My girlfriends ex said some really transphobic stuff to me a while ago. Today I found out that my brother is now friends with this kid. So I flipped a ->-bleeped-<-. I no longer go to school with him. He does go to school with my girlfriend, My brother, and a lot of my friends. Unfortunately he and I have mutual friends. I'm wondering what I should do about this. I'm tired of people thinking he is a great guy. It started with him trying to make peace with me which quickly turned into him being passive aggressive. He insulted my girlfriend. I responded with a bit of an insult. This is what he said
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Btw this was through facebook. I don't know what I should do about this.
Be the adult.
Well, just because he's friends with some of your friends...doesn't mean you have to be his friend (both literally and on facebook) I personally wouldn't engage with him at all. The block function exists for a reason!
I'm so sorry that this happened to you. I would advise you to be the bigger person and just end your conversations with him.
Man... I'm guessing these are high schoolers?
I wouldn't try to hold them to too high of standards. I'd tell your brother that he should maybe try to stick up for you instead of being a little twerp, but other than that there isn't much you can do. It all goes back to the more you struggle the more they'll laugh. Don't let them get to you or they'll know they can get to you. Be stronger than them. Be more mature then them. Walk away from it and go have f-ckin bangin sex with your girlfriend (or something like that) to regain some of your manly feelings.
Just remember there will always be supreme jerks with lots of friends. Its a classic character type. Keep to the people who support you, and f-ck the rest.
I knew this one kid in high school who was such a douche. White trash in the worst ways, school mandated anger management... the works. I never liked him. Eventually he started dating my best friend who I was in love with (and that I later went on to date for 3 years). I still had to see him almost daily(we went to the same school and shared friends) and be somewhat genial. I was even somewhat nice to him in a jokey-douchey kind of way when he came by my work (local fast food joint by the movie theatre). These are just things in life you have to deal with.
(also, if you tell someone to suck a bag of dicks... they may be more likely to say something like that to you then if you just don't respond at all or pretend that their comment did nothing more than bore you. Don't give them ammunition.... and setting his comment up perfectly by using dicks in your initial insult wasn't the best planning on that either. Before getting in a debate with the immature I'd study up on some classic quick-witted comedy. If you're good at that you'll almost always come out with the upper hand )
Personally, I'd ignore him. If others want to hang out with him, then fine, but that doesn't mean you have to.
I also wonder if he was just taking a cheap shot because you're with his ex. Like maybe he is jealous.
Be the bigger person. Nothing pisses off people faster than you not being willing to argue and fight with them. At least, that's what I would do. Arguing and stressing over crap someone else is mad about just feed the fire and makes them feel like they are in the right.
Listen to the others who've posted here. Don't respond. He's getting exactly what he wants from you.
I agree with the others here too. He wants you to respond because people like that love starting fights and getting attention. Don't respond to him or you'll just make things worse.