coming out note while I went out to dinner with a friend. I came home and got really really drunk and waited for the verdict. You're handling it better than many of us do. Kudos for that.
Thanks, right now I am seriously considering some heavy drinking though lol Damn it. I've earned some brandy.
Quote from: transgressingwaffle on March 01, 2014, 06:52:30 AM
Thanks, right now I am seriously considering some heavy drinking though lol Damn it. I've earned some brandy.
Lol, I don't know if I recommend it, but I do understand.
Is there anything you like to do that takes your mind off of things?
Good luck! I was going to advise you to wait, but there's no time like the present!