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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: CursedFireDean on March 14, 2014, 01:35:51 PM

Title: Passing when I least expected it
Post by: CursedFireDean on March 14, 2014, 01:35:51 PM
Since I am not on T yet, I've been taking birth control pills. Well I had to go pick up my refill today, and when I got to the pharmacy, I told them my very obviously female name to pick up my medicine for a clearly feminine thing.
And then the pharmacist said to me "What's her birthday?" (I don't know what this is even for, is it to confirm you're picking up the right person's prescription?)

I'm completely baffled. If she even saw me as male, she probably thought I was like 12 or 13, and yet she thought I was picking up someone else's prescription? And paying for it with a card?

I don't really care about her logic, but I'm happy that I passed XD I've been passing in strange situations recently.
Title: Re: Passing when I least expected it
Post by: aleon515 on March 14, 2014, 02:22:37 PM
Yeah the birthdate is confirming its the same person. Haha, well don't get your gf pregnant!! :)
Funny story.

--Jay
Title: Re: Passing when I least expected it
Post by: Chris R. on March 17, 2014, 09:12:07 AM
Haha, that's nice! I seem to pass in random situations as well. A few days ago someone who knew me as a female asked my mother if her "son was alright"!
Title: Re: Passing when I least expected it
Post by: GnomeKid on March 17, 2014, 10:20:25 AM
HAH!  I guess that takes some of the embarrassment away from picking up birth control (if you had any to begin with... I never took it, so I can't say if it'd be embarrassing or not I suppose). 
Title: Re: Passing when I least expected it
Post by: Arch on March 17, 2014, 10:34:46 AM
Shortly after starting T, I thought I had a yeast infection or something. My doc knew I would be mortified to have an exam, so he wrote me a prescription without finding out for sure. I think that was the time the pharmacy tech asked me, "What is this for?" I stammered a reply, something like, "Uh, er, a yeast infection." I was so stressed that I don't fully remember what happened. But it had to be that pickup because it's the only scrip I got for "female" stuff after I started T.

As it turns out, I was just going through hormonal changes and never even used the meds.
Title: Re: Passing when I least expected it
Post by: YBtheOutlaw on March 17, 2014, 03:23:52 PM
yeah that happens at weirdest moments. i don't know if you read the post i made sometime ago that i passed in my school uniform which is a dress! i just love it when my friends who are girls complain me that their parents questioned them last night 'who was that guy you were chatting with when i came to pick you?' 'your aunt said she saw you at the bus stop with a boy today. do we know him?' 'okay be honest, who was that guy you were walking with?' etc etc. and the only physical male attribute i currently have is my short hair and face inherited from dad. i don't even bind. yeah good stuff happens.
Title: Re: Passing when I least expected it
Post by: Adam (birkin) on March 17, 2014, 04:44:01 PM
That sort of thing is so weird, isn't it? Like, you don't pass when you think you really should - and then in the weirdest situations, you pass.

I remember, right before I started passing very regularly I was still having trouble. I was just over a year on T, so I was pretty frustrated as you can imagine...I also got a binding injury around the same time and couldn't bind. I was upset because I had to go buy sports bras at the mall to hold my chest, and all I had to go out in was this padded bra. So I angrily accepted that I'd be, yet again, seen as female.

So I'm walking and this guy at a kiosk stops me. He rubs this salt stuff on my hands and says, sounding somewhat surprised "they're so soft and small." I'm fully expecting him to give me some beauty regimen, but then he goes "I see that you shave. You might like our men's skin care line." So I let him show me the products and then the manager walks over from the other end of the mall. She starts showing me stuff and says "we don't get a lot of guys here, but we have products just for men too." And asking me if I have a girlfriend, etc.

Then I go to get the sports bras, and I have to try them on cause I have no idea if I am large, etc. So I go to the counter and tell the woman I'd like to try something on, she sees the bras and goes "Sure...oh, and just so you know, don't be embarrassed. I think everybody is normal!"

I'm thinking "what the actual f*" because I spent the last year on T, struggling to pass even a little, binding, being extra conscious about my clothes, etc. Then I go out in a PADDED BRA and get seen as unmistakably male.
Title: Re: Passing when I least expected it
Post by: dreaming.forever on March 19, 2014, 12:39:44 AM
OP: That's awesome you passed.

I started my new job today and when my boss was filling out a form that had my legal name, gender etc. on it, I actually had to correct him and say, "Well, legally, I'm still female." Awesome reaction: he said, "Oh, I didn't know you were female." (I had been sure that with my extremely girly legal name, etc that there was no way I'd pass.) Then he asked if I preferred to be known as male, and I was like, .... :o somebody in my ultra-conservative town actually gets it!! Then, I don't remember how he worded it, but he essentially said it was cool that I was transitioning (sounds weird to write it down; you sort of had to be there to get the tone of what he was saying).