Hello everyone! I'm not too active on these forums, read more than anything else. I was going to post this in another thread as a reply but decided to make a thread for it instead. About how we cope with transition/dysphoria
I started my transition about 5 years ago..Before that I was in massive self denial during my teenage years..I tried my hardest to live as a male. But it just wasn't working. I didn't want to be trans because I knew how hard this life is from the research I did when I was a lot younger.. Eventually It just got to the point where I couldn't function anymore in my life. The dysphoria just became so bad. I had to take a serious reevaluation of myself.
Being the introspective person I' am I decided to take the necessary steps to transition. At first things were a bit awkward but I kept having moments of bliss you know. Just that beautiful feeling that I was doing the right thing for myself, despite my heavy moments of doubt. That to me was everything at the time. And so as my transition went along, I started gradually feeling better. And the best moment was when I finally started hrt.. prehrt I worked my butt off to find my female look. I couldn't wait for the physical changes of hrt. I had to give myself the confidence that I could do this with or without hrt. It was one of the few personal tests that I would put myself through. Granted I didn't pass a 100% during that time but I didn't give a crap about that. It was about finding confidence and to be able to find some sort of peace... Coupled with reading as much as I could on trans stuff. I armed myself with information, which made me feel a lot better about my dysphoria. It was really difficult. So now that I'm just about two years shy on hrt and pass. My self acceptance is at an all time high.
Personal acceptance is something that comes with time with each step you take in transitioning in my opinion. Always do your best to look at the silver lining ya know. Don't let those pesky dysphoria monsters get the best of you..The biggest need though for anyone is a good support system, transitioning or not! Find those people that can be your foundation.
So basically to sum all of that up, that's how I coped. Just pushing on through with transition. Doing little things here and there that would give me small moments of peace. That would eventually lead to the healthy state of mind I'm in now. Eventually those moments add up in a good way.. :) Plus music is another major factor in my life that's helped guide my transition to be a bit easier, less stressful.
So everyone what do you personally do to cope with the woes of transition?
I try to live by the maxim "All will be well"... admittedly it's a the saying of DC Comic's Blue Lanterns corps but it really helps to calm me down when I feel a bit doubtful or panicked. It is the power of hope! :)
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Quote from: Ms Grace on March 15, 2014, 07:03:18 AM
I try to live by the maxim "All will be well"... admittedly it's a the saying of DC Comic's Blue Lanterns corps but it really helps to calm me down when I feel a bit doubtful or panicked. It is the power of hope! :)
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I'm a big comic book nerd! I always forget about the blue lantern corps, such an awesome theme HOPE! I think theres pink for love, black for death, red for rage and of course green for will. Am I missing any? :D
There's also yellow for fear and orange for greed. There's purple and white too but I can't remember what they're about...
OMG how I could forget yellow smh! lol like thats sinestro's corp..shame on me! Oh wow thats pretty awesome! Didnt know there was white. I guess its safe to assume by now that most colors have a lantern corp to them.