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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: izzy on March 14, 2014, 06:48:47 PM

Title: Being gendered correctly by phone
Post by: izzy on March 14, 2014, 06:48:47 PM
This week when I was on the phone and did not mention my name, He called me mam. I almost always get gendered female until I tell them my  name and I have no voice training. Does this happen sometimes  to you gals.
Title: Re: Being gendered correctly by phone
Post by: Frostice on March 14, 2014, 07:26:16 PM
Never happened to me. We don't do that normally in Sweden. But mostly it happens that they are getting quiet a few sec at the other end of the phone when I mention my name.
Title: Re: Being gendered correctly by phone
Post by: FrancisAnn on March 14, 2014, 08:09:38 PM
That's funny, early in life I would get upset when I called & the other person identified me as female & I had to correct them I was male.

Now since older, most identify me as male over the phone, I smoked too many cigarettes I guess which was so stupid. Do Not Smoke GF's.
Title: Re: Being gendered correctly by phone
Post by: Just Shelly on March 14, 2014, 08:25:41 PM
Yes I got this many times early in my transition....even though I thought my voice stunk. The reason I would know is that when I answered they would always ask for him....back then I would have to say this is him....now when I get the few rare phone calls that ask for him, I just say he's not available.

It's funny because today I got one of those calls....I answered and they asked for him. I was a little surprised today since my voice is very hoarse from a chest cold so I wouldn't of been surprised if they asked if I was him right off.
Title: Re: Being gendered correctly by phone
Post by: Caitlyn on March 14, 2014, 08:31:50 PM
This happens to me very consistently. I'm usually gendered female on the phone unless the person on the other end has a reason to call me otherwise, like if I'm calling the electric company or something where they have my info already. It boosts my confidence a little bit each time it happens :)

I suppose I'm kind of lucky that I have a fairly high voice (high tenor, almost counter tenor). My friends have told me that I have a pretty gender neutral voice and that I shouldn't have anything to worry about in that department, well, unless I drop into my lower register, which does happen from time to time lol So as long as I'm mindful of that I should be good :)
Title: Re: Being gendered correctly by phone
Post by: Lady_Oracle on March 15, 2014, 01:48:10 AM
its pretty awesome the first few times you're gendered correctly... A nice confirmation that my hard work finally paid off with my voice training

My last awkward moment on the phone was when I had to cancel an appointment and the lady kept asking me if I was "his" gf. I repeatedly told her that I was the same person for the appointment and it just didnt register to her. So I ended up telling her I was trans and hadn't done the name change yet. Thus started the awkward phone silence that lasted for a few seconds which seemed like an eternity lol. She replied with an OH and finally canceled the appointment. I really can't wait to do my name change so these awkward moments stop happening..