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Title: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: JessicaNYCgirl on March 12, 2014, 02:54:52 PM
 The day is near! I'm very excited and hoping all will go well!  ,  Vaginoplasty with Toby Meltzer , I arrive in Phoenix AZ.  Sunday  ,  my surgery is Scheduled  for Tuesday march 18th  I will be arriving to phoenix  Sunday night  ;)


oxoxox

Jess.
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: 930310 on March 12, 2014, 03:17:58 PM
Great!
I hope you all the best!
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: Vicky on March 12, 2014, 06:08:36 PM
Best of luck to you, and wishes for rapid healing.  You will be on "The Other Side" with a bunch of us and  ready to get on with LIFE by this time next week, now all you have to do is survive this week. . 
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: Jessica Merriman on March 12, 2014, 06:15:00 PM
I don't even think I could sleep at all. I hope everything turns out well and you heal quickly. If you change your mind I happen to know another Jessica that would gladly take your place! ;D
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: mrs izzy on March 12, 2014, 06:19:24 PM
The SRS is the easy part, you just fall asleep and the doctor does the hard work. Your work starts with your after care.

With that said i wish you all the best with your surgery, speed in healing and easy dilations.

Looking forward to having you in the Sisterhood.

Hugs
Isabell
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: JessicaNYCgirl on March 12, 2014, 10:31:29 PM
Thank  you  all  for your best wishes  sisters!.....  I am not looking .....actually I'M! haha  looking forward to the dilatation  process , i will have plenty of time not working for the next two months so i should do  fine (with time to dilate) i just don't want it to hurt I've known of people i knew who did their surgery in south america  came back here and dilating was so painful they stop i don't know why was painful  but their vagina  caved in 

Is there any numbing cream i could use dilating? idk just a thought  also should I stock up with Surgilube now?   i don't know yet Meltzer's dilating scheduled but i guess I will soon find out     

I'm so anxiously waiting at the same time wondering what it will feel like the day after the second day    will i be able to get up and walk    and how soon after .. etc etc   so many things going trough my head      but surprisingly I'm not nervous nor scared   just very hopeful! for a very good outcome and anxious to put all this behind me soon enough     ....Waited so long for this.


Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: 930310 on March 13, 2014, 01:24:07 PM
Once again, I wish you the best of luck and a speedy recovery! :)
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: mrs izzy on March 13, 2014, 02:23:37 PM
Quote from: JessicaNYCgirl on March 12, 2014, 10:31:29 PM
Thank  you  all  for your best wishes  sisters!.....  I am not looking .....actually I'M! haha  looking forward to the dilatation  process , i will have plenty of time not working for the next two months so i should do  fine (with time to dilate) i just don't want it to hurt I've known of people i knew who did their surgery in south america  came back here and dilating was so painful they stop i don't know why was painful  but their vagina  caved in 

Is there any numbing cream i could use dilating? idk just a thought  also should I stock up with Surgilube now?   i don't know yet Meltzer's dilating scheduled but i guess I will soon find out     

I'm so anxiously waiting at the same time wondering what it will feel like the day after the second day    will i be able to get up and walk    and how soon after .. etc etc   so many things going trough my head      but surprisingly I'm not nervous nor scared   just very hopeful! for a very good outcome and anxious to put all this behind me soon enough     ....Waited so long for this.

Yes there is a numbing gel (xylacaine gel and others) that you can get from your doctor. Me personaly i would not even think of using it till maybe months post. Knowing of changes due to pain is important in the early healing stage. But the use should be between you and your doctor(s) Key to dilations is be comfortable, relaxed and lube.
Yes I used a lot of lube. I wanted it to be as pleasent as it could be so i heavy lubed the dilator and also inside to start.

Isabell

Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: JessicaNYCgirl on March 17, 2014, 05:57:01 PM
Quote from: mind is quiet now on March 13, 2014, 02:23:37 PM
Yes there is a numbing gel (xylacaine gel and others) that you can get from your doctor. Me personaly i would not even think of using it till maybe months post. Knowing of changes due to pain is important in the early healing stage. But the use should be between you and your doctor(s) Key to dilations is be comfortable, relaxed and lube.
Yes I used a lot of lube. I wanted it to be as pleasent as it could be so i heavy lubed the dilator and also inside to start.

Isabell

Isabel thank you!  i  too will use a lot of lube! hehe   
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: mrs izzy on March 17, 2014, 07:22:15 PM
So tomorrow is the big day. Again i wish you all the best and a speedy recovery.

Very soon another will be stepping on this side. Aftercare is daunting but the rewards are so well worth all the time and effort.

Hugs

Isabell
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: FrancisAnn on March 17, 2014, 08:11:57 PM
Good luck with everything & please post to let us all know how you feel after your surgery when you can.

Great for you!!!
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: Evolving Beauty on March 17, 2014, 09:17:23 PM
Don't be scared, all will be fine. *hugs* Happy Birthday in advance! :P
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: mrs izzy on March 19, 2014, 03:16:32 PM
Today you should be now a full day as a women

I hope everything has went with out issues. Each day it will start feeling better.

Hugs
Isabell

Edited to be political correctness. 
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: JessicaNYCgirl on March 20, 2014, 10:11:18 PM
Two days post op! i made it sisters! Took a  shower and i'm trying to walk..  it aches alot but pain is manageable,   will keep you sisters posted

love 

Jessica.
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: Vicky on March 20, 2014, 11:03:48 PM
A big welcome to THE OTHER SIDE!!  It was about this time I was up and walking too.  Sliding over the side of the bed frame to get up and walk is an experience only another Postie can fully appreciate.  You know what it is now.  Initiation to the sisterhood is complete.
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: 930310 on March 21, 2014, 03:14:23 AM
Quote from: JessicaNYCgirl on March 20, 2014, 10:11:18 PM
Two days post op! i made it sisters! Took a  shower and i'm trying to walk..  it aches alot but pain is manageable,   will keep you sisters posted

love 

Jessica.
Congratulations and I hope that you have a speedy recovery!
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: Jennygirl on March 21, 2014, 03:49:13 AM
Quote from: mind is quiet now on March 19, 2014, 03:16:32 PM
Today you should be now a full day as a women 100%.

I hope everything has went with out issues. Each day it will start feeling better.

Hugs
Isabell

Hi Isabell! I know you didn't mean any harm, but many people could find that statement hurtful... so please remember that physicality does not define one's complete gender.

Mostly I just want to make sure our non-op and pre-op sisters are included in the "100% woman" category where we all belong! ;)
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: FrancisAnn on March 21, 2014, 07:24:51 AM
It's so nice to see that your surgery went well. I'm sure you feel great & are so relieved to have a more normal body. Good luck on your recovery & slowly adjusting to your new vagina as it heals. All the best GF.
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: mrs izzy on March 21, 2014, 09:12:51 AM
Quote from: Jennygirl on March 21, 2014, 03:49:13 AM
Hi Isabell! I know you didn't mean any harm, but many people could find that statement hurtful... so please remember that physicality does not define one's complete gender.

Mostly I just want to make sure our non-op and pre-op sisters are included in the "100% woman" category where we all belong! ;)

I think you are way out of line on this . Sorry but it was ment as how hard she walked her path up to this point. And she deserves the fact that she has finish what she has walked. Last i looked this was in the sex ressigment surgery catagory.

I feel if you want to be the police then maybe this is not the job for you.

If you want to slap my hand do it in private and not in public. My 2 and a half cents worth
Isabell
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: mrs izzy on March 21, 2014, 10:13:57 AM
Quote from: JessicaNYCgirl on March 20, 2014, 10:11:18 PM
Two days post op! i made it sisters! Took a  shower and i'm trying to walk..  it aches alot but pain is manageable,   will keep you sisters posted

love 

Jessica.

Glad to see you trying to get up and around, and things have went well.

Isabell
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: 930310 on March 21, 2014, 12:38:44 PM
Quote from: mind is quiet now on March 21, 2014, 09:12:51 AM
I think you are way out of line on this . Sorry but it was ment as how hard she walked her path up to this point. And she deserves the fact that she has finish what she has walked. Last i looked this was in the sex ressigment surgery catagory.

I feel if you want to be the police then maybe this is not the job for you.

If you want to slap my hand do it in private and not in public. My 2 and a half cents worth
Isabell
That is your opinion and you are entitled to it, but I disagree. You wrote that you'll have to get surgery to be 100% woman and that is something that most people will react about. Jenny got approved to be a moderator and I bet that she has received some guidelines concerning what is acceptable and what isn't. If you can't accept that people will react about controversial statements you shouldn't be making them in the first place.
Title: Re: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: Jennygirl on March 21, 2014, 12:52:52 PM
Quote from: mind is quiet now on March 21, 2014, 09:12:51 AM
...maybe this is not the job for you.

Well that about made me cry.

Are you happy?

:(
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: Vicky on March 21, 2014, 06:04:11 PM
Let's keep track of the fact that this is Jessica's thread, and Jessica who is the object of the initial posts has just met one of her PERSONAL and for her attainable goals.  Any person who has attained their goal, has attained it whether the numbers were large ones or small ones.  My congratulations to Jessica are directed to her and her situation.  I was at her point in time a bit over a year ago, and again, she is the person being talked to and about just now.  No other person really matters here.  Others matter in their space, and for them the goal is different and their top number is also different.  Having a food fight with someone's birthday cake is tacky at best. 
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: mrs izzy on March 21, 2014, 06:22:16 PM
Quote from: Vicky on March 21, 2014, 06:04:11 PM
Let's keep track of the fact that this is Jessica's thread, and Jessica who is the object of the initial posts has just met one of her PERSONAL and for her attainable goals.  Any person who has attained their goal, has attained it whether the numbers were large ones or small ones.  My congratulations to Jessica are directed to her and her situation.  I was at her point in time a bit over a year ago, and again, she is the person being talked to and about just now.  No other person really matters here.  Others matter in their space, and for them the goal is different and their top number is also different.  Having a food fight with someone's birthday cake is tacky at best.

I agree with you Vicky,

My comments was in this forum ment for her only. She has did the time to deserve the fact she is a woman. If anyone has trouble with anything i write it should be done in private and not in a post to bolster there own agenda.

I have fought my fight to the end. I am proud when other do the same. Just i can not stand all the winning anymore.

Isabell
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: Jennygirl on March 22, 2014, 12:15:55 AM
Your response to me really hurt my feelings this morning, a lot :( I have been a moderator for less than 3 days, and I'm doing the best I can here for the good of all. I hope you can see that

I agree with Vicky, too. Back to Jessica's thread... OR ELSE ;) j/k
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: FrancisAnn on March 22, 2014, 03:29:21 AM
Really, this is about Jessica. Let's support her & put aside our differences, girl friends.

Jennygirl. Thank you for your help & time.
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: Nero on March 23, 2014, 07:10:24 PM
Not to derail any further, but I'd like to add that another member reported the post in question and Jennygirl was just trying to keep the peace.
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: JessicaNYCgirl on March 31, 2014, 11:20:23 AM
hey girls  I left  Arizona  with a chatherer on  because i guess due to swelling i couldn't pee right ... like only drops would fall when  i would try to pee   having a full bladder ,    ..I was pushing and kind of straining my self also  ....So  they  just put it back on i'll be taking it out in 6 days,   I'm  praying when i take it out again  i wont have issues peeing   ...Dilation are going ok   using  the # 1 clear curved dilator .. i think i have 5 1/2 of depth 


My right labia is more swollen than the right  and my mons area is super swollen 

Did  any of you girls had or know of any one who had to travel with the chatherer  and did yours or their peeing issues resolved? :angel:.
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: Stephanie2 on March 31, 2014, 01:03:27 PM
I hope that you are doing well from your surgery, Jessica! Let us know of the latest. Was sorry to hear of the urinary issue.

Hugs,
Stephanie
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: Vicky on March 31, 2014, 04:16:11 PM
My swelling in the urethral area was not severe enough to keep the catheter in, but I was a real mess down there whenever I took a leak for nearly three weeks, and still spraying up until nearly month 7.  The worst was the first month though.  I have heard of other girls, especially the U.S. ones who went to Thailand having to fly long distances with a catheter in, so while not desirable, not un-known and usually for no longer than a couple of weeks after surgery unless something is really wrong, which I doubt that will happen in your case.   
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: JessicaNYCgirl on March 31, 2014, 07:46:49 PM
lets hope so!   :angel:
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: Starla on April 02, 2014, 04:29:31 AM
This is kind of a personal question but I was just wondering about the results? I haven't seen many photos of Dr. Meltzer's work but am always reading rave reviews about him.

Are you satisfied with the result? I'm so jealous!
And happy for you of course
:-*
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: Renee on April 02, 2014, 05:01:41 PM
Congratulations! I'm a 4 Years Post-Op Meltzer patient.  Message me if you have any questions or issues you would like feedback.  Btw- Make sure you don't rush stage 2 until you are fully healed.  Also, eat a lot of Protein.  I was a vegan at the time and I think it really slowed my healing.  All good now, but it took way longer than expected to heal.  don't rush!  Good Luck!
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: JessicaNYCgirl on April 02, 2014, 07:09:44 PM
Quote from: Starla on April 02, 2014, 04:29:31 AM
This is kind of a personal question but I was just wondering about the results? I haven't seen many photos of Dr. Meltzer's work but am always reading rave reviews about him.

Are you satisfied with the result? I'm so jealous!
And happy for you of course
:-*

Thank you!  ...well i'm happy its all over and donr  but  its  too soon to make any assessment yet  .. but  swollen and all i think it looks Great  for a first stage and all!  ..i'm just annoyed with having a catheter  to pee. 

I hope i can pee normal or at least somewhat better than the first time around  when I couldn't (due to swelling) ...when i remove it this coming monday   :angel:

Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: JessicaNYCgirl on April 18, 2014, 11:39:57 AM
Well  here is a report on my recovery  I  pee normal now  a bit of spraying here and there but not all the time  there are  times  when its  normal straight stream  and there are others  when it  sprays some   i continue dilating  with #2 dilator  soon to change  to # 3  waiting on nurses response   i still see and have  Swelling  on the mons  area  hoping it goes away  fast   i think i have 5 inches of depth  i dilate with no problem  just hurts a bit when i hit the back of the vagina

today is my 1 month  anniversary since my surg.

oxoxo
Title: Re: 6 Days Left 'till my surgery!
Post by: Vicky on April 19, 2014, 02:31:22 AM
Happy Anniversary.  A wonderful report, you are coming along almost like what the doctor ordered!!  ;D