Has anyone had one of those moments where you're like: "damn, it feels good to be a guy!" or moments where you just feel like you fit in with the boys?
I'm still pre-transition but I have had moments after coming out that made me feel great, which one of them was getting a pack of boxer briefs for the first time and lounging out and sleeping in my boxers. It just felt good. ;D
Yep ;D
Sadly it never really happened to me, there's always someone or something that reminds me about my gender >:(
I usually feel like it's good to be guy, but rarely feel like I fit in anywhere. I have a couple of times though.
From time to time, someone will think I'm a guy due to my short hair and generally masculine presentation, even though I'm pre transition/not out. But the brief moment of celebration and fraternal acceptance always ends up turning into awkwardness because whoever I'm with will "correct" their pronouns, or the person will hear my voice and promptly "correct" themselves... and that's pretty embarrassing.
I do know what you mean, though. I'm just starting to wear men's boxers and I already love them. Not only gender affirming but waaay more comfortable than what I'm used to. Another key "manly moment" for me is using men's body products. I always feel amazing when I have a crisp, masculine scent :)
I get it all the time, now. I'm completely out at work (small, 4 employee shop) and all the customers that come in see me as male. Even the really hot guys ;) I'm absolutely thrilled to be a man. I no longer feel like I need to display myself like I did when I was passing as female. That kind of social pressure caused me all kinds of anxiety, since I do suffer from social anxiety disorder. I am free to be my funny, sarcastic, friendly self instead of having to put on a mask and trudge through the day. I look forward to waking up.
hah... I guess. I'm not one for "fitting in with the guys" in that "manly men" kind of way. I just don't share a lot of the same interests. If I'm with my brother and his friends (who are by default kind of my friends... from HS at least) I don't feel like the only girl in the room my any means, but I never did really. I guess I never saw "being one of the guys" as something to aspire to, though.
I don't like sports (especially not watching sports uck), I don't like sitting around talking about women's bodies (hell, i love women. I'm just more... reserved), I don't really like group "man" activities, so I generally feel awkward and out of place in those situations anyway - gender regardless. I feel most at home with my queers watching sit coms or drag race or planning our next theatrical venture. That is where I belong, and I wouldn't have it any other way.
Quote from: Cloudchamber on March 18, 2014, 08:20:02 AM
From time to time, someone will think I'm a guy due to my short hair and generally masculine presentation, even though I'm pre transition/not out. But the brief moment of celebration and fraternal acceptance always ends up turning into awkwardness because whoever I'm with will "correct" their pronouns, or the person will hear my voice and promptly "correct" themselves... and that's pretty embarrassing.
I do know what you mean, though. I'm just starting to wear men's boxers and I already love them. Not only gender affirming but waaay more comfortable than what I'm used to. Another key "manly moment" for me is using men's body products. I always feel amazing when I have a crisp, masculine scent :)
Yeah, I know how you feel. It's very embarrassing being reminded of your birth sex.
Boxers are a hell of a lot more comfortable than panties for sure and I like the smell of colognes more than perfumes, too.
Yeah, I have so much love for boxer briefs. Even before I realized I could be trans, I felt so good wearing boxer briefs and my brother's deodorant.
When I was younger I always got called a tomboy or a dyke for liking football, fishing, big trucks etc. but now I'm just one of the guys. Instead of hearing "ew, why are you talking about those things?!" my female friends roll their eyes and say "*sigh* men." and that's just an amazing feeling.
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The only thing I ever did that made me feel "manly" was working the grill.
It's definately a good feeling, I always hang with my boys at lunch everyone just sees me as me even the girls, All the girls be like you "Guys" are nasty or you "Guys" get on my nerves it feels great though I'm considered a guy by almost everyone in my school.
Being at work I'm reminded all the time and I love it. I truly am blessed to work in an artistic field. I'm about 90% stealth there. I returned to a studio I was previously at with a female name, but since returning people who didn't work there before have no idea and people who know don't say anything and it was like flipping a switch with those folk. I was Jack, end of story.
The moments I feel it most is in a group with just guys. The first time a conversation started that just proved that perceived girls are never really "one of the guys". You get the mental, childish, and, of course, crude comments; the playful slagging, and so on. It's that feeling of finally feeling like one of the guys in a real sense that was the most powerful for me. And when it's actually folk that know too, that's another moment of win.
I have been to some activities with gay men. This is a very trans friendly group and they know I am trans. I just find they don't care. I feel like one of the guys, which is fun.
--Jay
For me, it's walking around topless after a shower and wearing a towel only around my waist. (I recently had top surgery).
Whenever I'm watching MMA live on T.V. (especially the UFC Prelims), and I have a beverage in my hand, I feel so manly. Whenever I'm playing Moogoo Monkey on my GBA while listening to Helment (Milktoast) in the background, that makes me feel so manly.
I remember a vet technician who referred to me as "Mommy" with regard to my cat.
Now they call me "Daddy." Even though one of my cats is quite ill now, I noticed the "Daddy" reference yesterday and felt good.
Quote from: Cloudchamber on March 18, 2014, 08:20:02 AM
I do know what you mean, though. I'm just starting to wear men's boxers and I already love them. Not only gender affirming but waaay more comfortable than what I'm used to. Another key "manly moment" for me is using men's body products. I always feel amazing when I have a crisp, masculine scent :)
I do enjoy that masculine scent thing. My favorite of that type of experience is when my girlfriend or some female friend tells me I smell great, too :D
I also get those "damn it's great" moments when I get an affectionate punch to the arm or chest (pre-surgery but small-ish and binding) by some friend.
@ Darrin Scott: you lucky dog, I'm glad you're enjoying your results! I wear my towel that way too and get a similar feeling though it takes a bit of mind power to ignore some things, and I can't wait for the day I can do what you do :)
Quote from: TiffanyT on March 19, 2014, 02:02:42 AM
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The only thing I ever did that made me feel "manly" was working the grill.
I can only speak for myself but I say welcome :)
I do like working the grill, though my absolute favorite is building and cooking with campfires while out in the middle of nowhere.
I keep reading about things that make people feel particularly manly vs "dang this is great", and I'd have to say one of the things that make me feel EXTREMELY manly are when my girlfriend or a female friend look to me for protection/reassurance, i.e. in a sketchy part of town or late at night. I'm ready to do it too: I've always been of that mindset, but that others acknowledge and expect it from me (and trust that I'm capable of doing it) is an amazing feeling.
actually funny thing, today i went and got lunch at taco bell.
the cashier was a guy and i walked up, ( i've been on T for one month, my voice hasn't really done anything. but it ca sound more masculine.) but i just noticed how casual and calm the guy was. saying, what can i get for ya man?
and just being happy to serve me as a guy and not having to put on the polite oh it's a woman front. it felt awesome. even if subtle.
It took me ages to start passing even a tiny bit, but over the past month or so I've noticed that people tend to call me 'buddy' or 'mate' automatically and I haven't been called 'madam' for quite some time now. Which is absolutely brilliant. :)
But the best example of this happened two weeks ago: I had to use public transportation to see my top surgeon for my post-op review, and as I got off the final bus on my way home I thanked the driver... and he responded with the customary local male-to-male greeting of 'cheers mate!'. To have him say that on that specific day, immediately after I'd been medically cleared following top surgery, was wonderfully affirming and I walked home with a huge grin on my face.
The guy I sit next to at work has become one of my favourite people in the world because he just seems to get me. I'm not out at work or anything, they still think I'm a chick, but his guy always calls me 'man' or 'bro' and jokes around with me without worrying about offending me. Really makes me feel like one of the guys.
My other moment yesterday was when our washing machine stopped working and I decided to fix it myself. I had to move our drier out of the laundry and pull the machine out to check the pipes at the back. I couldn't have moved everything by myself 6 months ago, but I've been working out to try and put some muscle on my arms/shoulders. It was good to see that it's starting to pay off.
I was helping set up an art show at the elementary school and the art teachers daughter asked my sister "Are you his Sister" while pointing to me. She saw me as a guy. I seem to pass most with the little kids.
I'm not the most buff manly guy, but its always great when someone (always female) asks me to help them lift or carry something.
I feel ya bro! I remember one time when this guy came in and said "I need a few strong-backs to come help me with this heavy stuff" and he picked me right away xD Happy for ya dude
Quote from: Calder Smith on March 18, 2014, 01:21:12 AM
Has anyone had one of those moments where you're like: "damn, it feels good to be a guy!" or moments where you just feel like you fit in with the boys?
I'm still pre-transition but I have had moments after coming out that made me feel great, which one of them was getting a pack of boxer briefs for the first time and lounging out and sleeping in my boxers. It just felt good. ;D
Haha, same about the first time I ever bought a pack of boxer briefs. For some reason its buying underwear or similar things that can make me feel really good sometimes lol
About a month ago, I was at church and I was talking to two of my Sunday School students. We were in the kitchen and the door to the outside was open and a wasp came in. The girls got scared and quickly moved away while it flew next to my head, yet I didn't flinch. One of the girls just looked at me for a moment and was like "can I ask you something?" I said yes and she basically asked how did I not move when the wasp came near me and the other girl turned to her and said "because she has no fear"
While that statement isn't true, it still made me feel all manly.
My manly moment is probably of a slightly different nature. Many years before I transitioned I was in a strange place where I was trying to be semi feminine (I say semi because I was shaving my head and trying to get into powerlifting) and I was out with some friends. I was wearing a mini skirt and fishnets. One of my friends was walking behind me and she observed me for a bit and said, "You look like a man in a skirt. The way you walk seems very dude-like." That's probably the manliest I have ever felt haha. Like I could be wearing whatever and my manliness would still show through.
Now I don't notice my manly moments as much.
And now I also have a strange compulsion to go to a thrift store and get a miniskirt to show off my amazing quadriceps.
being sired at work lol it feels good until I open my mouth and they give me a confused look and realize oo this isnt a guy, I run around and load peoples cars for them at lowes, so alot of lifting heavy stuff, but it does feel good when they think i'm one of the guys
also my Pokemon boxers, yes I have a pair of boxers with charizard on them, yeah it makes me feel nerdy manly
I've had a few good moments so far. Also bought my self some boxer briefs and I love walking around the house in them. Also love when I use my stp and just slip it out the fly.
Also been getting mistaken for my husband if someone calls the cellphone for him. It's really awesome.
I've been lifting weights as well more recently and noticed I've got a ton more pulling power now in my upper body. I'll carry in all the groceries, or pick up and play with my kids more ect. Which before hand I had some pretty weak upper arm strength so seeing that change is great.
Quote from: BeefxCakethe cashier was a guy and i walked up, ( i've been on T for one month, my voice hasn't really done anything. but it ca sound more masculine.) but i just noticed how casual and calm the guy was. saying, what can i get for ya man?
and just being happy to serve me as a guy and not having to put on the polite oh it's a woman front. it felt awesome. even if subtle.
Yeah, this. I'm at the point where people read me as male a lot more, and they've mostly stopped "correcting" themselves.
I'm a loyal customer at one gas station where the clerk always calls me "sir." Fortunately, it's also the cheapest place around, because I looove going there. :P
Quote from: Ryan55 on May 11, 2014, 07:53:08 AM
also my Pokemon boxers, yes I have a pair of boxers with charizard on them, yeah it makes me feel nerdy manly
Where did you find Pokémon boxers?! I want ones with Totodile on them.
Quote from: ChrisRokk on May 11, 2014, 04:27:33 PM
Where did you find Pokémon boxers?! I want ones with Totodile on them.
I had powerup points from gamestop, so i used my points on their reward page and got myself charizard boxers
Quote from: Ryan55 on May 11, 2014, 07:45:53 PM
I had powerup points from gamestop, so i used my points on their reward page and got myself charizard boxers
Ah cool! I always forget GameStop has other stuff besides games. I used to have a set of fuzzy dice with PacMan and the ghosts from there.